I Care Motivational

01/04/2016

Don’t wait until tomorrow or next year to do the right thing in your life or in the lives of other people. Do it now! Do good now! This is the right time to take action on what is right. If you wait for the right time, you will never find it, and you will let injustice and unhappiness linger on for far longer than it needs to. Everything you do that is right is a message to yourself and others about what is good in this world.

26/03/2016

THINGS YOU NEED LET GO IN LIFE
The issue of letting some things go is usually taken lightly but it goes a long way to determine the way one’s life will take on the long run… here are few ones I have examined in my life.
Distractions that keep you from special moments with special people:
Pay attention to the little things, because when you really miss someone you miss the little things the most, like just laughing together. Go for long walks. Indulge in great conversations. Count your mutual blessings. Let go for a little while and just be together.

Compulsive business:
Schedule time every day to not be busy. Have dedicated down time clear points in the day to reflect, rest, and recharge. Don’t fool yourself; you’re not so busy that you can’t afford a few minutes of sanity.

Negative thinking about your current situation:
Life is like a mirror; we get the best results when we smile. So talk about your blessings more than you talk about your problems. Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing. Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle to get there.

The needless drama around you:
Be wise enough to walk away from the nonsense around you. Focus on the positives, and soon the negatives will be harder to see.

The desire for everything you don’t have:
No, you won’t always get exactly what you want, but remember this: There are lots of people who will never have what you have right now. The things you take for granted, someone else is praying for. Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they already have.

Comparing yourself to everyone else:
Social comparison is the thief of happiness. You could spend a lifetime worrying about what others have, but it wouldn’t get you anything.

Thinking about who you were or what you had in the past:
You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago. You’re always growing. Experiences don’t stop. That’s life.

Worrying about the mistakes you’ve made:
It’s OK if you mess up; that’s how you get wiser. Give yourself a break. Don’t give up. Great things take time, and you’re getting there. Let your mistakes be your motivation, not your excuses. Decide right now that negative experiences from your past won’t predict your future.

Worrying about what everyone thinks and says about you:
Don’t take things too personally, even if it seems personal. Rarely do people do things because of you; they do things because of them. You honestly can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is changing how you react and who you choose to be around.

Self-deception:
Your life will improve only when you take small chances. And the first and most difficult chance you can take is to be honest with yourself.

A life path that doesn’t feel right:
Life is to be enjoyed, not endured. When you truly believe in what you’re doing, it shows, and it pays. Success in life is for those who are excited about where they are going. It’s about walking comfortably in your own shoes, in the direction of your dreams.

Everyone else’s definition of success and happiness:
You simply can’t base your idea of success and happiness on other people’s opinions and expectations.

Those who insist on using and manipulating you:
What you allow is what will continue. Give as much as you can, but don’t allow yourself to be used. Listen to others closely, but don’t lose your own voice in the process

Trying to impress everyone:
One of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t have to like everyone, everyone doesn’t have to like us, and that’s perfectly OK. No matter how you live, someone will be disappointed. So just live your truth and be sure you aren’t the one who is disappointed in the end.

All the fears holding you back:
Fear is a feeling, not a fact. The best way to gain strength and self-confidence is to do what you’re afraid to do. Dare to change and grow. In the end, there is only one thing that makes a dream completely impossible to achieve: Lack of action based on the fear of failure.

Doubting and second-guessing yourself:
When in doubt just take the next small step. Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life.

People who continuously dump on your dreams:
It’s better to be lonely than allow negative people and their opinions derail you from your destiny. Don’t let others crush your dreams. Do just once what they say you can’t do and you will never pay attention to their negativity again.

Thinking the perfect time will come:
You can’t always wait for the perfect moment. Sometimes you must dare to do it because life is too short to wonder what could have been.

Band-Aids and temporary fixes:
You can’t change what you refuse to confront. You can’t find peace by avoiding things. Deal with problems directly before they deal with your happiness

Close-minded judgments:
Open your mind before you open your mouth. Don’t hate what you don’t know. The mind is like a parachute; it doesn’t work when it’s closed.

Other people’s mistakes and oversights:
Today, be tolerant of people’s mistakes and oversights. Sometimes good people make bad choices. It doesn’t mean they’re bad; it simply means they are human.

Resentment:
Kindness is not to be mistaken for weakness, nor forgiveness for acceptance. It’s about knowing that resentment is not on the path to happiness. Remember, you don’t forgive people because you’re weak. You forgive them because you’re strong enough to know that people make mistakes.

Any hateful thoughts at all:
Set an example. Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you not because they are nice, but because you are. Make kindness a daily ritual; it’s what makes life happier and more fulfilling in the long run.

Regrets of any kind:
You don’t have to be defined by the things you once did or didn’t do. Don’t let yourself be controlled by regret. Maybe there’s something you could have done differently, or maybe not. Either way, it’s merely something that has already happened. Leave the unchangeable past behind you as you give yourself to the present moment.

Every point in time other than right now:
Don’t cry over the past, it’s gone. Don’t stress too much about the future, it hasn’t arrived. Do your best to live now and make this moment worth living.

24/01/2016

WHAT IS SUCCESS?
Success is about getting all that you wanted to have. It's finding that you have achieved your goals or
Fulfilled your plans and it's waking up in the Morning feeling victorious rather than feeling
Defeated. The feelings success brings will make you walk proudly in the streets with your head up high while being happy and satisfied.

HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN LIFE
Contrary to common beliefs, there are no successful or unsuccessful people but instead there are people
Who have the potential to succeed and who do things that helps them realize this potential and there
Are people with the same potential who don’t do those things? The only thing you need to do to succeed is to do exactly what successful people did. When you go through all of the information below you will
Acquire the mentality of a successful person and this will help you reach success.

WHAT MAKES YOU UNSUCCESSFUL
If you really want to be successful then you should have a solid understanding of certain concepts that
Can limit your potential and that can make you unsuccessful. Successful people avoid these harmful concepts and so should you.

FALSE BELIEFS:
False beliefs are incorrect ideas you hold about something or about yourself. An Example of a false belief could be “I can never find a job in such a country”. False beliefs act as limiters to your true potential and so to your success. Getting rid of false beliefs and knowing more about them is
The most important task that you should do if you are serious about success. False beliefs can not only limit your success potential but they can even ruin your life. Some people stay broken for years after a
Breakup just because they have some false beliefs about love that they acquired from the media.

EXTERNAL LOCUS OF CONTROL:
This is the way of thinking that makes a person assume that everything that happens to him is the result of
External factors. For example: saying that an exam was too hard when you don't do well or claiming
that high unemployment rate is the reason you can't find a job are examples of external locus of control. The flip side to that way of thinking is Internal Locus of Control which is the way of thinking that makes you believe that you are in charge and in control of everything that happens to you. None of the successful people have an external locus of control so if you are serious about success you should learn how to change your way of thinking from being based on external locus of control to being based on internal locus of control.

LACK OF PERSISTENCE:
What is good about having many qualities and skills if you lost hope in succeeding after failing once or twice? The only people who succeed in life are the persistent ones. Those who continue working right to the end until they get what they want even if everything was Against them and even if they failed many times.

LACK OF FLEXIBILITY:
Flexibility is the ability to adapt to external conditions. It's the ability to try something else or another method when your current method fails. The more flexible you are, the more you will
Adapt to changes and the higher your chances of success will be.

LACK OF PLANNING:
If you don’t have goals or plans then you are going to be a part of other people's plans. If you don’t plan to be the team leader at your work then someone else in your team will do so and if you don't plan to get that high paying job then someone else who planned and worked for it will take it from you. If you don’t plan you will get swept away by the people who do. They will fill the positions, make the money and get the fame while you'll just be a spectator. Planning is an essential item in the success toolkit.

LACK OF SELF-CONFIDENCE:
If you don't have a high self-confidence then most probably you will be too shy of presenting your ideas and you may give up your dreams as soon as someone tells you that they are not possible. You may fear taking any risks and so ignore many opportunities that could have made you successful. If you want to increase your chances of being a successful person, then you must build your self-confidence

THINKING THAT YOU LACK RESOURCES:
Don't fool yourself by thinking that you lack resources because if you are serious about success you will do it without having any resources

SUCCESS RELATED FEARS:
The types of fears that can affect your ability to succeed are the fear of failure And the fear of success. While they both seem to be complete opposites still they can have the same effect on you which is preventing you from trying and so leading you to failure.

10/01/2016

STEPS THAT WILL HELP YOU OVER COME YOUR DOUBT

Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself ~ Cicero
Sometimes I doubt my knowledge whether I truly know enough to move forward. Sometimes I doubt the choices I’ve already made, as if I can somehow find a sense of control in rehashing what I’ve done and deciding how to do it better in the future.
Other times I doubt my instincts. I think I know what’s right for me, but my mind decides to split and take sides, creating a nagging sense of internal conflict over what I actually want to do. I’ve mostly dealt with this as it pertains to my dreams, and it’s partially because I’m terrified of doing the wrong thing and somehow ruining everything I’ve been working toward. I don’t want to say the wrong thing, or make the wrong decision and then have to take responsibility for the outcome of my choice.
It feels easier not to choose at all. But what I’m learning is that there is no such thing as “wrong.” The only wrong choice is not making one. That’s not to say we’ll always create the outcomes we visualize. But maybe that isn’t the point. Maybe the point is to learn to be less afraid of leaping, knowing that the net may not always appear, but the fall will never be far enough to do any lasting damage.
This is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately as I stretch outside my comfort zone with public speaking. As a former loner, I don’t deal well with crowds in general, let alone crowds staring at me while I talk vulnerably and passionately about something I love.
The space between the stage and the ground always feels like a massive distance, both in the ascent and the decline. I can’t say for certain I will ever feel fully confident in the spotlight. I may always feel at least some self-doubt, but I can choose not to doubt the choice to stretch and grow.
Doubts are just an inevitable part of life. The important thing is that we act in spite of them.
I’ve discovered a few things that help with self-doubt and boost my confidence that may help you too:

STOP COMPARING YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS TO YOUR FRIENDS’ AND COLLEAGUES’ ACCOMPLISHMENTS.
I find that I doubt myself the most when I’m comparing what I’m doing with what other people are doing. When I compare my accomplishments to a colleague’s, I start feeling inadequate. Your colleague’s accomplishments are not a litmus test to grade your own success.
One key thing to remember when you find yourself in this mental pattern is that everyone is on his or her own journey.
I find that I am most successful in my personal and professional life when I am following what works for me and what makes me feel good, even if it is different from what someone I look up to is doing.

FORGET ABOUT WHAT EVERYONE ELSE IS THINKING OF YOU.
When you care about what everyone else is thinking of you, you inhibit yourself. You’d rather do nothing and not get judged than do something and risk criticism.
Worrying about what other people think of you will continue to hold you back from doing something potentially huge for yourself.
If you hold dreams for your future which you probably do if you’re reading Tiny Buddha—then at some point you have to let go of everyone else’s opinion; otherwise, you’ll find yourself in a constant state of self-doubt.

JUST MAKE A DECISION AND THEN CORRECT YOUR COURSE AS YOU GO ALONG.
Getting caught up in a decision is another surefire way to water the seeds of self-doubt. It’s very easy to get stuck in trying to make decisions. This back-and-forth thought process questioning if you should go with option A or option B can exacerbate self-doubt.
What is the cure for this? Just make a decision already! Usually your first reaction is going to be your best since it typically comes from a place of intuition rather from the ego, and before outside opinions get in the way.
Rainer Maria Rilke says, “No feeling is final” and I feel the same could be said about your decisions. Just make a decision, and then fine-tune your course along the way.

WRITE YOURSELF A HAND-WRITTEN LETTER.
Sometimes a kind word or compliment from someone can totally bring me out of a slump, and I’m sure you’ve experienced a situation where someone made your day.
But what if you’re feeling low and unconfident and no one is around to pick you up? Well, there will always be one person left to uplift you, and that’s you. A great exercise that I’ve come up with is writing myself a hand-written letter. This negative, doubtful, scared part of our selves is our shadow side, and we all have one. And just as we have a shadow, we also have a light side, the positive, optimistic, and productive self. What I do is actually write a hand-written letter from my light side to my shadow side basically saying that everything will be okay, and I even list all of the things I have accomplished recently to help me feel better. (It really does work!)

LISTEN AND/OR READ POSITIVE MATERIAL ON A DAILY BASIS.
One of my quick go-to ways to boost my confidence in a jiffy is to listen to some of my favorite self development books. My favorite sources are:
*. Why Ask Why By John Mason
*. The Luck Factor by Brian Tracy
*. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
*. Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz
* The Assignment by Mike Murdock
I’ll put the audio books on my iPod and listen to them when I’m walking to work, taking the subway, or just strolling out and about in the city. I find it gives me a nice reminder of my potential. It’s an instant pick-me up.

WRITE IN A GRATITUDE JOURNAL AT THE END OF EACH DAY.
It’s far too easy to wallow in pity and focus on what we don’t have rather than what we do have. Giving those feelings energy will only create more situations in which we come up empty handed. Instead of focusing on what you are lacking, focus on what you do have and what you have accomplished. This fosters a feeling of gratitude, and when you invest energy into gratitude now, you’ll start to find that you’ll be rewarded in the future.
Feelings of gratitude put you in a positive frame of mind. When you’re feeling positive, you’re feeling good. And when you’re feeling good, good things happen.

IDENTIFY YOUR BIGGEST FANS AND THEN NURTURE THOSE RELATIONSHIPS.
No (wo)man is an island meaning you can’t do it all on your own. Sometimes all you need is a little reassurance, and your biggest fans are the people who do just that for you.
You first need to identify your biggest fans the friends, family members, and peers who think you’re the cat’s meow, and who have always been there for you. Friends who tell you that you’re awesome, just because.
Then, put your energy into fostering deeper and lasting relationships with these people. We all have them, so nurture those relationships and draw strength and confidence from them.

GO TO YOUR MANTRAS FOR SUPPORT.
I have a set of mantras that I’ve come up with over the years that I basically repeat whenever I doubt myself. The mantras remind me of how far I’ve come and that I’m doing great things for myself. They also remind me to slow down, be easy on myself, and always listen to my heart. One of my favorite mantras I use is “You are loved.” Doubtful feelings can arise when we feel we’re not good enough, and that can stem from feeling like we are not loved. By repeating this mantra, I remind myself that people in my life do love me, that I am good enough, and that I need not doubt myself.
At one point or another, we will all find ourselves experiencing some sort of self-doubt; its part of being human. What I’ve learned as I continue on my own journey is that feelings of self-doubt usually arise when we aren’t fully feeling loved.
I’ve learned that by surrounding myself with my biggest fans, by focusing on my own goals, and by practicing gratitude I can experience love more deeply, minimizing feelings of self-doubt. I believe this step well taken go a long way helping you overcome your doubt….

07/01/2016

21/12/2015

UNHELPFUL THINGS DOUBT CAN DO TO YOU
* Doubt holds YOu back from taking risks that need
to be taken.
* Doubt holds you back from thinking you are good
enough.
* Doubt holds you back from reaching your true
potential.
* Doubt holds you back from finding your voice.
* Doubt makes you uncertain if you should be working at all.
* Doubt makes you seek approval again and again
and again.
* Doubt makes you wait for someone to pick you.
* Doubt makes you reach for milestone after
milestone, ceaselessly stalling until the next one,
which will always be too little too late.

Those are the type of questions doubt makes you ask of your selves. Such questions can stop you and make you give up on your dreams. But I’ll answer, because I now know them for what they are.

19/12/2015

Am going to be talking about this weekend

Doubt is a natural part of all of us and no one can ever
completely escape it. The first lesson in overcoming doubt is knowing that
there’s nothing wrong with you for feeling doubtful,
it’s normal.
You’re human, there fore you doubt. The problem is when doubt over whelms us and keeps
us from doing what we are meant to do,
Unhindered. doubt won’t allow you to say what you
mean to say. You’ve great plan, but it
doesn’t matter to you as much as it would have if you
had said what you wanted to say, then you’re a victim
of Doubt. We’ve all been there. Doubt is insidious in that it can make us stall and give
up, or worse, hold us back from being true to
our selves.

18/12/2015

One of the most valuable lessons in life is learning to
enjoy each day, each moment and do what you are
about to do with purpose. Simply going through the
motions is not enough. You’ve got to be intentional about your life. Are you happy? Are you doing what you want to be
doing? If so, that’s fantastic. If not, then what are you
going to do today?

15/12/2015

Too many people have given up just when they were about to cross the finish line. The problem was they didn’t know they were so close. If you’re going to do something, be prepared to go all the way. Fear and doubt will always find their way into our consciousness when we attempt to go beyond what we’ve done before and if we let them, they will stop us. The key is to follow through all the way to the finish. We usually come up short because we stop ourselves when it gets too tough and seems hopeless. On the contrary, that’s when you’re about to break through. Keep going dont give up.

14/12/2015

We all make mistakes, plain and simple. Some
mistakes are major, but most are minor and
repairable.However, the only way to avoid a mistake
is to attempt nothing at all.
Is that really an option?
I used to fear making mistakes. I always took the
path of least resistance, so I thought. It’s better to do what you want to do and learn from
the mistakes you make. You’re going to make them,
but you may discover they are not so bad after all. When ever you learn from a mistake you improve and
grow from it. Well, my friends, there’s a great sense
of accomplishment and satisfaction in that.

13/12/2015

Our failures, our mistakes and our weaknesses are usually at the forefront of our minds. It’s natural and normal to want to improve in the things we do not do well, but our energy would be better spent focusing on the things we do well. Don’t let what you can’t do hold you back from doing what you can do. In other words set your sail by your strengths. Embrace your passion and allow your strengths to grow. Your confidence in your abilities will naturally grow as well.

11/12/2015

Truth is always strong, no matter how weak it looks, and falsehood is always weak no matter how strong it looks and, Never view anything positively that makes you break your word Make your word your bond. The book of Proverbs says it best Dishonest gain will never last so why take the risk? Truth exists Only lies are created. If you continue to do what's right, what's wrong and who's wrong will eventually leave your life.