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23/01/2026

I have officially ceased all general Pre-Marital coaching and training. Moving forward. Also, I will only accept consultations with challenged couples who have first completed reading "When Healed Singles Mingle Without Wrinkles."
​I’ve made this a prerequisite because the book is designed to do the heavy lifting. In fact, I suspect that after reading it, most couples will find the answers they were looking for without ever needing a session.

19/10/2025

As a parent, the day you understand the difference between PARENTING and UNCONSCIOUS PROGRAMMING, you'll do better. Expect more.

31/01/2025

https://thecoachremi.blogspot.com/2025/01/early-conversation-of-s*x-and.html

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Erectile Dysfunction and Early Conversations About Sexual Health The conversation around s*x with our children has often been shrouded in fe...

29/01/2025

https://thecoachremi.blogspot.com/2025/01/children-and-gadgets-battle-for.html?m=1

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Children and Gadgets: The Battle for Attention in a Digital Age One of the biggest challenges we face today is attention—or rather, the lack...

06/11/2024

HUMAN, GENDER and EMOTIONS 3

To a large extent, I tried to compress this into very few lines and, I believe it helped us to have a mental shift?

Having dealt with the humanity in us and the issue of gender, let us talk about emotions.

I shared some BASIC knowledge of emotions and I got a lot of reactions.

My profession does not permit us to argue, we only ask questions.

Culture and society has wired us to believe that some emotions are BAD/GOOD and that some are gender bias.

I want to say this with uttermost confidence that, emotions are not good or bad and that they're not gender bias.

We don't have positive or negative emotions.

I am just going to do what I can do here, I won't be able to do much.

Being afraid doesn't make a man less manly.

Being angry is not what makes him a man either.

Fear is not synonymous with women.

Above all, fear and anger are not negative emotions after all, we were told to FEAR God and to also be ANGRY.

These two came as INSTRUCTIONS only one came with a caution.

Your emotion is not an INSTRUCTION, it is an INFORMATION. What you do with it is not the fault of the emotion.

We have to stop attributing certain emotions to gender response.

Nobody is a gossip because she's a woman neither is someone abusive because he's a man.

People do not fight or kill each other because they're angry, they do because they MISUSED an emotion that came to HELP them.

Every emotion you consider as a positive emotion has been responsible for the death of someone at some point, did that make you change it to become a negative emotion?

Finally, people do not misbehave because they have a particular temperament or a particular personality, we must not confuse these.

People behave badly because they're not WELL TRAINED.

People fight or kill others, not because of anger but because they allow their THOUGHTS to overtake their HUMANITY.

Your FEELING is not responsible for your ACTIONS, your THOUGHT is.

Also, what someone did is not responsible for your feelings or emotions, your thoughts, feelings and interpretations are responsible.

So, stop saying someone made you angry.

Take care of your humanity, gender and emotions.

For any clarification, please feel free to reach out.

I am Lawal Oluremi, your Family-Life Coach and Therapist

I believe in you strongly.

27/10/2024

Your children are the FUTURE, anything from the past (human or experience) that can hurt that future, DEAL with it now.
Make that difficult choice!

26/10/2024

25/10/2024

Some opinions may win applause but different views. Especially for those who have attended our Family Therapy Course.

25/10/2024

ROD OF CORRECTION or ROD OF DESTRUCTION? 2

The issue of discipline in parenting cannot be over or ender emphasized.

However, it must be noted that discipline is not only to CORRECT and INSTRUCT on what not to do and how not to do. It is also to CORRECT and INSTRUCT on what to, how to and when to do things.

The rod provides SUPPORT, GUIDANCE, CORRECTION and COMFORT.

We should stop bleeding on our children in the name of discipline.

Confront your fears and spare the children.

The thin line that exists between discipline and punishment is or, has been wiped out.

Many of us are threading on the part of punishment, mistaking it for discipline.

Nothing done in ANGER and HASTE has ever been done well.

If we don't measure or get intentional about the conversations that preceed or come after discipline, we have done the wrong thing.

If you feel guilty and uncomfortable after disciplining a child, you afflicted the child, not discipline.

There are three key things that must happen for discipline to be EFFECTIVE and CORRECTIVE.

These things addresses the PAST, the PRESENT and the FUTURE.

How you do this is the reason you need to be well informed and equipped.

In the past, they say, 'if you don't have money, give birth to the number of children you can cater for.'

These days, it is, 'if you are not equipped, don't give birth to children, you can enjoy s*x.'

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24/10/2024

ROD OF CORRECTION or ROD OF DESTRUCTION?

I am compelled to revisit this topic after handling a case of a 34 year old who still weeps every time he thinks about his growing up days.

The subject of discipline is one that we haven't truly found a proper definition for.

Most of us hide behind Proverbs 22:15 to express, unleash and project our unhealed pains on our children in the name of discipline.

I will lay the foundation today and complete this 'building' tomorrow.

What is a ROD?

There are three major Hebrew and Greek words used for rod in the Bible amongst many other meanings: matteh and shabbat, Bab.la.

We also have some spiritual meanings and connotations: giver of life and our protector.

If out of all that rod represents in the Bible, some of us only see it to mean a whip, that tells me something.

We have never agreed on the issue of discipline and correction. I am not expecting that to change today.

My job is not to tell anyone HOW to raise an adult but, to know what kind of adult you want in your child.

Let me say this, the uncontrolled or excessive use of this so-called rod has only raised adults who are CONFORMISTS rather than AUTHENTIC adults.

I congratulate you for having successfully raised a robot that is living out your kind of success or another time bomb waiting to blow away the destiny of another innocent adult.

Sorry if this is too hard to chew,

Just chew it.

Tomorrow, we'll chew harder.

I am Lawal Oluremi, your Family-Life Coach and Therapist.

I still believe in you strongly.