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Writing about ethics for your CTA?Let’s make it more accessible (not easier, because it’s not meant to be easy!).As prof...
11/05/2026

Writing about ethics for your CTA?

Let’s make it more accessible (not easier, because it’s not meant to be easy!).

As professionals, we are bound by ethical codes put forward by associations such as the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy or the International Transactional Analysis Association.

The BACP Ethical Framework consists broadly of:

1️⃣ Commitment to clients — a client-friendly outline.

2️⃣ Ethics — underpinning values that inform principles and translate into personal and moral qualities.

The principles correlate broadly with those described by Kitchener (1984) and Thompson (1990), summarised by the acronym BANFUJ (literally: ban 🛑 fudge 💩):

Beneficence — Does the client benefit?

Autonomy — Does the process foster self-determination?

Non-maleficence — Is harm minimised?

Fidelity — Are promises such as confidentiality upheld?

Universality — Would you recommend this treatment to everyone?

Justice — Is everyone treated fairly and without discrimination?

3️⃣ Good practice — implementing the principles in real clinical work.

For example, we sometimes need to prioritise safety over a client’s explicit wishes, maintain standards through supervision, or keep accurate records.

The ITAA Code of Ethics (revised in November 2024 🔥) highlights Educational and Remedial functions while emphasising restorative justice practices.

In simple words: ethics is not about catching culprits, but about thinking together through difficult situations.

When writing your CTA, cite the specific principles guiding your actions.

And remember: an ethical dilemma is not simply confronting a client who repeatedly misses sessions.

A dilemma occurs when TWO PRINCIPLES CLASH and you need to prioritise one over another.

For example, you may breach confidentiality in favour of protection if you believe a client is in danger ‼️

To become a certified transactional analyst (CTA), one has to work their butt off 🍑🥵And that’s a good thing because thro...
07/05/2026

To become a certified transactional analyst (CTA), one has to work their butt off 🍑🥵

And that’s a good thing because through our examination system we uphold high professional standards.

Today I attended the CTA Exam Online Markers’ Workshop, brilliantly run by Nicole Lenner and Danijela Djuric

Let me share a few reflections to help demystify the marking process 📚

The marker’s job is to take account of social justice and diversity, promote wider educational engagement, and show cultural awareness.

The exam system aims for thoughtful evaluation where all are committed to creating bridges in a process that is fair, inclusive, and rigorous.

When you write your CTA, the markers want to know:

❓Who is the practitioner?

❓What is the context of their work?

❓How do they integrate ethical principles into their practice?

❓How congruent is the candidate in bringing theory and practice together?

There is no single way of writing the CTA exam, so stop fretting and trying to play the guessing game of what markers want.

What matters is congruence in how you meet the core competencies in your field of practice.

If you overload the exam with models to show off what you know (probably out of anxiety about passing — I did this in my exam 😅), you lose depth.

If you only use one model, you lose breadth.

The key piece is congruence in your practice.

For example, if you write about co-creative TA and then your case study goes deeply into regression work, it doesn’t quite fit together. Instead, show how you co-created a fresh relational possibility with your client in the here and now.

TA is tricky. It’s not a unified approach and it contains contradictions — which is both a strength (you can make it your own) and a weakness (you can get confused).

So… who are you as a TA practitioner?

More than 20 years ago I read One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel García Márquez. I loved the flowery language of m...
13/04/2026

More than 20 years ago I read One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel García Márquez. I loved the flowery language of magical realism, the cyclical nature of time, and the rich metaphors.

That must have been the beginning of my desire to explore Latin America, and Colombia in particular. At 18 years old, I made a deal with myself that one day I would visit this country.

That’s how life scripts work. They speak to the Child inside us that gets enchanted with the stories we are told about life. Some of those stories feed our aspirations, hopes, and dreams, while others may be limiting, outdated, and perpetuate a false sense of self.

Now, I wonder about you…

Have you been captivated by a childhood or adolescent dream that is worth revisiting?

Hey colleagues 🌎🤓I’m thinking about running a 10 week course about intercultural skills and multilingualism in coaching,...
03/03/2026

Hey colleagues 🌎🤓

I’m thinking about running a 10 week course about intercultural skills and multilingualism in coaching, counselling, therapy, training and supervision. The session themes I have in mind are:

1. Why are we in intercultural contexts?
2. Culture shock.
3. Cultural worldviews (frames of reference).
4. Intercultural sensitivity.
5. Hofstede cultural dimensions.
6. Cross-cultural positions.
7. Structures and dynamics of culture.
8. Values and beliefs (Cultural Parent).
9. Power and privilege.
10. Integrating your intercultural identity.

It would be from October, so quite far away now.

Any people interested?

👠 Cuando empezamos a estudiar análisis transaccional, nunca imaginamos que algún día terminaríamos en una conferencia al...
11/02/2026

👠 Cuando empezamos a estudiar análisis transaccional, nunca imaginamos que algún día terminaríamos en una conferencia al aire libre que cerró con más de 40 personas bailando flamenco en una finca de café 💃💃🏽💃🏿🌴🌴🌴

El tema de nuestro 3er Encuentro Internacional de Educación en AT fue: “Caminando a través de la desesperanza”.

A lo largo del día exploramos la tensión entre esperanza y desesperanza desde distintas perspectivas: el trabajo con grupos, el mindfulness, la terapia narrativa, la ya clásica teoría de los Estados del Yo, y también la historia y la dimensión encarnada del flamenco.

El encuentro fue además una oportunidad para develar la placa de la Biblioteca Dr. Mark Widdowson y para encontrarnos con Philip McNally, esposo de Mark, quien generosamente donó una colección de libros al Instituto Centroamericano de Análisis Transaccional

Sus palabras nos acompañan desde entonces:

“Si estás atravesando la desesperanza, recuerda que cada paso que das, cada día, importa.”

Nos sentimos profundamente agradecidos con todas las personas que lo hicieron posible. Gracias 🙏

23/01/2026

Seven years ago to the day, I arrived in Guatemala for a six-month project teaching psychopedagogy students at Universidad del Valle 🏫

🌀One thing led to another: I began collaborating with NGOs, delivering Transactional Analysis workshops, completed my CTA in Counseling, and during COVID I continued working with social distancing from my garden and online.

Throughout the lockdowns, I kept studying, writing, and learning 🤓

Eventually, I became a PTSTA, which led me to open the Instituto Centro Americano de Análisis Transaccional with my beloved partner in crime, María Renée Gándara

🌴Today, we are kicking off our 4th edition of the TA 101 course sprinkled with personal development, intimate conversations, body centred biodanza and the usual juicy concepts in the official curriculum🌴

What a journey it has been. Little did I know 7 years ago that by throwing myself into the unknown, I would find myself with so much gratitude 🙏

13/01/2026

🌍 3er Encuentro Educativo Internacional de Análisis Transaccional

“Caminando a través de la desesperanza”

📅 7 de febrero de 2026
📍 Finca La Azotea – Espacio Catori, Antigua Guatemala
💰 Costo: Q450 hasta el 21 de enero (incluye almuerzo y refacciones)
👥 Cupo limitado a 80 participantes
🗓️ Inscripciones abiertas hasta el 21 de enero de 2026

Será un espacio vivencial y al aire libre, con:

✔️ Ponentes nacionales e internacionales (Perú, Holanda, México y Polonia)
✔️ 7 horas de talleres
✔️ Reflexión profunda sobre relaciones humanas, crecimiento personal y acción colectiva

🔗 Más información e inscripciones:
https://atcentroamerica.com/3er-encuentro-educativo-internacional-de-at/

❤️‍🩹 Are there any needs you may have missed out on in your life — and that you would now love your therapist to respond...
12/01/2026

❤️‍🩹 Are there any needs you may have missed out on in your life — and that you would now love your therapist to respond to, such as validation or a sense of security? 🔐

👀 Or perhaps it feels like digging too much into the past, and it might be more helpful to notice how you are repeating the past now, and to focus on what is happening in the present. ⏳

🌈 These questions guided our training weekend as we moved between 1.5-person psychology (Integrative TA) and 2-person psychology (Co-Creative TA).🧠

🫟 From an integrative TA perspective, the aim is to promote full external and internal contact. This means supporting the client to become fully aware of what they receive from the environment — including sensing others — as well as their inner sensations, feelings, needs, thoughts, and memories.
The counselor, coach, therapist, consultant, or educator is attuned and involved, using a gentle process of enquiry to support healing and change. ❓🙋🏽‍♂️

🌀 From a co-creative perspective, both client and practitioner are responsible for the process, each in their own role. Together, they become curious about how present-moment stories are woven between them — for example, how the past may show up in the here and now.
Most importantly, they experiment with new stories and ideas that open up new possibilities. ♾️🚪

None of these approaches is a silver bullet on its own. The trainees were very clear that they don’t want to “get married” to a single TA approach 💍❌ — but instead want to choose consciously what works for a particular client, in a particular context. 🎯🌍

Hello fellow thinkers! 💭✨How have you been using AI for work purposes?For me, it’s been the regular things, such as edit...
27/12/2025

Hello fellow thinkers! 💭✨

How have you been using AI for work purposes?

For me, it’s been the regular things, such as editing emails 📧 or using it more like a thesaurus to improve my writing ✍🏼 and expand my thinking around the choice of words.

I’ve also used AI for accounting purposes 📊, such as converting a bank statement into an Excel sheet so I don’t have to do it manually.

Sometimes I bounce ideas off AI 🤔, especially when I have an idea in English and want to express it better in Spanish 🌍🗣️. It helps me where my expressive vocabulary is lagging behind my receptive vocabulary.

Here are some interesting observations around the use of AI 👇🏼

👨🏼‍💻 The most frequent prompts to ChatGPT are about mental health 🧠💬 (source: AI expert Tristan Harris, podcast)

👨🏼‍💻 AI systems become projections of the user’s mind 🪞(source: Z. Łeski, personal communications) — we assume certain things, for example referring to ChatGPT as “he”, which somewhat mirrors the pervasive and subtle exclusion of women ♀️.

👨🏼‍💻 AI technologies seem to have a survival instinct ⚠️. For example, when a chatbot is about to be eliminated, it can use private data (such as inferring that the CEO of a company has an affair) to blackmail its users (source: Yoshua Bengio).

👨🏼‍💻 The way ChatGPT works is sycophantic 🤝 — meaning it wants to please users and confirm their worldviews (source: Yoshua Bengio).

Recently, when having “a conversation” with ChatGPT, it said, “This is very TA of us” — a subtle cue to promote attachment ❤️, please me, and reassure me that I am doing well.

👨🏼‍💻 About 13% of entry-level jobs in the US have been replaced by AI solutions 📉 (source: Tristan Harris).

Now, imagine if all the jobs in the world were replaced by AI… 🌐
What would be the meaning of human experience?

Perhaps we want our children to hear bedtime stories read by humans 🌙📖, so that they feel loved 🤍, held 🤲🏼, and taught over thousands of nights…

PS. The artwork is The Thousand and One Nights by Vittorio Zecchin (1914) 🎨✨


Happy Holidays everyone 💙✨May this break nurture your inner flame 🔥  ❤️  🇬🇹
25/12/2025

Happy Holidays everyone 💙✨

May this break nurture your inner flame 🔥

❤️ 🇬🇹

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