04/03/2026
In my 30s, I’ve realized I don’t enjoy meeting people in groups. I crave one-on-one, heart-to-heart connections instead.
I’m blessed with many close friends, and what I cherish most is how unique and beautiful my bond is with each of them.
Those connections deserve presence, not noise and random banter.
In group settings, conversations often dissolve into small talk, rushed venting, or unprocessed trauma, without the space, time, or emotional safety to truly listen or help. Someone inevitably says something unnecessary or out of line, and the moment loses its sincerity.
I hate small talk. HATE IT!
I don’t enjoy rushed conversations or meeting just for the sake of meeting. I experience the JOMO.
When I meet you, I want to show up fully - physically, mentally, and spiritually. That’s why I prefer one-on-one plans, with intention, and a little notice. Two or three days helps me prepare to give you the best of me.
I also value my privacy deeply.
I don’t enjoy meeting random people, expanding circles for the sake of networking, or inviting unfamiliar energy into my home. I have friendships that could last me a lifetime, and I’m content with them.
I don’t meet people I know only online unless after a great deal of thought.
And always when there is a middle person I know and trust.
My 20s taught me an important lesson: not everyone who wants access to you deserves it. Some people carry negativity, poor character, or carelessness with trust. They turn vulnerability into gossip.
My inner circle is vast and beautiful, friends from school and university, relationships that span 25–30 years.
Time tested.
Heart known.
Trust earned.
Friends who have seen every version of me and loved, understood and supported me regardless.
And for that, I am deeply grateful.
🤲 May Almighty grant us discernment to protect our private lives, wisdom in choosing our companions, and friendships that bring us closer to Him and to our best selves - Ameen!
