Haleemah Jamiu

Haleemah Jamiu We help parents become calmer and raise children with discipline and desired behaviour.

22/02/2023

Climbing is a milestone in your child's life and when they reach it, they climb everything and anything possible to climb.

Your tables, chairs, window frames, chair arms, etc are in for it.

What to do?

Allow your child a safe place to practice their newly developed skill.

Provide climbing toys/materials for children that you can set up in your play space.

Watch your child and guide them to avoid falling or sustaining injury.

If you don't want your child to climb, gently carry them away or remove them from the object, with the same instruction "get down" or "no climbing" or whatever instructions you use, then offer what they can climb.

Also, be grateful another milestone has come upon your child naturally and help him nurture it.

What not to do?

Shouting and making comments about falls, bruises and injuries, will not help your child learn how to safely climb or enjoy their skill.

Spanking the child will not stop the child from practising their skill one more time.

Finally,
Climbing is a life skill needed for a lot of other activities in your child's life.

Note: the "b" in climbing is silent... Pronounced as climing
And a few other words with mb.

To your sanity
For stay-at-home moms who want to be calm.

08/02/2023

The country has reached the inner corners of our lives, as the pressure keeps building up...

But because I care about you and your little one, here's what I have to say.

Try not to put pressure and annoyance on your little ones, please. And try not to overthink things too.

Your preschooler already thinks s/he's the reason for the chaos, that if s/he were a "whatever" maybe mum or dad would not be angry.

Truth is told, this is a trying time and if you have to be aggressive, think twice.

It helps to keep quiet instead.

Think of this...

If children could reason and understand exactly how much is in the world, then we would have many more children seeing psychiatrists, psychotherapists, and consultants. Being depressed, having severe mental illnesses suicides and possibly more death.

So there's a reason God created us to reason differently.

Let's not pass on unnecessary comments to them, after all, no matter what we say, they can't help.

We ask Allaah to ease our affairs and help us cleanse our mentality and grant us beneficial reasoning.

Haleemah Jamiu
For stay-at-home moms who want to be calmer.

08/02/2023

Oh my God!...

This parenting is bigger than me o

It's like, someone adjusted some nuts in my brain.

Ah, because before before, I am an angel, with perfect parenting thoughts and fantasies.

But since we began this parenting, maybe somebody exchanged my brain.

Tori, this is not the angel I used to know.

And neither am I a devil

Abi, God forbid!

But wait...

That makes us.

We are humans and our brains are hard-wired to focus on annoying things around us and strive for survival.

No wonder there cannot be two sailors on a ship.

You the parent and you should refuse to get into power struggles with your child, it doesn't worth it, there's no winner and in the end, you both end up hurting.

Bruising that little loving bond between you.

So mama, if this relates to you, know that you are not perfect and no one demands perfection from you or your little one.

You both are neither angels nor devils, you are humans and that's all that matters.

Understand your child from a place of love and don't let anger take the best part of you.

Now, whisper this to yourself, I will not s***k (say your baby's name), I will not s***k (say your baby's name).

Mention your name and say don't raise your voice, you are a calm mama.

Good job👍🏾

Remember that phrase every time you are pushed to the wall and a lioness wants to jump out of you...

I'm struggling too, I'm not perfect. And that's why we are parents.

To your sanity.

Haleemah Jamiu
For stay-at-home mums who want to be calm.

25/01/2023

Let's end the teeth-brushing struggles today. Shall we?

But wait...
Why do they struggle in the first place?

Let me guess
Maybe they don't like the toothbrush😏
Maybe they don't like the smell or taste of the toothpaste😒
Maybe they don't like the fact that you make it a big boring deal... Yeah🙄
Maybe you are hard on their tender gums🤢😣
Maybe their gums are sore from a growing tooth🥺
Maybe you don't allow them to brush themselves.🤓
Maybe there's a sore somewhere in their mouth😑
Maybe you brush like they you're scrubbing🙄

Okay, fine.
Let's tackle it.

Your toddler can feel like all of the above at once or a few, have you thought about that?
And if you suspect nothing, then know that it's totally normal for your toddlers to refuse to brush.

They may not like the feel of the toothbrush in their mouth, it's strange too and don't forget their small mouth isn't as spacious as yours. So, avoid poking too hard or too far leading to fear, irritation and a dislike for the whole process, hence the struggle.

Be gentle, you may need to have a change of mindset before you invite your toddler to brush.

A simple "I will be patient, careful and gentle" can begin and end the whole process a little better than previously, with some nursery rhymes. Don't focus on your child's naughtiness, it won't help matters.

Look out for the slightest compliance then encourage your child.

Each day a little more compliance and a bigger encouragement.

Be careful not to ruin the whole process with unnecessary complaints or threats...

Why can't you always do such and such? Why do you have to stress me before we ....? I'll slap you open your mouth... etc. You know how we can be as mothers now.😁😊

Let's take a look at if your toddler likes their toothbrush, or enjoys the taste and smell of her toothpaste if all that is okay.

How about singing before the action starts "this is the way I brush my teeth, brush my teeth, brush my teeth... Do you get the flow?... And shake your body and demonstrate to it.

Are you smiling?
It's funny, isn't it?

No, it doesn't have to make sense to you. You are not a toddler.

Method 1.
Before brushing, whether you are sitting or standing, rest his head against your body, use one hand to hold his forehead to your body and use the other hand to help brush his teeth. As against standing in front of one another.

Brush gently.

Method 2.
Allow your child to brush by themselves and finish up for her, depending on her age. With time they'll gain the confidence and expertise to brush themselves well.

Method 3.
Allow your child to take part in brushing your teeth, it can be fun for them and they'll comply with your request Just make sure you are not in a hurry.
You can try this on weekends when there's no hurry.

Tip:
Using a mirror can be very helpful. Your child can see themselves. It's fun and practical.

Don't forget to brush the tongue mildly... Brush for not more than 2 minutes and that's it.
Choo choo Tuga Tuga tuga... Pretend to be a passing train repeating those words while brushing.

Be gentle.

Note: toothpaste should be low fluoride toothpaste made for kids and use only a pea size (that green pea we put in fried rice).
Encourage them to spit out the toothpaste, but it's fine if they swallow it. There's no harm.

With these few points of mine, I hope I have been able to convince you and not confuse you that teeth-brushing struggles can come to an end with patience and imperfections.

Haleemah Jamiu
Child behaviour consultant.

Have questions?
Send an inbox message

18/01/2023

Dear mama❤,

You are superhuman, and you don't need anyone to tell you this.💯

You care for your children, bathe them, clothe them, feed them, prepare them for occasions, school and even bed, yet no one notices...

You also cater to a man, this can sometimes be frustrating as you are supposed to ultimately know where everything is kept and willingly attend to the children at every slight disturbance or discomfort... Not to mention other responsibilities in between.

To an extent that you sometimes have to struggle to take a shower and look good for yourself, you eat on your feet and manage to get a nap, you sleep late and wake up earlier and when you are not home, the house feels empty.

Without leaving out acts of worship.🧕 You are damn rare.

Just like the place of salt in the ranks of spices, you can never be replaced. Let me tell you that no amount of indebtedness can pay back all you do and what you are worth... Your Lord has placed you in a special place and the Deen is also in your favour.

So mama, today, I want to appreciate you, I want to tell you how ah-may-zing you are. How beautiful your heart of gold is.

You are priceless and worth more than gold, even far more than diamonds.💎

You are special, you are a superb woman🧡

I dedicate this to you and I'm rooting for you always.💥

Hugs🤗

Haleemah Jamiu
Child behaviour consultant

Like/comment, follow and share for more on parenting young children.

04/01/2023

My child doesn't eat.

First and foremost, children(from babyhood) know when they are full and as such would refuse an extra bite no matter how delicious the food is.

2. Don't force your child to finish a meal you serve. Remember, they know their stomach size, not you.

3. Never practice force-feeding, it results in poor feeding habits, and a lack of motivation towards food, your child may rely on junk only (not healthy nor a good choice) and may have future It e adverse effects leading to obesity or malnutrition which can harm proper development... You don't want that.

4. Your baby has a small stomach size and quite some energy for lots of activities, so understand that your little one will not be able to thrive on the 3-square meal you thrive on. So small serving size is preferred several times a day with in between snacks and enough water.

5. Your 6months+ baby who you breastfed exclusively will find food alien to them, so don't use your experience with food and endurance from 6 months ago to measure your baby's transition to food... Allow them enough time to get used to eating other foods, however, don't limit their choices, you will be surprised to see your child accepts to have a taste of everything you offer them. Remember, to eat from it first, this will encourage them to eat from it too.

6. Don't compare your child to other children or other people's comments about children, but it's okay to take advice and act on it. Keep up with what works for you and drop what doesn't.

Till I come your way again.

I'm Haleemah Jamiu, a child behaviour consultant.
I help you modify your child's most annoying behaviour, and bring out the angel in him/her.

29/12/2022

Have you ever experienced your child suddenly sitting up in the middle of the night, screaming, looking scared, might be
wide awake, and other times your child is sleepwalking...

This is no other but Night Terrors, and No, it's not a nightmare and they are not related

When night terrors happen, despite their frightening symptoms, your child is still asleep and might not remember all the stunts they had during the night terror, so it helps to say nothing about it.

Don't try to wake your child, although it may last a few seconds to a few minutes, some might take longer, but your child will settle back to sleep on their own.
It's not something to be scared about or worry your child over as they don't remember any mental images in the morning.

What to do
Try to keep your child safe if they are moving around.
There's no need to wake the child as you might disrupt their sleep.
It doesn't require any medical attention.

Now you know what to do the next time you experience a night terror.

Share this with a parent who needs to see it.

I'm Haleemah, a child behaviour consultant.
Leave me a message if you have any concerns with your child (3-12)

26/12/2022

There's a difference between how you think your child should be and how they are...

You see Allaah created them differently without needing your thoughts.

So get out of your head and into the reality of what your child is and appreciate her personality.

Don't use how you think your child should be to destroy how he is meant to be.

All you have to do is train the child not change the child.

Haleemah Jamiu
Child Behaviour Consultant.

19/12/2022

Your preschooler may have imaginary friends...

Respect his opinions, they mean a lot to him.

And no, you can't ridicule him for this.

It's normal as their world is full of fantasies

It shows that your child is developing well in his cognitive, and social development.

Haleemah Jamiu
Discipline and Behaviour Management Consultant

19/12/2022

Toddlers are notoriously difficult and are wired to annoy you.

As much as this is true, if you see it like that, you will have every reason to shout, be impatient, s***k and soon enough guilt trip yourself, because your amazing little one just hugged you.

However, toddlers lack self-control and have a burning desire to learn and explore their environment, they love to do things their way.

Now, it helps to think of them as new people in a brand new world, with so many colourful things and amazing objects that are fascinating and magical. Imagine if that was you.

So, don't measure your toddler by your experience of the world.

Haleemah Jamiu
Discipline and Behaviour Management Consultant

As a toddler mom, know that attention is attention, whether negative or positive, both of them give your child the same ...
15/12/2022

As a toddler mom, know that attention is attention, whether negative or positive, both of them give your child the same feeling.

That's why they strive for either.

So when they need to get your attention, being mad sends the same message as being calm.

Choose your battle wisely.

Been a while, thanks for hanging in.🥰

Haleemah Jamiu
Discipline and Behaviour Management Consultant

22/08/2022

3 unconscious things that make you yell at your toddler or preschooler.

Is it beginning to seem like you need anti-yelling pills?
Well today, I will share with you 3 out of the numerous thing you unconsciously do that triggers yelling.

1. Impatience: once again, children don't understand the importance of urgency, they are less bothered about how time is affecting you because come to think of it, time is not a big deal to them. So having a child do or complete a task on your schedule can be quite frustrating. But you need to give enough time for continuous practice and correct the child or help out rather than yell. So that with time, they become good at meeting up on your schedule.

2. Low tolerance: let me remind you again that children have little to no experience of the world, this makes them flop in a lot of things they try out. And you may ask, why try out something they can't do? Well, the answer is you. When they see you do things and to them, you are the best person in their life and the best example, so they just get to work "explore". However, you need to watch them closely, smile, help out so they gain confidence and give them a lot of free time to try out things under your supervision.

3. Assuming they already know: with point number 2, you would see that children copy and practice or as their instincts develop they mature into doing things, which does not justify their knowing. So relying on assumptions will drive you nuts and stir up the frustration hormone and result in yelling.

Reasoning along your child's thinking level will help you avoid unnecessary assumptions, impatience and intolerance which will help you to be better at knowing what to expect and how to respond.

Leave me a comment If you found this helpful.

Cheers
To your sanity.
Haleemah Jamiu.

Address

Mowe

Telephone

+2348065554117

Website

Alerts

Be the first to know and let us send you an email when Haleemah Jamiu posts news and promotions. Your email address will not be used for any other purpose, and you can unsubscribe at any time.

Contact The Business

Send a message to Haleemah Jamiu:

Shortcuts

Share

Category