15/06/2026
LIFE IS TOO HEAVY TO CARRY ALONE
One of the discoveries I've made is that we’re wired for people. Nobody has every skill, every answer, or enough strength for every season. You might be great at ideas but weak at follow-through. I might be good at planning but terrible at starting. Alone, we hit a ceiling fast. Together, we cover each other’s gaps. That’s why even before anything went wrong in the world, the first problem God named was “loneliness.” Because solo life isn’t the full version of being human.
I have discovered that life is too heavy to carry alone. Consider grief, financial stress, major life decisions, and raising children. You can try to act tough and “handle it myself.” But the load gets heavier, your sleep worsens, and you start making poor decisions. One finger can’t lift a big pot says the elders. One person can’t see their own blind spots. When you let others in — a friend who listens, a mentor who corrects you, a neighbour who helps — the load actually gets lighter. Not because they do everything, but because you’re not pretending anymore.
I have come to the understanding that we grow through each other. Our elders say, "A single tree can grow tall, but a forest survives storms better". Your courage grows when you see a friend be brave. Your patience grows when someone is patient with you. Your ideas get sharper when someone asks, “Have you thought of this?” None of us is a finished product. We’re all drafts, and other people are the editors, the encouragement, the second pair of eyes. Pretending you don’t need anyone just slows you down. “None is complete alone” isn’t a weakness. It’s design. Asking for help, working with people, letting them speak into your life — that’s how you actually get whole.
Remain blessed.
By
Rev Fr Dr Paul Kolade Olutetubi