31/03/2022
Positive and Negative
Workplaces have seen success when negativity is removed almost entirely from the office. When a good worker/performer is surrounded by negative attitudes, they're highly more likely to leave their position than they are to be dragged down with the people around them. Which for a company that wants to retain its talent, can be a critical loss.
Common forms of negative behaviours that make toxic co-workers unpleasant to work with, include:
• ongoing backstabbing/gossiping
• extreme defensiveness
• narcissism – they believe they know better than anyone
• demean/undermine others
• bias
The word toxic is used because these people are genuinely behaving like a poison to your workplace and its culture and to you and your wellbeing. This makes it quite a challenge for you to maintain your own well-being, professionalism, and collaborative spirit when you’re exposed to them.
How do we deal with them? Some of us get sucked into their rhetoric or gossip and I think the hardest thing to do is to walk away and not engage, especially if they are seen as senior to you or in a position of influence.
The best way to handle these people is to try and avoid the person where possible. For example, don’t engage at team lunches, or other work-related events/meetings. But if you do have to engage with them, try and keep your interactions brief so you don’t risk encouraging them.
But if you have to work with them on a regular basis, don’t give in. In the same way that negativity is contagious, so, too, is positivity. Counteract the negative with a healthy dose of the positive and watch the toxicity wither away. This can of course take a few goes and eventually the toxic person will know you are not going to support their views or actions.
Ongoing backstabbing/gossiping
Gossip can wreck your reputation if you don’t address the issue, yet every office and working area has a gossip of some sort. These types thrive on speculating about romances between co-workers, spreading rumours, and talking negatively about other people when they’re not around. They tend to backstab a manager or the organsiation and try to get you onboard with their views.
Extreme defensiveness
These people can appear to avoid, deflect, deny of any form of responsibility and knowledge of critical information, and can try to minimize any harm caused to others. This type of behaviour can inhibit change and bring trust and confidence into question. These people can also blame others for their shortcomings and ensure many co-workers know “it wasn’t their fault”, when most of the time they are at the core of the issue.
Narcissism – they believe they know better than anyone
These people believe their workplaces can’t operate without them and see the rules, processes and procedures don’t apply to them. This person’s behaviour can make you feel you haven’t done a good job or its wrong and how they would have done it better, but actually you’ve done all the hard work and achieved great results, but the credit goes to this person.
Demean/undermine others
These toxic coworkers might agree to help you with a project but then come up short or miss a deadline and feign ignorance or undertake deliberate actions to ensure you fail. That kind of behaviour can make you look bad in front of your manager, which could damage how your perform in your role or make you look inadequate in front of your co-workers.
Bias
Stereotyping and biases, these people may often attribute certain qualities or characteristics to all members of a particular group with little knowledge to support their views. A person may even express explicit disapproval of a certain attitude or belief publicly in a group setting while still harboring similar biases on a more unconscious level. These people can deliberately undermine or unsettle a meeting but likely to have had some conversations with others to gain support prior.
While people might like to believe that they are not susceptible to these biases and stereotypes, the reality is that everyone engages in them whether they like it or not. It’s just to what level is it openly communicated.
How do we turn a negative person/culture to a positive?
There is no shortage of information about how to create a positive organisational culture or affect cultural change within an organisation. But what if you’re not the CEO or General Manager and you don’t feel like you have the power to create that change?
What if you’re a manager of a team that is part of an organisation with a negative culture? You may feel powerless to overcome the influence of the wider organisational culture. Your efforts, regardless of how good a leader you are, may do little to negate the influence of the organisation’s culture.
As a manager you have many challenges, not least of which is creating and maintaining a positive culture in your team. You may be an exceptional leader, you may have completed professional development in leadership excellence, and you may be doing all you can to be an effective leader. But many managers report problems with their team being negatively influenced by the culture of the organisation. In such an organisation, negative impacts on your team’s culture can come from above (the actions and decisions of senior management) and from all around from any member of the organisation.
Ask yourselves:
• Are we socially supportive? Meaning are you inclusive and interactive with your teams or are decisions already made at the top table before the team can engage?
• How do you manage unethical behaviours? What is the consequence of bad behaviour versus good behaviour?
• How do we promote collaboration? Is it senior manager led, or front line led?
• How transparent are you? How much distrust is there in your team? Do you trust your team to get the job done?
What do you company values mean…just a bit of paper posted on a wall in the office where some people may interpret this as management caring about organisational culture, whereas others may interpret it as the organisation having a poor culture that needs to be changed. Where does your team sit?
If you have little control over the influence of the wider organisation, then this is particularly a problem if your team culture conflicts with the wider organisational culture. Your team will be constantly exposed to, and influenced by, the wider organisational culture. This will create uncertainty by undermining the shared understandings that exist between your team members.