07/10/2024
I took the stage in front of a group of entrepreneurs whose combined annual revenue was probably in excess of $2Bn, a modest estimate.
I shared, in part, arguably the most significant thing about leading an organization: personal evolution.
The reason for destructive leadership is a lack of love.
I know it sounds like an odd thing to say about leading.
But we know that hurt people, hurt people.
Leaders who are toxic, destructive, scheming or authoritarian in nature, mirror their childhood relationship with their parents who are our first leadership role models.
From estimates, toxic leaders make up 1-2% of a large operation.
If you are a small enterprise, one toxic leader is one too much.
Perhaps one thing to consider when hiring is whether people have done their inner work to evolve. They might have:
→ worked with a mentor, coach or therapist
→ unlocked feelings of inadequacy or insecurity
→ seen a change in the way they treat people around them.
For the typical leader, losing one's temper is not common.
Unless under pressure.
If no support is available, tempers will rise.
Wellbeing and leadership are literally synonymous.
If you are unwell as a leader, you cannot be a leader.
What you decide under duress or stress can send ripples, costing you and your organization millions.
Time to undo this.
What are elements in Personal Evolution?
1. Inside Out vs Outside In
Always reflect deeply and make changes internally so that you get external results.
2. Being at Cause vs Effect
Don't "react" to circumstances. Anything that triggers you signals a need to look within so you can "respond" well.
3. Maximize the Platform
What do you do to your opportunities? Are there opporutnities you are taking for granted? Intentionally go for your goals with any opportunity, no matter how simple.
4. Unconscious to Conscious
Aim to make what is unconscious, conscious. This goes for strengths as well as your shadow side.
5. Vision, Purpose, Belief, State, Habit
Studying these will help set you on the pathway toward momentum success.
6. Forward Momentum
Whenever you feel held back and not feeling like doing things, lean forward, get one thing done in any shape or form possible to tell your mind to move forward.
7. Feel Good for no good reason
Don't do things to feel good. Rehearse wonderful states so you can access them on demand.
8. Everything is Feedback
Learn to receive feedback graciously and with gratitude.
9. Identity Setting
Go beyond "mind" setting to identity setting. Who you intentionally decide to be makes a difference.
10. Giving from your strengths
Give from strengths, become a gravitational leader, attract people to you by the gift of strengths that uplift others.
11. Conversational Intelligence
A leader's key role is interpersonal interaction. Learn all skills needed to master this inteligence.
Your leadership is a multiplier for your business, relationships and life.
Are you growing this muscle before you need it?
