01/09/2021
TIPS FOR MEN ON HOW TO APPROACH A WOMAN
1. Have confidence; not pride. Confidence is attractive, women detest pride
2. Women are visual too, look good; it doesn't have to be an expensive look, but look neat and attractive
3. Have a good-looking profile picture on social media. It shows how you view yourself. Having a picture not your own makes a woman question you
4. Post mature things on Facebook/Twitter; yes, women do research on a man who is presenting himself to her. Your posts could be wise quotes, posts on serious issues, humor, travels, fun; but they should be mature. Your posts reveal who you are and what occupies your mind most
5. Avoid compliments diarrhea, avoid commenting flattering words on so many of her pictures yet you do don't know each other well. When compliments are overdone by a stranger it can be spooky. Don't overdo it. Don't claim you love her yet you don't even know her. Get a hold of your excitement
6. Request for her phone number, don't demand it. If you have captured her attention, chances are, she will eventually give you her phone number; give her time
7. Make use of her phone number. Call her, ask her when is the best time to call her, send her messages, chat
8. Have content in your conversations. Don't start a chat with her and have nothing to talk about. Women love it when the man takes charge of the conversation at the beginning
9. Avoid s*xual compliments at the beginning. Don't say "You've got amazing b***s", " such a fine butt you have", "eish, s*xy thighs". It makes her think you are only after s*x
10. Don't go on and on making the conversation about you; your success, your cars, how far you have traveled, your money, the number of followers you have on social media. Women don't like men who brag. Don't think you are doing her a favor by being with her
11. Make her feel good about herself, build an environment where she can open up. Let her find herself doing much of the talking, ask questions, show interest. The truth, every woman is looking for a real conversation; if your vibe is good, you are a keeper
12. Don't make her feel like she is being interrogated, you throwing questions at her without taking time to listen. Pay attention
13. When you try and call her phone or text her and she doesn't respond; don't get desperate, calling her phone every five minutes, texting her like she is your wife "Where are you?!". Relax, she will get back to you. Possessive men are a turn-off
14. If you sense other men are also trying to woo her, and maybe even getting close to her; keep your calm. She is beautiful, of course other men will try their luck, but if she is yours and likes you for your good character, no other man will dissuade her from you. Don't let your jealousy fill you with rage, giving her orders, dictating where she goes and who she sees. If she can't be comfortable telling you about her ex or how her day has been in her workplace that is full of men, she will begin doubting if you can handle her
15. Open up too, don't make her feel like she is the only one who is revealing things about herself. Tell her things about you, it makes the conversation two-way. Tell her about your family, your most memorable moments, your heart's desires, your embarrassing moments; humanize yourself
16. If she reveals something shocking about herself, a dark past, a past mistake; don't judge her, don't make her feel ashamed. She needs understanding
17. End each conversation on a high. Even when you enjoy talking with her, pause the conversations to continue later, leave the conversations in a way that she gets wowed. Leave her smiling, leave her better than you found her
18. Avoid calling her pet names and sweet words at the beginning. Refrain from calling her "Sweetheart", "Dear", "Honey", "Bae" when you two don't know each other well. Men who are loose with these words are not serious
19. Keep your focus on her. Don't make her feel she is competing with another woman yet you are the one who is coming on to her. Don't go liking and commenting suggestively on the pics of other women, don't flirt with other women, don't make her feel your chat with her is disrupted because you are giving attention to other women
20. Take her on dates on days and venues convenient for her. Her comfort is key, that's what a real gentleman does. Go at her pace, no pressure
21. Add value to her life. Correct her with love when she is wrong, find out her dreams, support her, pay attention to what concerns her, build her, be honest with her in your criticism, challenge her, give her fun times, advise her; that's the kind of man she is looking for
22. Let her miss you. Yes, you are growing fond of her but sometimes deny each other the chance to talk and meet so that she appreciates your value. This also shows that you are a grown man, you are busy building your life and vision, that your life is not just about her; you are not putting your life on hold just because you've found her
23. Keep s*x out of the equation. When s*x is introduced early, things become shallow and you both lose the pure focus of knowing each other deeply
24.Be honest and real about your intentions. Be serious with her now that you have her so fond of you. Don't lead her on then leave her hanging; her focus is on you, focus on her
Above all, pray for her and with her
©️ Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde
