05/02/2026
Never ever compare yourself with anyone, we all have different journey in life 💯
In 2020, about 5 years ago, I came across the Facebook profile of a distant cousin with whom I grew up. She stayed with one of my aunties, so, we were close. We went to primary school together until we separated in secondary school. We played together. She was about a year older than I was.
In 2020, when I came across her page, she was already married with two beautiful daughters. Her children looked well taken care of, well nourished. She had already served in the NYSC. She was married and doing a business that was flourishing. And in 2020, I was still trying to even discover what my purpose is in life. The only good thing I could see, at that time was that I had started open university.
When I came across that page that day, I criëd my eyes out, not because I was jealous, but because I felt left behind. I looked at my life and questioned if she was not the person I grew up with. How come she had achieved so much and I was still struggliñġ? Education. ✅Marriage.✅ Children.✅ Business, successful.
I had not even written my first semester examination for 100 level. I crīëd.
That was the first and maybe only day I delëted my Facebook account. Because I didn't want to be found out by my classmates. I was bright in school. How come almost all my classmates were done with NYSC and doing well and I was just starting part-time studies? After a few hours, boredom nearly kpaiï me na so I ruń go reactivate my account.
That's the only time I can say that I sincerely compared my life with someone's life.
As time went on, I learned that I may not be where I want to be, but I'm trying my best for myself and I know it. There is progress no matter how little.
Where I was five years ago is not where I am now. I have a degree now, thank God. I've advanced in knowledge, thank God. Am I married? No. Have I made money? No. I dòn born? No. But I'm fine. I'm alive.
I understand how it feels to feel left behind. But there's something that keeps me going—everyone's journey is not the same. We're on different paths. Yes!
The moment you start comparing your life to anyone’s, you losë your joy. Stop comparing yourself with mates, especially your close friends. It can build up self-hätë, lòw self-esteem, inferiority complex, and even ênvý for friends which is bad. Because you are not competing with your friends, are you? Unless healthy competition though, only take motivation from them to better your own life.
Biola has built a mansion. Congratulations.
Nancy has a beautiful marriage. Congratulation.
Everyone is trying in their own way, huh? The dice will one day roll in everyone's favor.
Stop silent competition. You are not them. They are not you. They probably won't survive the hurdlës you've experienced and survived. Breathe. — Eshi Ayo
