22/09/2026
Sometimes the best thing to do is choose yourself, walk away, and pivot. That can be really difficult, which I say from firsthand experience.
I've learned and observed that you have to be willing to recognize and honor when that's in your best interest. No one can do this for you.
I've also learned and observed that you have to be willing to let go of the idea that you must find strength within to keep pushing and climbing in the same direction when everything inside is telling you otherwise. No one can do this for you.
I've faced these things in life and work in situations that almost broke me. I don't want to repeat that, so I've started practicing this on the bike to build resilience in these "choose-yourself muscles." I did it last week during our epic 6 days of cycling in the Dolomites, supporting Cynisca Cycling's Pathway Fund for women's pro-cycling.
As much as I wanted to be able to say I did all 6 days and rides, during the day 5 ride, I knew I was done. I got myself through that ride by expressing gratitude for the experience thus far, by acknowledging it was my final ride of the trip, that it was my final climb of the trip, that on day 6 I would rest and finalize a brand partnerships presentation for my client.
I woke up on day 6, physically destroyed and happy that I wasn't going to ride. That freed me up from FOMO and regret as I watched my husbabe head out to ride. In 5 days of riding, I completed 270 miles and climbed 37,000 ft of vert, but I am proudest of choosing myself in that moment, walking away from the day 6 ride, and pivoting my plan for the day.
Why am I sharing this?
To emphasize that practicing doing hard things in one arena can help you build tolerance and 'muscles' needed to do them more easily in other arenas. This is what makes it easier to choose yourself, walk away, and pivot when needed.
You are the only one who can do this for you.
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