07/09/2025
Does anyone like Paddy Gower?
I ask the question, because last week I read his book, “This is the F #$%ing News”.
I was enjoying it so much I brought it up in numerous conversations throughout the week.
But most people replied with some iteration of “I don’t like him”.
I thought it was a bit weird, tbh.
I haven’t watched TV much in years, so my memory of him is from the news maybe 10 plus years ago.
And I don’t think I hold any opinions on people in that kind of role.
Maybe I’ve got better things to think about, or maybe I’m dumb and ignorant.
In any case, I always thought he was cool. So did my flatmate and bestie in my 20s. We liked his vibe.
Anyway, I read his book off the back of another that was vaguely similar in the sense the author had a problem with alcohol.
Her name is Laurie Woolever, and her memoir “Care & Feeding” opened my eyes to some of the atrocious behind-the-scenes of the New York restaurant scene.
I was GRIPPED by it; it was unlike anything I’d read before and centred in a place and industry I know little about, so I learned a lot.
But I was also intrigued by some online reviews I’d read of people absolutely disparaging the woman, exclaiming what a horrible human being she must be because of all the years she spent in a drunken tailspin and the resulting indiscretions on her marriage.
That’s not what I took away from her story at all.
I only saw a person having the courage to face their demons, own up to their wrongdoings and probably find some catharsis through writing it all out on paper.
There will be a lot about her experience others can learn from, now she is out the other side of her addictions and trying to lead a better life for herself.
She is only human, after all.
Who are we if we condemn people for coming clean in the most public way on how they acted when they weren’t?
She didn’t commit any crimes, aside from perhaps sinning in the eyes of some and hurting a handful of people along the way.
And Paddy Gower is similar.
Apparently he’s acted like a dick at times. Haven’t we all?
But he’s similar to Laurie in that he realised something about his life he wasn’t happy with (being an alcoholic), and then sought to change it.
If you “don’t like Paddy Gower”, maybe read his book.
Maybe think about whether you don’t like him, or just don’t like his opinions.
Maybe you will learn to appreciate the beauty of someone baring their innermost thoughts and insecurities rather than judging them on what they tell you through your TV screen.
He is a human just like you and I, just like Laurie Woolever.
And he wrote a fu***ng good book.
(Be prepared for chapters 18 and 19, I cried).