04/06/2020
General Recommendations for
Self-Confidence
We are a unique individual with unique circumstances, so the exact recipe for turning our life around is a mystery to me.
Some threads that have been true and consistent over a long enough span of human history can make some educated guesses, though.
A) Get healthier
No specific recommendations here. But if our body doesn’t feel good it’s hard for you to feel good.
And the process of getting healthier is (obviously) no easy feat, but it’s so worthwhile that repeating it 37459684032406 times is okay.
B) Find a hobby or side gig outside of our 9 to 5
I don’t know what it is. There’s just something about working on our “evil plan” that makes us feel really good about ourself. Making things makes us feel better.
When we have this little evil project we are working on, pls “Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually.”
we begin to create that “I’m going places” vibe. Keep stacking those little habits on top of one another — fitness, business, self-improvement, getting out of the house, and all of a sudden we are well rounded and confident.
A core, almost permanent confidence, will develop after we have so many well-oiled machines operating at once. Following through on a mission is quite a deep level of core confidence to build. Having some little hobby or business to call our own gives a sense of agency and purpose that’s hard to build elsewhere. I’ve gone over this process several times, but it’s important nonetheless.
C) Double-Down on our Strengths and Mitigate our Weaknesses
I used to think doubling-down on our strengths was the only thing you needed to do. But, working on our weaknesses is important too.
Don’t get pigeonholed into identities just because they help we stay in our shell. You’re a natural introvert? That’s no excuse to stay at home and build on social skills.Even if we are not extremely organized, that doesn’t mean we can’t develop habits and routines to stay organized.
Outside of things like becoming a professional athlete, almost all skills and traits can be learned. It’ll just take us longer to learn certain skills and traits than it might for others. Oh well, what are we going to do about it
The Bottom Line
Lately, my work has been focusing on the difference between what’s true and what we want to believe.
I don’t always get it right — and I’m always willing to revise my option — but for now, the path to a permanently confident ‘you’ seems to involve taking responsibility for yourself no matter what.
Even if your lack of confidence isn’t all our fault, you can’t wait on someone or something else to fix it for you because that will never happen.
It’s on us, but fortunately, we are much more capable than we know.
Like, way more.
The good news? Confidence is all in our mind.
The bad news? Confidence is all in our mind.
The psychological world runs much deeper than the material world. In many ways, it dictates the material world.
Your life is mostly a self-fulfilling prophecy based on your reactions to the experiences you’ve had in your life.
Can you change our life? Yes. by bhal patankar Rohan Kundekar
