Kritaggya

22/10/2024

Transformation doesn't begin in comfort, nor does it culminate there. It starts in the pit of despair, where you have only two choices. Either you succumb to it and remain a victim of your circumstances, or ask yourself a question—If not this, then what?

18/10/2024

*Everyone knew what I had done.* 😛

I guess it could have been my 3rd or 4th birthday. I'm not sure though. A day, as I remember, as slow as a sloth.

I have no idea how that day went by. But....

What I remember is the late evening.
That is when we had a visitor. A visitor who brought a chocolate for me, only for me, because that was my bday. 😄(That's what I understood)
I still remember I was bubbling with joy. It just reminded me that it was indeed my special day. 🧚‍♀️ What else could a little girl want. Right?

This visitor was my uncle, my dad's younger brother whom I used to call chachaji. He quietly gave me that chocolate, and told me "This is for you. GO eat. And don't share it with anyone"

(Now, when I look back at that, it was so regular to be told to a child, but for that little child it was as if she was on top of the world). 🥰
So, very obediently, carefully, to not be caught with that dear chocolate of mine, I went and hid on my balcony and opened that chocolate. It was totally melted, but that didn't matter.
What mattered was that it was for me. And I was special.

10/10/2024

In the last few weeks, I have had the privilege to speak to so many parents to understand their parenting struggles. And I want to express my deep gratitude to them for sparing precious minutes or even hours from their lives, in some cases, to support this.😊🙏

Even though I'm aware of how challenging it can be to parent pre-teens and teens, these talks have been hugely insightful for me regarding the pain points that have been giving them sleepless nights.

And, to be honest it wasn't surprising that more than 80% of parents I spoke to were having a tough time helping their kids manage their screen time. Especially because pre-teens and teens are not the phases when having parental control on devices will work.

Being aware how this is connected to everything else in parenting, I feel driven to meet you guys with my first *Free Masterclass - Freedom From Screens*

In this Masterclass, we will be discussing a 5 Part Framework to learn how you can support and guide your child in navigating this difficult time of Screen Invasion.

(This Masterclass is a compact version of our 3 day workshop.)

What we will cover-

1. The reason behind screen addiction,
2. When should we be worried and,
3. The way forward.

If you are looking for support and also want to learn how to best support your kids through Screen Time, Join me on 13th October, 12:30 pm.

Register at the link below.

https://forms.gle/fs1XzmTzidWzXywW6

03/10/2024

Hey, can you do me a favor?

Wanting to help struggling Parents of teens and tweens to move from ugly confrontations or silent treatment in your homes, to peaceful conversations and collaboration.

Drop a "ME" or 🙋‍♀️or DM if you’d be willing to chat with me for 15 minutes this week.

No pitch. This is to see if what I believe a parent of a tween or teen needs is on point.

As a thank you, I’d love to offer you a FREE 30-minute Strategy call with me that you can schedule for any available day in October 2024.

Simply drop in a "ME" or 🙋‍♀️ in the comments or DM me and I'll connect with you. ❤️

02/01/2024

16/11/2023

How often do you practice consent or permission with your children? How many times have you asked your child to hug someone they don't want to hug in that moment Or to spend time with someone whom they don't wish to spend time with, or have forced affection on your child even when your child shows his/her displeasure. Many adults feel this is ok because they have the right over children. If a child shows displeasure over unwanted affection or abuse and the adult/parent shows that they don't have the right to say No, you set a precedent for your child telling them how NOT OK it is to say NO, leaving them with no body autonomy. You are telling them that their body is not theirs and they have no right to refuse or say No.

If you don't practice consent when the stakes are low, how do you expect them to use these skills when the stakes are high?

Be mindful of the ways you may be crossing your child's physical or emotional boundaries and show them their choice matters.

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12/11/2023

On this auspicious occasion of Diwali pledge to , and for things that are beyond self and for the greater good of all.
Happy Diwali!!!

27/09/2023

A child's safety is solely the responsibility of the adult and never the child. While it is important to empower our children with safe boundaries, it is imperative for adults, parents, caregivers to prepare themselves with the ability to understand the red flags, have difficult conversations with children and protect them.

Our workshop, "Safety Strategies for Parents" offers safety tips for parents, caregivers and educators of children above 2 years to wade through the topics of safety, red flags, boundaries and consent with their children.

If you wish to have a session conducted for your school, parent groups or organization, you may reach us on 9818299714 to know more. Kritaggya

28/07/2023

Making a decision will always be life altering. When you take a decision it takes you on a specific path in your life, either continuing on the path you are on or altering it completely. Either ways it lays a foundation to your life ahead. No action is without a consequence. That is why it is important to understand the impact you desire and the impact that choice will have on our lives.
If you want to effectively make a choice it is important for you to weigh the options and its pros and cons before you take that step.

Here's my 7- Steps to Effective Decision Making:

1. What is your final goal?
2. List the pros and cons of Choice 1.
3. List the pros and cons of Choice 2.
4. Weigh the list and list the most important pros in the order of decreasing importance.
5. Weigh the list and list the most important cons in the order of decreasing importance.
6. Weigh the pros and cons. Remember you can never have it all. Life is a tradeoff, you will gain some and you will lose some.
7. Imagine your future with those choices and you will know which one takes you closer to your goal. Make a choice.

Feelings and emotions can be a part of decision making process but cannot be solely based on it. A emotional decision will keep altering as the mood or the emotions swing. But they can definitely be a part of, a factor in decision making. Logical decision making taking into consideration facts as well as emotions can stand the ground for longer as it has a tangible goal in mind.

25/07/2023

"No matter the problem, kindness is always the right response. When your child is having a problem, stop, listen, then respond to the need, not the behaviour.
The behaviour can be addressed later, after the need has been met, because only then is the door to effective communication truly open". - L R Knost

10/07/2023

We teach our children about habits and discipline, but how many of us really understand the value and the impact of it? How many times have we let a bad habit slide. Or let a little bit of indiscipline slide "just for a day".
Just like money, habits compound over time, it is not a transformation that happens overnight. Neither is it evident each day, but it impacts our life, months or years down the line.
Habits followed-through in succession, each day take us closer to our GOAL, one step at a time. And a single deviation, a single slide, takes us one step back. And the impact of this is very difficult to understand when we are in the moment, giving in to that little temptation.
Just the one time to let go of the diet,
Just the one time to skip the excercise,
Just the one time to skip that meeting,
Just the one time to binge watch,
Just the one time for social media surfing,
Just the one time to skip family time.

There are many skips we end up doing, ignoring the impact each action has on our lives. If we understand how each action will take us either forward or backward, we can make a conscious choice of the action.

Tracking your habits each day can help in being conscious of the choices that you make, and also gives a number to how many times you have deviated, making it more tangible.
Where we are today is the result of a compounded habit we have adhered to, if you are happy about it, stick to it. If not, its time to look at it to change, and devise a habit to take it where you would want it be.

Remember, "All things come from small beginnings. The seed of every habit is a single, tiny decision"- James Clear

16/06/2023

Are you punishing your child for their misbehaviour?
Remember punishment and rewards are not effective in the long term and in fact negatively impact-
* self-regulation,
* self motivation, and
* family relationships.

It re-emphasizes the child's belief that they don't belong and could create either resentment, rebellion, revenge or retreat in the child's mind.

So the next time you feel like you are at your wit's end, try to understand the reason behind your kid's misbehaviour because a misbehaving child is often a discouraged child and needs nothing more than encouragement to escape the thoughts that run in their minds .