Master Your Mindset

28/10/2021

Hello there! It's been a long time since my last post. That's because I've been busy figuring out how to combine a few of my passions on a platform that is engaging, insightful, fun and thought provoking.

Writing for Self Reflection is the result of that endeavor. It embodies my talent for writing, my love of self-reflection, and my skill as life coach.

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03/07/2018

We all know WHAT surrendering is - a mindset of accepting that we don’t have absolute control over the outcome of what we want. Simply put, it’s letting go.

Where most of us get stuck is on HOW to do it. We set a goal and by hook or by crook we shape circumstances to fit our idea of how it should turn out. The alternative is to surrender. In other words to let it be OK if it ends up being how we think it should be and being OK if it doesn’t. Not easy but living becomes much easier.

02/02/2018

Responsibility is the ability to respond to situations and events in a way that reflects what you hold to be true for you. It does not involve imposing your version of authenticity on anyone or on any situation, even if you deem those things to be wrong.

In her phenomenal book Loving What Is, Byron Katie writes that “there are only three types of business: yours, mine and God’s. Whose business are you in?” Responsibility requires that at any given moment you are minding your own business. If you’re all up in everybody else’s business, who’s taking care of yours?

13/01/2018

Commitment presupposes a choice.

Commitment is consistently and consciously choosing to do what you say is important to you.

Commitment is the main ingredient in the mix called success. (Achievement is the icing but not the cake.)

Commitment requires only one baker and that’s YOU.

Commitment includes taking responsibility for whatever actions you decide to take. Or not.

Commitment is powerful and can therefore seem intimidating to the fledgling boulanger who may fear failure.

Commitment is a mindset that focuses positive attention on what you say is important to you; therefore, there is no way that you can fail. Ever.

18/12/2017

Did you know that every negative thought you have adds to the negativity energy already swirling around. Criticize yourself or another? You add to it. Lament the past? You add to it. Call the guy who just cut you off an a-hole? Yep. Fearing the future? Plus 1. Feeling guilt about the things you said to your teen this morning when you two argued? Mmm Hmm.

Here’s a solution. Ask yourself, “Would I rather add negativity or positivity to the world?” If you choose positivity, make the commitment to pay attention to how you feel. And think positive thoughts.

29/11/2017

Say this as soon as you wake up for 30 days and see what happens.

21/11/2017

27/01/2017

What makes your heart beat? I mean, it’s not like you have to set your alarm 30 minutes earlier so you can pump it up, turn a crank or otherwise manually reset the old ticker before you start your day. When’s the last time you asked yourself HOW your heart beats?

It comes down to energy, doesn’t it? A complex cooperation of chemicals and electrically charged cells (think protons, neutrons and electrons) keeps the beat without us having to do a thing, not even think about it.

But what ensures the release of chemicals in the right quantities going to the right places like clockwork 24/7? I believe it’s the same energy that’s responsible for gravity and that keeps the Earth spinning on its axis without us having to pump it up, turn a crank or otherwise manually reset the old Mother. We don’t even have to think about; it just happens.

What gets your heart beating faster when you contemplate it? Yes, s*x does count! What do set your alarm 30 minutes earlier for that pumps you up with eagerness? Do you get out of bed because you “gotta” – get the kids up; get to work on time; etc – or because you have something to look forward to? Excitement and eagerness to get your day started are also energy…the same energy, in fact, that beats your heart and spins the earth.

The next time you notice yourself feeling bad (bored, frustrated, mad, anxious) or low on energy, try just a little bit to feel or listen to your heartbeat. Try it right now. When you feel it, close your eyes and see the earth spinning slowly, quietly then you will know that you’re connected to God’s (the Universe’s, Allah’s, Spirit’s) LOVE – the highest energy there is.

24/01/2017

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Put it on your calendar now, stay on top of the issues and be prepared to be an informed voter. This is THE most effective way to help create change. Remember, they represent and work for us.
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14/12/2016

We know there’s a difference between a positive mindset and a negative one. And we all probably prefer optimism over pessimism. Some of us might even agree on the crucial role mindset plays in determining how successful your life feels – or doesn’t feel.

As though we were in a choir eagerly nodding our heads as we read these words and passionately singing amen, most of us will go through our days without paying any attention whatsoever to our thoughts. That’s because the vast majority of people simply don’t know HOW to cultivate a positive mindset, or one of success, abundance, happiness or well-being.

The key to mastering your mindset is KNOWing that it’s an active process that must be practiced every single day. Just like you can’t get bigger biceps by sitting on the couch knowing you should lift weights, you can’t train your mind to focus on what you want or how you want your life to be.

Start your day by warming up your mind, which is done by becoming aware of the way you feel. Set your intention first thing in the morning to pay attention to the way you feel. When you know how you feel, you know whether your thoughts are focused on life-affirming thoughts or self-defeating ones. Feeling bad is nature’s way of telling you’re thinking thoughts of worry, anxiety, guilt, shame, insecurity, doubt, anger, frustration, irritation, blame, defensiveness. In other words: you’re thinking bad-feeling thoughts.

As intricate, powerful and awesome the human mind is, it can only think one thought at a time. You simply can’t feel good when you’re thinking a bad-feeling thought. Alternately, when you’re appreciating the things you’ve already created in your life (family, friends, money in your pocket, a roof over your head, food on your plate) you can’t feel bad. The best part is that you can plug into appreciation At. Any. Time. My Aunt Alice told me once that it’s impossible for her to feel sad when she’s eating something sweet. It really is up to you. Choose to let appreciation be your sweet.

01/12/2016

If you think meditation means sitting in the lotus position for hours then consider this. Meditation is really about focusing your attention on the here and now. If you can already manage to clear your head of all thought for 15 minutes or more, this post isn’t for you! It’s for people who think they can’t meditate.

At the beginning simply having the desire to experience the power and the pleasure of right here right now is a good first step. The next step is to notice yourself take ONE deep belly breath. Do that right now. What did you notice? I noticed that when I exhaled my shoulders relaxed. Makes sense because I did more than just take a deep breath. In fact I just told my brain that everything is all right, and every breath I focus on just confirms that I’m just fine.

They amygdala controls our fight or flight response to anything we feel threatened by, and negative thoughts make us feel bad. Negative thoughts are always about bad things that happened to us in the past, about the good things that probably will never happen in the future or about how we’re not good enough. It’s no wonder these thoughts distract us from the here and now.

Focusing on your breath – even if it’s for one minute a few times a day – is like your grandmother cuddling you on her lap, kissing your cheek and whispering that everything is all right…that you’re just fine…that you are loved. We all have time to feel like that.