10/10/2026
Marriage Counselors and people with genuine love to sort this matter amicably only!
Read the Story and please dont judge. Just your honest Opinion
📖 When “Play-Play” Courtship Habits Become Marriage “Wahala!” 😂🤦🏾♀️
Family and Friends, come closer, let me tell you a story that landed in my counseling office recently. As in, I am still rubbing my forehead! And trusting God.
"THE STORY:
There was this lovely young couple. Back when they were dating—you know that sweet, “doing-fizz-together” courtship stage? They loved going on weekend getaways and sightseeing. They were so free with each other, always laughing. But they had one "funny" tradition.
Whenever they checked out of a hotel, they would playfully... "borrow" (I dont want to say steal) things.
Yes! It started small. A spoon here, a towel there. Then it became "romantic teamwork."
“Babe, look at this nice bedsheet, shouldn't we take it?”
“Oya, put it in the bag, jare! No one will know!”
They would laugh, feel adventurous, and see it as their little, harmless inside joke. They were playing "partners in crime" (literally!).
Fast forward... They got married! 💍
A few months into the marriage, the wife noticed something strange. She picked up a spoon to eat—there was the husband’s name, boldly written on it with a marker.
She went to use the bedsheets—his name was scribbled on the hem.
She looked at the back of the television—his name was there!
Confused and irritated, she confronted him: “My friend, what is the meaning of all these labels? Why is your name on everything like we are in a boarding school? Is it that you don't trust me?”
The husband looked at her dead in the eye and said: “Well, my love... I’ve seen you happily pack bedsheets, spoons, and towels from hotels that weren't ours.
I just want to be 100% sure that if we ever have a fight, you don't 'playfully' pack my household items and go!” 😳
Oh, oh! The joke was no longer funny!
The wife was so offended, feeling branded as a thief by her own husband, that she packed her bags and wanted to quit the marriage. That was how they ended up sitting right in front of me.
💡 My Counseling Takeaway:
I had to sit them down and break it down.
Young people, listen to me closely:
Be very careful what you normalize during courtship! What you do as a “joke” or a “playful thrill” when you are dating can easily become the lens through which your partner judges your character in marriage.
You think you are being "funny" or "sharp," but your partner is taking mental notes. If you can steal, lie, cheat, or compromise your integrity “jokingly” when you are dating, do not expect your partner to suddenly believe you are 100% trustworthy once a ring is on your finger.
The foundation you lay during courtship is what you will build on in marriage. Guard your character. Practice the integrity you want to see in your future home, because tomorrow, that "harmless joke" might become a mountain of mistrust you cannot easily climb over.
What do you think about this? Was the husband too harsh, or did the wife’s past catch up with her? Let’s talk in the comments below! 👇🏾👇🏾
