10/07/2012
THE BEST PARENTS IN THE WORLD
Do you know everyone will say "I have the best mother in the world" or, "My father is my hero". Yes. Everyone, has that special someone whom they call their mother, father or someone close whom they take as a person who is the mother or father figure.
But we the adults, always think that we have not done enough for our younglings. We think that what we ought to do more. More my dears, are not always the best. What you Really want to do is to give the best to them. That is why they always say have a quality time with your family. My question is, what is Quality Time? What does this involved? Does it mean more time or does it mean less time but you take your family to the park? Is it true that brining your family for a holiday is considered a quality time? The answer to this is NO! Taking them for a trip does not equate to having a quality time.
A few days back I was doing my empowerment coaching on relationship. One of the parents wanted to give the best to their child and family and she felt that what has been given to the family is not enough and that more has to be done. When it comes to quality time, she is sure that she has sacrificed plenty for the children and husband. She is a professional with a really great job which any woman will be willing to take over her place. Yes, her work is very attractive indeed with high paying salary and flexibility of time. But she felt it was holding her back, she wanted more and she felt if she gets more from her work and increase her work satisfaction, she will be losing her family and if she concentrate on her family, it means she has to sacrifice her new work offer which gives better pay but less family time. She was torn in between.
We explored the things that she already has. I changed her focus from Sacrifice to TOTAL SATISFACTION. The truth is, she can get all that she wants, only if she does things the right way. I know from our previous conversations, she value her family more than anything else in this world. Yes work is important and it is a way to increase ones belonging in this modern era.
So I gave her a task. I asked if she ever say "I love you" to her daughter. She said that it is already a mantra for her at night when she tugs her child in for the night. I asked "Do you say I Love You to your girl from your heart?". She said yes. I then asked her to describe to me her body posture, her facial expression, her vocal tone, her breathing pattern, everything in detail when she said those words. The phrase has been too common for her that she does not even realize that it has become a routine in her life. A sentence that is supposed to be Magical has become an everyday, normal and expected sentence. It needs to change.
The task was, that very same night, she had to change the way she say those special words. She is to be very observant of herself when these words comes out from her mouth. I made her say "I Love you" to her daughter right from her Soul. She had to watch her breathing pattern, her body posture, her facial muscles, her scalp muscles, her neck, her voice tone. She had to align her heart, her brain and her physique to the words that she utters.
That is what it means to say out your feelings from the bottom of your heart. When you do this, even if you don't say a word, the person who receive you, will feel the great energy of your affection. The connection is so magical that you sometimes can't even formularized any word to match your feelings. But your eyes will say it all.
That is the greatest Love you will ever receive in your life because it comes from deep within your soul.
This is Quality Time.
It is Magical.
Master H.E. Dr. Diana Zaireen
Director and Founder of Humanitarian Empowerment
Author of The Magic of Smiles : Attract Health, Wealth and Relationship
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