13/07/2026
RAISING CHILDREN WITH WISDOM, POWER, CHARACTER & DESTINY*
A Foundational Charge to Parents
By Apostle John Oladeji
*🔥 INTRODUCTION: CHILDREN ARE NOT JUST BORN THEY ARE BUILT*
Children are not raised accidentally.
They are shaped intentionally.
A child left to chance may become a victim of culture, peer pressure, confusion, and corruption.
But a child raised with wisdom, discipline, spiritual depth, and righteous standards becomes a weapon in God’s hand and a light in a dark generation.
Many parents provide food, clothes, and school fees, yet fail to build:
➡️ Character
➡️ Wisdom
➡️ Conviction
➡️ Discipline
➡️ Spiritual consciousness
➡️ Destiny awareness
👉A child can be educated and still be destroyed.
👉A child can be talented and still lack direction.
👉A child can be exposed and still lack values.
The greatest inheritance is not money alone it is:
➡️ Wisdom
➡️ Godliness
➡️ Discipline
➡️ Identity
➡️ Spiritual heritage
➡️ Moral excellence
The assignment of parenting is beyond survival.
It is destiny formation.
🔥 *1. BUILD THE FOUNDATION EARLY*
📖 Proverbs 22:6 (NKJV)
_“Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.”_
✅Children are easiest to shape when they are young.
✅What enters them early becomes difficult to remove later.
The foundation years determine:
➡️ Speech patterns
➡️ Emotional intelligence
➡️ Moral sensitivity
➡️ Spiritual consciousness
➡️ Behavioral culture
➡️ Confidence and identity
A child without foundation becomes vulnerable to:
❌ Rebellion
❌ Peer pressure
❌ Addiction
❌ Moral collapse
❌ Spiritual emptiness
🔥 *BASIC FOUNDATIONS EVERY CHILD MUST RECEIVE*
✅ Teach Them:
🙏 Respect
🙏 Truthfulness
🙏 Cleanliness
🙏 Honor
🙏 Kindness
🙏 Gratitude
🙏 Discipline
🙏 Prayer
🙏 Responsibility
🙏 Self-control
❌ Never Normalize:
🏴☠️ Lying
🏴☠️ Rudeness
🏴☠️ Laziness
🏴☠️ Insults
🏴☠️ Stealing
🏴☠️ Manipulation
🏴☠️ Vulgar speech
🏴☠️ Disobedience
🏴☠️ Mockery of elders
🏴☠️ Pride
What parents clap for in private may later become society’s problem in public.
*🔥 2. SPIRITUAL IMPACT: CHILDREN MUST KNOW GOD*
A child trained only intellectually but not spiritually is incomplete.
📖 Deuteronomy 6:6–7 (NKJV)
_“And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children…”_
God never intended spiritual training to be outsourced completely.
The home is the first church.
Parents are the first pastors.
🔥 *WHAT CHILDREN MUST LEARN SPIRITUALLY*
✨ Teach Them:
✅ How to pray
✅ How to worship
✅ How to read Scripture
✅ How to fear God
✅ How to discern right from wrong
✅ How to hear godly counsel
✅ How to love righteousness
Do not wait until destruction comes before introducing spirituality.
A child who grows in God develops:
👍 Conviction
👍 Purity
👍 Discernment
👍 Wisdom
👍 Inner strength
📖 Biblical Examples
🔹 Hannah & Samuel
Hannah raised Samuel in consecration before God.
🔹 Lois & Eunice
Lois and Eunice transmitted sincere faith into Timothy.
🔹 Abraham
God testified concerning Abraham:
📖 Genesis 18:19 (NKJV)
_“For I have known him, in order that he may command his children and his household after him…”_
He led his household intentionally.
*🔥 3. TEACH WISDOM DAILY NOT OCCASIONALLY*
Wisdom is not transferred once.
It is cultivated daily.
📖 Proverbs 4:7 (NKJV)
_“Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom.”_
A wise child avoids unnecessary destruction.
🔥 PRACTICAL WISDOM PARENTS MUST TEACH
📌 Relationship Wisdom
👉 Not every friend is healthy
👉 Character matters more than appearance
👉 Avoid bad company
📖 1 Corinthians 15:33
_“Evil company corrupts good habits.”_
📌 Financial Wisdom
Teach them:
✅ Saving
✅ Contentment
✅ Honesty
✅ Avoiding wastefulness
✅ Value of hard work
Children must learn:
Money is a tool not a god.
📌 Speech Wisdom
Teach them:
✅ Tone matters
✅ Words can heal or destroy
✅ Silence can be wisdom
📖 Proverbs 18:21
_“Death and life are in the power of the tongue…”_
📌 Time Wisdom
Teach them:
✅ Punctuality
✅ Focus
✅ Productivity
✅ Avoiding laziness
*🔥 4. CHARACTER FORMATION IS NON-NEGOTIABLE*
➡️Talent without character becomes danger.
➡️Power without character becomes corruption.
➡️Success without character becomes destruction.
God is more interested in who a child becomes than what a child achieves.
🔥 *CHARACTER TRAITS EVERY CHILD MUST DEVELOP*
✴️MUST HAVE
✅ Integrity
✅ Humility
✅ Honor
✅ Compassion
✅ Obedience
✅ Accountability
✅ Patience
✅ Courage
✅ Self-control
❌ MUST NEVER BE TOLERATED
🏴☠️ Dishonesty
🏴☠️ Entitlement
🏴☠️ Disrespect
🏴☠️ Violence
🏴☠️ Arrogance
🏴☠️ Manipulation
🏴☠️ Bitterness
🏴☠️ Vulgarity
🏴☠️ Addiction to pleasure
Correction is not hatred.
Discipline is proof of love.
📖 Hebrews 12:6
_“For whom the Lord loves He chastens…”_
*🔥 5. LIVE BY STANDARD CHILDREN COPY MORE THAN THEY LISTEN*
❌Children rarely become what parents say.
👍They often become what parents consistently do.
👉If parents lie freely, children learn hypocrisy.
👉If parents dishonor people, children absorb arrogance.
👉If parents are prayerless, children become spiritually empty.
📖 Matthew 5:16
_“Let your light so shine before men…”_
Parents must model:
✅ Integrity
✅ Prayer
✅ Purity
✅ Respect
✅ Discipline
✅ Love
✅ Excellence
A house without standards eventually becomes chaotic.
*🔥 6. SHAPING DESTINY CONSCIOUSNESS*
Children must know they were born for purpose.
A child without destiny awareness can waste years in confusion.
🔥 WHAT IS DESTINY?
Destiny is:
👉 God’s ordained purpose for a life
👉 The reason for existence
👉 Divine assignment wrapped inside a human vessel
Children must learn:
_“You were not born accidentally.”_
📖 Jeremiah 1:5
_“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you…”_
*🔥 HOW TO SHAPE A CHILD’S DESTINY*
✨ Help Them Discover:
✅ Their gifts
✅ Their strengths
✅ Their passions
✅ Their uniqueness
✨ Speak Life Into Them
Never use destructive words carelessly.
Some children are broken more by words than by circumstances.
❌ Avoid:
“You are useless.”
“You can never succeed.”
“You are a failure.”
✅ Speak:
“You carry greatness.”
“You are disciplined.”
“You will fulfill purpose.”
“God’s hand is upon you.”
*🔥 7. CREATE A GODLY ATMOSPHERE AT HOME*
Atmospheres shape souls.
A home full of:
🏴☠️ shouting,
🏴☠️ insults,
🏴☠️ chaos,
🏴☠️ immorality,
🏴☠️ bitterness,
🏴☠️ and violence
can damage children deeply.
But a home filled with:
✅ prayer,
✅ peace,
✅ wisdom,
✅ order,
✅ love,
✅ and honor
produces stability.
*🔥 8. THE DANGER OF ABSENT PARENTING*
Many children today are being raised by:
❌ social media,
❌ ungodly trends,
❌ internet culture,
❌ celebrities,
❌ and peer influence.
Parents must be emotionally present.
Not just providers builders.
🔥 FINAL CHARGE TO PARENTS
Parenting is ministry.
Raising children is kingdom work.
The goal is not merely to raise rich children.
The goal is to raise:
✅ wise children,
✅ disciplined children,
✅ spiritually sound children,
✅ responsible children,
✅ impactful children,
✅ destiny-conscious children.
📖 Psalm 127:3
_“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord…”_
Children are seeds of tomorrow.
Whatever is planted into them today will speak loudly in future generations.
🔥 PROPHETIC DECLARATION FOR PARENTS
May your children:
✴️ walk in wisdom,
✴️ carry divine character,
✴️ fear God genuinely,
✴️ reject corruption,
✴️ fulfill destiny,
✴️ become lights in their generation,
✴️ and bring honor to your household in Jesus’ Name.
Amen.
