Coaching by Carolina

21/04/2026

You had more creative ideas at five than you have right now.

Researchers actually measured this.
Creativity peaks around age five, then drops sharply around nine or ten.

That's when fitting in starts to matter. The need to belong overtakes our spontaneity and we try to prevent saying something ‘weird’. An idea surfaces and the protection kicks in immediately.

Your brain begins running a risk assessment before anything can reach your mouth: is this safe, will I look stupid, what will they think?

They call this ideacide, and you don't notice it happening. Just silence where something could have been said.

The same 𝘮𝘦𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘴𝘮 that killed your weird ideas in fourth grade is still 𝐫𝐮𝐧𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬 today.

Only now it shows up as the caption you rewrote six times, the offer you delayed, the price you set lower than your plan said it should be. They're the same protection, still running quietly in the background.

Your inner knowing moves faster than your logic. That 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐮𝐥𝐬𝐞, before the second-guessing kicks in, has always been the one telling the truth.

When did you last let a strange idea get all the way out?

21/04/2026

You had more creative ideas at five than you have right now.

Researchers actually measured this.
Creativity peaks around age five, then drops sharply around nine or ten.

That's when fitting in starts to matter. The need to belong overtakes our spontaneity and we try to prevent saying something ‘weird’. An idea surfaces and the protection kicks in immediately.

Your brain begins running a risk assessment before anything can reach your mouth: is this safe, will I look stupid, what will they think?

They call this ideacide, and you don't notice it happening. Just silence where something could have been said.

The same 𝘮𝘦𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘴𝘮 that killed your weird ideas in fourth grade is still 𝐫𝐮𝐧𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬 today.

Only now it shows up as the caption you rewrote six times, the offer you delayed, the price you set lower than your plan said it should be. They're the same protection, still running quietly in the background.

Your inner knowing moves faster than your logic. That 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐮𝐥𝐬𝐞, before the second-guessing kicks in, has always been the one telling the truth.

When did you last let a strange idea get all the way out?

16/04/2026

I had the pleasure of being a guest on The Dream Show with Jane Teresa Anderson, where we explored one of my dreams and how it relates to my Psyche, Business and the Business Healing Bootcamp.

The conversation was deeply insightful and opened up more than just the dream…

🎙️ Watch it here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9O48488FL6E3bGiaReun7vzBmEjT00qF

My guest, Rat Race Release Coach Carolina Bakker, dreamed of trying to cover up the fact that she was smoking a cigarette. As a non-smoker, she was intrigued...

14/04/2026

Alignment doesn't feel the way you think it will.

It's the moment you stop leaving yourself in small daily ways. The moment "it's fine" stops being your automatic answer when your body is telling you it isn't.

Most people think alignment means everything clicks into place. That you'll feel calm all the time, or that life suddenly becomes 𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐲. But that's not it.

Alignment is when your outer life finally matches your inner truth. When your yes is actually a yes, and your no doesn't come with a ten-minute justification. When you stop 𝘢𝘣𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 yourself just to keep things comfortable for everyone else.

That's what alignment actually is. You, finally on your own side.

10/04/2026

I know what it's like to carry a knowing that arrived before the data did, and to keep it quiet because it wouldn't be taken seriously.

That misalignment between your heart and your mind can truly mess you up.

And what I've learned, as a coach, a psychic medium, and someone who's lived through both sides of this, is that 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 was never meant to stay out of your work.

Your spirituality was meant to be the foundation of it.

In this conversation with John Rusciano on The Frequency Master Show, we talked about exactly that. How intuition, 𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘭 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘯𝘴, and generational imprints influence your business results.

And how when you begin to work at that level, things move in ways that surprised even me.

If your spiritual life and your business have been separated as well, this conversation will be very interesting for you.

🎙️ Watch it here: https://frequencymastersnetwork.com/programs/intuition-business-alignment-carolina-bakker

Carolina Bakker shares how intuition, ancestral patterns, and energy coherence shape business success, helping women align with purpose and create flow.

07/04/2026

All that mindset work you've done? It's not wasted. It's a real foundation.

And it might still not be enough for what you're experiencing right now.

Because you can mentally understand a pattern completely and still feel that your body react in the moments that are important.

➜ Please realise that's not a sign you've failed or that you didn’t do enough already.
➜ It's a sign that understanding and feeling safe are two different things.

Your nervous system doesn't care how many journals you've filled. It cares whether it's safe to let your guard down. And if that safety isn't there yet, no amount of positive thinking will override it.

So if you've done the work and you're still feeling stuck, maybe the question isn't "what am I missing?" Maybe it's "what part of me still doesn't feel 𝘴𝘢𝘧𝘦 𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 to let this in?"

A real shift will come from that.
Not in your knowledge. In your body.

04/04/2026

April 4 is Tell a Lie Day.
So here's your dare: tell one small, harmless lie to someone this month. On purpose.

Not to deceive. To feel.

Research shows your body responds to lying before your mind catches up. Your heart rate increases. Your breathing changes. Your nose tip actually cools down while your forehead warms up. This is called the Pinocchio Effect: the body reacts to the stress of holding two truths at once.

This exercise uses that response as a mirror.

When you lie on purpose, in a safe and playful way, you feel the tension consciously. And once you feel it consciously, you start recognizing it.

𝐏𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐞
Something small and harmless. Zero consequences. ("I've never seen that movie." "I don't like chocolate." "I was born in March.")

𝐒𝐚𝐲 𝐢𝐭 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐥𝐨𝐮𝐝
To a friend, a colleague, a family member. Notice what happens in your body the moment the words leave your mouth.

𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧 𝟔𝟎 𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐝𝐬
Tell them it was a dare. Laugh about it. Let the tension release.

𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐬𝐢𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬
Where does this same sensation already live in your business?
The "I'm fine" when you're not. The "yes" that was a no.

𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐟𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧
You already know this tension. You just pushed it away and by now you stopped noticing it.
𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘪𝘵 𝘮𝘰𝘴𝘵?

31/03/2026

I used to think if I could just understand my patterns well enough, changing them would be easy.

So I journaled. A lot.
I wrote out my fears, my frustrations, the things I wanted, the things I was done with.

And for a few minutes it felt like something adjusted. Like I was finally figuring it out.

Then the next morning I'd wake up with that same wired feeling. Still anxious. Still spiralling. Still people-pleasing.

And I'd wonder: if I understand it so well, why am I still stuck in it?

➜ Journaling is brilliant for awareness. But awareness isn't change.
➜ You can write the same pattern a thousand times.
➜ If your body doesn't shift, if your choices don't shift, you will still stay in the loop.

And sometimes the loop isn't even yours. Sometimes the intellectualizing, the need to understand before you allow yourself to move, that was trained into you long before you picked up a pen.

Inherited from ancestors. Absorbed from parents or teachers.

The shift doesn't happen when you understand it all perfectly.
It happens when you start to live 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺, choose differently, respond differently.

The notebook can help you see. But the change happens after you close it.

27/03/2026

She started at ground zero.
Now she runs a foundation, sleeps through the night, and shows up without the internal fight.
Did that happen in six weeks? No.

Self-blame was her fallback. She used it to bail out, chicken out, not follow through. She was creating the exact chaos she then blamed herself for having.

It took a year before she even called herself an entrepreneur.
A year of 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 the ax. A year of looking at the same patterns from different angles.

Until all the little changes accumulated enough. When all the insights reached a tipping point.

→ Change doesn't always look like a BIG breakthrough.
→ It’s not always a SHOCK and a 180-turn.
Sometimes it's just one more honest conversation. And then another.

Until the fog lifts and you realise you had everything you needed already. You just couldn't see it yet.

This is Barb Higgins. Watch her tell it herself.

26/03/2026

𝐈'𝐦 𝐚 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐭.
I once spent an entire afternoon recording a one-minute video.
One minute.
Same sentence, same stumble, same place. Every. Single. Time.

By take 47, I wasn't even nervous anymore. I was furious. At myself. At the sentence. At the light that kept changing because apparently the sun had places to be, even if I didn't.

I finally posted one. Not the perfect one.

➡ Nobody noticed the stumble.
➡ Nobody cared.
➡ The only person who had a problem with it was me, four hours earlier.

What I've learned since is that perfectionism isn't a high standard.
Perfectionism is the lowest standard there is.

Because "not ready yet" is a very elegant way of saying "not visible yet." And "not visible yet" is a very safe way of never having to stand behind your actual opinion.

If you are doing the same: you're not making it better. You're hiding.

Just like I was hiding.
Recovering perfectionist. Emphasis on 𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨.

What's yours?

24/03/2026

Not because it doesn't work.
But because "just visualize your dream life" has become the spiritual equivalent of "just be confident."

Great. Thanks. Very helpful.

But if your nervous system has spent years in survival mode, it's not going to casually picture a beach house and inner peace.

It's going to picture that beach house and everything that can go wrong while you’re out there. Or nothing at all.

You're not failing at visualization. Your system learned a long time ago that letting your guard down, even into a daydream, wasn't safe.

So maybe we stop treating "I can't visualize" like a problem to fix, and start treating it like information.

🧠 There are other doors into your subconscious that are just as powerful.

What's yours?