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18/10/2024

Jag har fått så många frågor. Varför säljer vi Lustfyllt?

För att det är helt enkelt dags att gå vidare i livet. Allt har sin tid.

Jörgen och jag äger fastigheten ihop men det är främst jag som har skött verksamheten och jag är i en annan fas av mitt liv där jag inte längre vill jobba kvällar, helger och ibland nätter – vilket är en förutsättning för att lyckas i restaurangbranschen. Jag vill tänka lite mer på mig själv, min hälsa, prioritera tid med barnbarnen och vänner, resa, skriva klart min roman och en andra barnbok.

Vi har testat med olika samarbeten men verksamheten kräver ett kontinuerligt engagemang, gästerna vill inte behöva leta fram om det är öppet eller inte. I år har vi endast jobbat med bröllop och gruppbokningar och väldigt många har skrivit och undrat om fikabufféerna, bruncherna, teatermiddagarna, våra omtyckta afternoon tea. Det finns så mycket potential i vår vackra Lada (eller ’Gamla Damen’ som jag brukar kalla den), det gör ont att den bara får vila för att jag inte längre orkar driva verksamheten.
Vi har även fantiserat ett tag om att bygga om till boende för det är också en möjlighet. Tänk att bo här och vakna varje morgon till en ny Vättern-tavla. Mer magiskt ställe finns knappt att hitta!

Fastighetsmäklare Ceylan och Sandberg sköter försäljningen och det är Kristian Ceylan som svarar på alla relaterade frågor. Vi har bokningar för 2025 som vi har ambitionen att fullfölja men har valt att inte boka för 2026 då vi inte vet vad nya ägarna vill göra med fastigheten.
Det vi kan garantera är att de som väljer att förvärva Lustfyllt kommer att slukas in i platsens magi!

This is "Ceylan Sandberg - Lustfyllt" by MBergh Media on Vimeo, the home for high quality videos and the people who love them.

04/02/2024

Back-stabbers usually judge us based on who/where we were in the past or who/where we are at currently but out of context and regardless of the surrounding circumstances.

Face to face feedback is an opportunity to justify, rectify, abandon a behavior. But don't let a negative comment made behind your back stop you from trying to always be a better version of yourself. Someone else's judgement of our past or even current position doesn't predict anything about our real potential.

Like the saying goes: Before judging someone, try walking a mile in their shoes.

21/01/2024

My grief is a sea urchin.

There are hundreds of varieties of sea urchin that range in different size, color, and shape. What they have in common is that they are all edible. Often called the “foie gras” of the ocean, their inside is a delicacy but if their spines break off in our skin, they can cause real pain and damage. In fact, the spines might appear to be gone but can remain in the deeper layers of our skin and, without treatment, they may migrate to finally wedge against a bone or a nerve.

Grief, like sea urchins, have thousands of varieties that range in origin, depth, and intensity. What they have in common is that, to heal, the grief must go somewhere. If we keep it inside, it can cause a deep psychological lesion because it can’t just go away.

All my life, even in my happier moments and despite thorough self-work with psychotherapy and yoga, I have constantly been haunted with a sadness for which I could never find an appropriate explanation. Today I understand I was not ready to face my own grief.
My mother died when I was 9 and I was not allowed to cry. “It won’t bring her back” my aunt said. Instead, I was prompted to comfort my grieving grandmother and I had to assume the role of the adult at my dad’s house. He was devastated by the loss of his wife, my Maman, and put me in charge of the household and of taking care of him.
I was 21 when my Papa died and I was already getting used to think of death and loss as a ‘normal’ part of life, nothing to feel too much sorrow about. I just kept on moving.
When my brother died, I was even more ‘resilient’, blamed his way of life for his too early departure and refused to go to the funeral.

As a child, I began digging a hole inside my heart to drown my anger, my fear, my sadness. With years passing, the hole kept growing. I thought I could keep all that grief buried forever, but my wise body wanted otherwise. It started to hurt in different ways, the less I avoid feeling, the more it ached. Because I never allowed myself to grieve and feel the pain of losing loved ones, I was also holding down my capacity to feel real joy. What I labelled ‘resilience’ and ‘acceptance’ was fear of being authentic and vulnerable. And my body could not cope with the overwhelming stress of my denial.
A CNN interview with Stephen Colbert became the breech in my personal Hoover Dam. Decades of unwept tears flooded and writing my memories became a must. The more I wrote and the closer I came to the feelings I avoided.

Grief requests acknowledgement, sincerity and sharing. We need to talk about the people we lost, we need to allow and be allowed to mourn. And we need to give ourselves time to heal, we cannot rush the process. If we go too fast, grief shies away to get stronger and then catches us with its sharpened claws when we least expect it. Trying to get over it too soon is nothing heroic, the tough choice is to face the fear. Only then can we really leave the past behind and live fully in the present.

06/01/2024

I hate cold weather so I am in deep gratitude.

As an island born, I prefer sunshine and high temperatures so when the thermometer drops down to minus 22 Celsius (that reads -8 degrees Fahrenheit…), my body panics and my monkey mind rants “Why are you doing this to us?”

But then, my EQ-smart soul pushes them aside and chants, “Thank you, Gods of the Universe for giving me a roof over my head, enough wood to light in the fireplace, warm clothes if I must go out, plenty of food, a job I like most of the time, family and friends to love.”

My empathy (and a bit of guilt) goes to less fortunate people and most of all to . With temperatures dropping way below zero, the extremely cold weather brings grave dangers to people without a home. Homelessness is an incredibly difficult and dehumanizing situation. It doesn’t just mean losing the warm comfort and safety of a permanent shelter, it also means losing a complete way of life, relatives, friends.

We must never judge or look down on another human being, especially one who has lost its footing and ends up on the outskirts of society. Homelessness is something that could happen to any of us. People can become homeless for lots of different reasons: lack of affordable housing, tragic life events such as a death or a separation, unemployment that leads to poverty, mental or physical problems. Many survivors of domestic violence become homeless when leaving an abusive relationship.

Life on the streets can be a harsh and humiliating experience. Apart from not having a place to sleep, eat, feel secure, the mental struggle of isolation, violence and abuse is even a heavier burden to bear. Suicides among homeless people are common. And in wintertime, death by hypothermia and frostbite takes its toll.

Thankfully, there are amazing organizations that help homeless people get back some dignity. In Jönköping, Sweden, where I live, www.helamanniskan.se is one of them. May i encourage you to give yourself a New Year’s present by sending them a contribution?

And remember how we can be grateful for what we have (instead of complaining about what we don’t have).

May the Spirit of Love fill our hearts with . Always.


Other great organizations are:
www.raddningsmissionen.se
www.fralsningsarmen.se
www.rodakorset.se

14/12/2023

"When people insult you, don't take offense, don't take it personally, but do listen to their words.
They are telling you how they see the world, and they are telling you the exact negative qualities that they possess.

The Law of Mirrors states that one can only see what's in them, regardless if it is what is actually present in reality or not. Release the need to defend or try to explain to them that you're not being whatever-nasty-insult-they've-thrown-at-you, but evaluate instead all of these insults, and realize that this is who they are.

Then, decide if a person with those qualities is one who you'd like in your life or not."

-- Doe Zantamata is an artist, photographer and the author of the Happiness in Your Life book series. I often turn to her quotes when ruminating on events that unsettle me.

07/09/2022

I once tried to count how many books I have read since I started at the age of four. And how many words I have written.

For me, writing is a close friend of therapy. New research suggests expressive writing can offer physical benefits to people battling and . Here I want to quote Doctor Gabor Matés definition: ”Trauma is not what happens to you, it's what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you.”
Which means you can not change the past but you can act upon your feelings about what has happened.

While writing is not a total replacement for , it is a great tool that can help us create meaning with past trauma and feel better. Journal writing can serve as a helpful addition to traditional talking therapies, it is an easy and effective coping technique.

It can be done individually, with just you, a notebook and a pen (because sequential hand movements, like those used in handwriting, is a cathartic exercise that can activate large regions of the brain responsible for thinking, healing and working memory), or it can be coached by a Write Your Self Guide.

Are you interested in finding out more?
Follow the link to Write Your Self https://lnkd.in/e2gXVaPH or send me a message – I am a Certified Guide now!

So, you can choose how you want my help, through Walking Coaching or Writing Your Self

10/08/2022

Sometimes contentment is a matter of will.
We have to look at what stands in front of us and stop measuring it with what it should/could have been.
See and enjoy what we have and not regret what we’ve lost.

31/07/2022

About norm matching.

Being swayed by the input of others is often called “norm matching.”

Whether we realize it or not, we try to match our behaviors to the norm, to others around us, in order to fit in, to belong, to not make waves.

The rules of belonging in our group dictate what the culture of our group is.

We humans are hard-wired to adopt the behaviour that helps us belong to a group, even with people we have never met before.

Our subconscious is constantly telling us that we need to be a member of a group in order to survive. ”Fit in or die!”

I usually stay away from animal products but my golfing friends have a traditional hot dog break after hole 9, so… 😝

⛔️What behaviors do you change depending on where you are and who you are with?

02/06/2022

Only recently have I learned to pay close attention to my body and its symptoms. Not that I was not aware of what my body was feeling and trying to tell me but I was denying and avoiding to listen even when my organs were loudly speaking to me and telling me what was wrong or even right sometimes.

Being okay with slowing down is something I’ve had much difficulty working at. I was noticing (and still do) an unpleasant discomfort fill me when I did, a feeling as if I should be doing something (anything!) more worthwhile instead of wasting valuable time and missing out on opportunities to make a measurable difference. I still notice how I am at times judging myself for resting, feeling on some level disappointed that I need to do it.

Everything and definitely the messages from our body can be a lesson if we’re willing to pay attention and listen. And there is no way ignoring that rest is vital for better physical and mental health, a stronger immune system and even a better metabolism, reduced stress, improved mood. We need rest. We need to relax. We need to slow down. We need to soften and be kind to ourselves – and to others around us. As a matter of fact I now know that I am more productive if I take the time to rest, if I allow myself to take it easy in between periods of productive stress, if I give myself space to slow down and pause, if I am smart enough to make room for time to recenter, reflect and strategize better solutions.

I know my surname was Ice Queen in my ’old’ life, no wonder considering how I was constantly making a point of showing that I was tougher than the rest. You know the proverb ”There is no rest for the weary”? I could have had those words tatooed on my forehead. I never ’wasted time’ to chitchat and if i did, I would leave before the others had finished their coffee to show my busyness. I was so dedicated to my work I could not comprehend that the others ’had a life’. I was only motivated by results and had little understandings for other people’s ’normal’ interests. In fact, I became defensive when people asked about how I was feeling.

My fierce (appearance of) independence was off-putting for most of my colleagues and I wish they had known that deep down, I was lonely, fearful and compensating my extreme sense of vulnerability with an icy exterior.
Vulnerability is making the conscious choice to NOT hide our emotions, desires or needs from others. Everyone is vulnerable at some point and in some way. Feeling vulnerable is not very nice, so we do our best to avoid or hide the feeling. We have different ways to tackle vulnerability but trying to pretend that we are not, like hiding behind an icy outer facade, isn't fooling anyone.

I am recovering from my fear of vulnerability and I enjoy taking the time for a swim in the middle of the day. ’Coz I’m worth it!’ :)

In which ways are you vulnerable?
How are you showing your vulnerability around those you trust?
I can help you get in touch with your fears.



Photo: Ann-Louise Carlsson

28/05/2022

"Let me help you become the best version of yourself."

Like many other coaches, this was my cheeky invitation to my coachees. Until recently.

After a Walking Meditation I got a new insight, when the Little Voice in my head - that most of the time gives me very good advice, if I listen - whispered: "Best = Competition = Always wanting more = Perfectionism = Never Good Enough".

The main driving force behind is usually a desire to be loved and accepted. But perfectionism is a very bad surrogate for love and there is a significant cost of time, money, effort, or some other resource, when walking the extra mile(s) towards perfection. When this cost isn’t worth it, that’s the point where we should stop, and move on to the next thing that we need to do. This is the point when things can actually get better as we aim for

Good enough does not equal mediocrity. We are good enough when we do not feel hunted by all the demands of professional and private life. When failures are not seen as a weakness. When we walk away from the narrow path of flawlessness. When we no longer strive to constantly control every situation and outcome and we allow life to happen. Perfectionism and aspiring to be our best version can feel impossible and scare us from getting started. We might get stuck in a 'all-or-nothing' thinking. Good enough means we are temporarily and improvable.

However, it is important to make sure that the level we set as ‘good enough’ is actually enough for our actual purposes and allows space for . Good enough does not imply that we strive to do low-quality work. DO NOT MAKE GOOD ENOUGH BE AN EXCUSE FOR BEING LAZY AND SLOPPY!

Remember the 80/20 rule: 20% of the work that we do will be responsible for 80% of the outcomes, which means that the extra time and effort we invest into something past a certain point will have a lower return. Note that the good enough point is not static and that it is highly individual, it could be 90/10, 75/25 and so on. Defining the point is the work a dedicated coach can help with: identify the goal, explore the resources/obstacles/fears, draw a map with the different stages and strategies and then, take the first step and learn to optimize, not maximize.

“Perfect is the enemy of good.”
— Voltaire

I am sure some of you will disagree. Please, share your thoughts :)



Photo: Christiane Petit

13/05/2022

Meditation isn't necessarily about being still.
You may have heard about ’kinhin’ or walking meditation. In walking meditation, rather than focus on the breath, we direct our attention to the movement of our feet and legs.

Walking meditation has origins in Buddhism and can be used as part of a mindfulness practice to improve our balance, make our legs stronger, adjust our heart rate, boost our mental focus and clarity, and help battle anxiety, chronic illness and depression. It can help us gain a greater sense of control over our thoughts, feelings, and actions, allowing us to respond in more constructive ways when we experience negative thoughts or emotions. It also helps us to develop a different awareness of your surroundings, body, and thoughts.



Photo: Christiane Petit