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29/09/2026

#18487

"M-33

I feel like sharing this with a few others based on my real-life events. Something no one takes seriously in the initial period of married life can end up with a broken relationship. I am addressing my fellow men.

Every woman joins a new family with dreams and desires. Some are lucky to find the right family, and some are not. Some fight hard to make things right.

Right now, some men could be at the edge of giving up hope. My note is to them.

Most of the issues could get resolved within a day if we ask one question to our partner: Why are you silent? What is the issue? Why are you not talking to me?

Both male and female partners do this silent treatment when they don't want a lot of quarrelling and don't want to say words they may regret. The other partner never takes this seriously, and this could go on for weeks or months, leading to a slow separation in the mind.

Don't let this happen. If either of you is silent, their common expectation is to be asked, ""Why?"" Ask and listen. Understand this first lesson in married life.

When you are the firstborn child and you have a sister or brother, you may spend time with them building a business, planning trips, or doing something based on common interests that could keep the bond strong. But remember, once your younger brother gets married, he may not do that with you anymore. All the effort you put together to build a business, with the hope of joining in the future, or the time your wife sacrificed while leaving you alone, won't necessarily be valued just because you are the firstborn. Everything will be considered a responsibility.

He moves on to take care of his family, and the same happens with your sister. The priority you give most to your wife will be the base of the relationship during the initial years.

How your mom accepts your wife into the family is just based on how close you are to your mother. If your younger brother is closer, that's going to be a nightmare for your wife, same with your sister. Whatever good your wife does, those things will never be valued. Finding faults in everything she does can become part of her life.

Standing firm with your wife and drawing a boundary within six months is very important if you have a joint-family setup.

If she points out a fault about your mom, listen first without jumping between Earth and Moon. If she feels she is being treated badly by your mom, that means she feels she is being treated badly. You will get this understanding only when your younger brother or sister gets married and you see how your mother changes for them and their family just because of favoritism.

Prioritize your own family first—your wife, your kids, and their lives. Parents are important, but when someone doesn't like your wife, even though she makes so many sacrifices for the well-being of the family, don't leave your wife for your own family. They may treat you like passing clouds once you lose your wife for their ego.

If your wife is silent and doesn't talk to you, ask the simple question: Why? This could save your married life.

I still stay married and have seen a lot of rollercoaster rides. She stood with me, It took almost five years to understand.

Don't quit immediately. No one could be perfect. There is no second perfect person."

-Guy

29/09/2026

#18486

My bike met with an accident in mid-August. I got the bike back from the authorised service centre in the 2nd week of September after paying the full repair bill and then applied for reimbursement.

A surveyor was already assigned. When I was taking the bike from the service centre, he asked for some additional documents. The service centre shared the required documents, including the GST-added bill.

After 3 days, I called the surveyor and he confirmed that he had uploaded the documents and told me I could expect the reimbursement in around 2 weeks.

After 17 days, I called him again. He said he would check, but didn't get back to me.

I then contacted the insurance company directly, and they told me that the documents had still not been submitted by the surveyor.

When I questioned the surveyor about this, he said there was a mistake in the total amount on the bill, and that he had informed the service centre and was waiting for a corrected bill.

Now he says the service centre isn't answering his calls. This was on Friday/Saturday.
The service centre also isn't clearly explaining to me what exactly is wrong with the bill.
What should I do now? Should I escalate this directly with the insurance company or give the surveyor/service centre more time? Has anyone faced a similar situation with a motor insurance reimbursement claim?

-Guy

28/09/2026

#18485

"I was 27 in 2017, and at that time, my parents were looking at marriage alliances for me through matrimonial websites.

One person found my profile on Facebook and messaged me. After a few days, I replied to him. We started talking, and eventually, I shared my contact number with him.

Before taking things further, I wanted to know more about his job. I had a friend who was working in HR, so I asked my friend to check whether he was currently working for any company. My friend checked and found that he wasn't working for any company at that time. When I asked him about it, he said that he was doing freelance work. He later told me that the project he had been working on had ended and that he had lost that work.

Then he went for an interview. They told him that he had to pay a ₹30,000 deposit. He said that he didn't have the money, so I paid it for him. Even after that, he didn't get the job. Later, he went for another interview and eventually got a job.

Despite everything that had happened, I still wanted to give the relationship a chance. I booked his train ticket to come and meet my parents, and I also gave him cash to buy a dress for the meeting because he said he didn't have money.

When he finally met my parents, they didn't like him. My parents said no to the relationship, but I was firm about my decision. I became so determined to be with him that I stopped talking to my parents and even stopped eating properly. Since I was earning, I was able to take care of myself while staying in my parents' house.

But gradually, I also started taking responsibility for his expenses. He would tell me that the electricity bill needed to be paid, and I paid it three times, around ₹2,000 each time. Another time, he told me that he didn't have money to recharge the TV, so I paid for that too.

He had a father who wasn't working and a brother who wasn't working either. Slowly, I started realising that I might be making a very big mistake. Later, I came to know that his father had significant liabilities and had even sold their house because of those debts. By then, I was beginning to understand that the situation was much bigger than I had initially thought.

Later, he asked me for a passport because he had an opportunity to go abroad for an onsite assignment. I applied for the passport and even paid for the Tatkal processing because he said he needed it urgently. He eventually went abroad for the onsite opportunity.

After he went abroad, he suddenly blocked me. He told me that his family was fixing an alliance for him and that they wanted a ""good boy"" like him. His parents even called my parents and told them to ask me not to disturb him.

I was completely shocked and confused. Then, suddenly, one day, he messaged me again. He told me that they had done all of this deliberately so that my parents would become scared and finally agree to let me marry him.

I remember thinking, ""What?""

At that point, I didn't know what to believe anymore. Looking back, I can see how the situation unfolded step by step. I had started by simply getting to know someone for marriage. But gradually, I was paying his expenses, helping him financially, supporting his career opportunities, and even going against my parents because I believed in the relationship.

Eventually, I got married to someone else, as my parents had wished. Today, I am happy in my marriage. I had also been honest with my husband about my past and told him everything.

When I told him the whole story, he started laughing and said, ""I thought you were brainy!""

Honestly, I couldn't even argue with him. Looking back at everything I did in 2017, even I sometimes wonder what I was thinking.

But I also understand that I was 27, emotionally involved, and convinced that I was fighting for love. At that time, I didn't have the clarity I have today. It was a painful lesson, but it taught me a lot about boundaries, money, trust, and the importance of listening when the people who genuinely care about you are trying to warn you."

-Girl

28/09/2026

#18484

"Admin, I really appreciate the effort you are making to help people with opportunities and emotional support. I have a small request. 😊

Could we start some initiative to help women restart their careers after maternity and caregiving breaks? May be once in a month or some event which connects real talent and opportunities..

I am one such woman. I consciously chose to dedicate these two years completely to my little one.

I wanted to be there for my child until he was ready to start playschool. That was my choice, and I don't regret it.

I also didn't want to put the responsibility of raising my child on my parents or in-laws. They have done their duties, and they deserve their own time and rest. My husband and I wanted to take that responsibility ourselves.

So yes, I took a career break deliberately. Not because I stopped being ambitious, but because for those two years, my family was my priority.

And now that my little one is ready for playschool, I'm ready to get back to work too. 😊

The funny thing is, a two-year gap can sometimes make people question everything you've done before it! 😅

Maternity doesn't make a woman less capable. If anything, it gives you a crash course in patience, multitasking, negotiation, crisis management and dealing with the world's most unpredictable stakeholder—a toddler! 😂

So my request to employers and HR professionals is simple: please don't judge a woman's calibre by the gap on her resume. Give her a chance to demonstrate what she can do better than others because she is longing to prove herself unlike other employees..

While this group may not have opportunities that directly match my profile, I genuinely feel such an initiative could help someone who is really in need of a way back.

And okay… let me sneak in a tiny bit about myself too 😄 — just for reference, my background is in Robotics, IoT, Embedded Systems, Technical Training, Curriculum Architecture and Instructional Design.

I've worked across the complete course lifecycle for international learners, from ideation and curriculum architecture to learning design, content development, hands-on projects, instructor resources, delivery and continuous improvement, with 3,000+ hands-on learning sessions.

So that's me—just putting a little context behind the career gap. 😊

Maybe a career break deserves a comma, not a full stop. ❤️"

-Girl

28/09/2026

#18483

M34, I Don't had own house, earning 35k monthly. I married my distance relative girl in last September 2025. I was expected happy life, kids like everybody else, already my marriage is late, my other friends kids are going to school. I asked her for plan baby first but she said u don't have any savings or own house, let's postpone for 2 years. Later I decided it's okay. Later she started insult me for low income, no house. I said u know all things, then why u blaming me now. She said my uncle, he is marriage broker, who told to her my bro house, shared patta on my name & bro later I am earning 65k, so only she married to me. I don't have idea or she & her family didn't asked me anything before marriage. After marriage only, I revealed both when they asked. We had physical for 1 week, later she knows about my financial strength, she started avoiding me. She speaking nice with everyone but avoiding myself. It's started fight, ego clash. On December she left to her mom house, still not returned. I tried reconciliation 3 to 4 attempts, it's failed. We not talked or seen each other last 6 months. I think this marriage is broken, please suggest me what to do

-Guy

28/09/2026

#18482

M26, I saw one confession regarding a guy waking up another guy on shared pg who snores a lot. I think that ba*du is my roommate only.

Everyday he drinks alcohol come to room around 10pm. Room fulla it will smell alcohol and cigarette, we even complained our pg in charge, he says men pg na ipdi dhaan.

We started adjusting. Only he sleeps well because he snores. Others like me and other two students are highly affected. Inga vandhu he has confessed as yogiyan and I am waking him up.

-Guy

28/09/2026

#18481

"Hi all,

I’m 24M years old, and I don’t have my parents with me. I’m living on my own and preparing for competitive exams, trying to build a better future for myself.

But honestly, being alone and going through everything by myself is becoming really difficult.

Sometimes I ask myself — Who am I doing all this for? Why am I studying so hard? If I finally get a job, who will I be able to share my first salary with? Who will I tell when I achieve something I’ve worked so hard for?

There are so many questions in my mind, and I don’t have answers for all of them.

I’m trying to stay strong, keep studying, and keep moving forward… but sometimes I feel completely lost.

I don’t know what the future holds or whether life will always feel this lonely.

I just hope that one day, all these struggles will have a meaning."

-Guy

28/09/2026

#18480

"Makkale veliya job market epdi iruku. Yara ketalum layoffs , cost cutting, no interview calls nu soldranga.
I was planning to search jobs from November or December.
MEAN / MERN stack ethachum kidaikuma for 10+ exp"

-Guy

28/09/2026

#18479

"Need ur suggestions

My project is going to end in some weeks. So i'll be moved to bench. 2days to office will be changed to 5 days , if i moved to bench. Meanwhile my wife is pregnant and expecting baby by first week of DEC (High chances for earlier delivery). Due to Gestational diabetes and some pregnancy risk, I wanted to be with her. So raised WFH request to HR based on the medical documents.
They are saying only they can give WFH two weeks before to the delivery date. and asking to take leaves or LOP if needed. Even after submitting the proper medical reports. Employee wellness nu pakkam pakkama pesranunga but reality la no.
Don't know how to take it further.
"

-Guy

28/09/2026

#18478

"Anonymous Confession 34

I’m a mother of two. My elder daughter is around three years old, and my younger one is just four months old.

A couple of years ago, I had to quit my job because I simply couldn’t manage everything. Raising children, managing the house, and trying to keep up with everything became overwhelming. Since then, I’ve been at my native place.

My husband works from home and has been extremely supportive. We are also currently building our house, and he is taking care of many of the responsibilities. I’m grateful for that support.

But life has become much more difficult recently.

Around six months ago, my mother suffered a brain stroke and became bedridden. Seeing my mother in that condition has been extremely painful. At the same time, I’m trying to manage a toddler and a four-month-old baby.

There are days when I feel like I’m failing everywhere.

I want to be there for my children.
I want to support my mother.
I want to be a good wife and daughter.
But somewhere, I also feel that I have lost myself.

One of the things that hurts me the most is that I’m currently not financially independent. I want to support my mother financially, but I’m not in a position to do that right now.

Sometimes I keep asking myself:

How do I restart my career after taking a break?
Can I actually build a career again while raising two young children?
Should I look for a work-from-home or part-time job?
Should I learn a new skill and move into a different field?
Are there any genuine opportunities for women returning to work after a career break?
Can I start something small from home and gradually build it into an income source?

I also keep thinking about the future. My children will grow up, life will change, and I don’t want to reach that point feeling that I completely lost my professional identity.

I’m not looking for sympathy.

I’m genuinely looking for practical advice from women who have gone through something similar.

If you had a career break because of children or family responsibilities and successfully restarted your career, how did you do it?

What worked for you?
What mistakes should I avoid?
What skills are worth learning today?
What kind of work can realistically be managed with two small children?

I feel stuck right now, but I also know that I need to start somewhere.

Maybe this is not the end of my career. Maybe it’s just the beginning of a different chapter.

If you have been through this journey, please share your experience. It might genuinely help someone like me find a way forward. "

-Girl

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