Coaching With Chloe

07/04/2025

𝗙𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸 is often misunderstood—but the most effective leaders know its true power.

It’s not merely about course-correction; it’s about catalyzing potential.

🔹 𝗔𝗳𝗳𝗶𝗿𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸 → Illuminates strengths and accelerates confidence.
🔹 𝗗𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗹𝗼𝗽𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗹 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸 → Reveals blind spots and unlocks evolution.

The difference between resisted feedback and received feedback lies in framing. When delivered through the lens of growth—not judgment—it becomes a strategic tool for excellence, not a confrontation.

💡 𝗔 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿’𝘀 𝗿𝗲𝗳𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗲:
"How can I articulate this in a way that inspires action, not defensiveness?"

Because mastery in leadership isn’t about avoiding tough conversations—it’s about making them transformational.

22/02/2025

https://www.jom.media/dont-buy-your-own-koyok-why-we-must-reform-primary-education/?sfnsn=mo&fbclid=IwY2xjawImgPFleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABHRoYpMyhA7WFhsdP-FUGTgLgnC08fx3QojoK53DDvbmaF2ybc5euDYkGnA_aem_PVyqNbrUWXiYqMIaP_j9uw

Singapore’s primary education system is riddled with problems and is fundamentally unsuited to 21st century demands, writes the co-founder of an NGO calling for far-reaching reforms.

03/02/2025

🔥 Want to stand out as a leader in 2025? 🔥
Leadership isn’t just for CEOs—it’s a skill EVERYONE needs, no matter your age or career path. Ready to start building your leadership toolkit? Here are the Top 5 Leadership Skills and how you can develop them:

1️⃣ Emotional Intelligence:

Practice self-awareness by journaling your emotions daily.
Respond instead of reacting—pause before you speak.
2️⃣ Communication:

Master active listening—focus on understanding, not just replying.
Practice clear, concise messaging (bonus tip: rehearse before big conversations!).
3️⃣ Problem-Solving:

Break problems into smaller pieces—what’s one thing you can tackle first?
Play “devil’s advocate” to consider multiple perspectives before deciding.
4️⃣ Adaptability & Resilience:

Push yourself outside your comfort zone (try something new weekly!).
Reframe setbacks as opportunities to learn—what’s the takeaway?
5️⃣ Team Collaboration:

Build trust by celebrating others’ contributions.
Learn to delegate—share the load to achieve more together.
💡 Pro Tip: You’re not “born a leader”—you BUILD leadership skills one step at a time. Start with one skill and grow from there!

👉 Save this post as your 2025 leadership checklist!
💬 Which skill are you focusing on first? Drop it in the comments!
👥 Tag a friend who’s ready to step into their leadership era. Let’s grow together!

28/01/2025

May good health and joy be with you through the year of Snake. 🍊 🍊

31/12/2024

May the New Year brings new experiences, growth, fulfilment and joy. Happy 2025!

24/12/2024

Happy Everything this Holiday Season!
May the holiday season bring you special moments and happy memories.

23/12/2024

Perfectionism is a mind trap. The more you try to become perfect, the more pressure, stress, and anxiety you feel. The more hopeless you feel about being able to maintain that, the more depressed you feel that you're stuck in this cycle, and all of a sudden, nothing is worth it.

Focus on being present in the process and grow with the process, instead of being fixated on a single outcome.

09/12/2024

Do you have a happy place?

One of my happy places is the bookstore or the library. There is something therapeutic about running my fingers through different books and pages, and looking at stationery. In most of my travels, I would typically try to fit in a visit to a bookstore in the itinerary, despite knowing that my husband has no interest in visiting one. He would humour me to walk through the bookstore. If something interesting catches his eye, he may make a purchase before finding his way to the cafe in the bookstore. He would order himself a drink knowing that I would need an hour or two to be in my own world.

At the end of it, as I step out of the store or library, there is always this distinct feeling of me stepping out from my happy place back into the real world, recharged and rejuvenated.

1 - Takeo City Library, Kyushu
2 - Tsutaya Bookstore, Aeon Mall Tebrau City, JB
3 - BookXcess, Sunway, JB
4 & 5- Bumpodo, Jimbocho Old Book Town, Tokyo

25/11/2024

I shared earlier that I am receiving coaching myself as part of my ICF-ACC renewal requirements. It is opportune as I am in the midst of making transitions in my life and wanted to revisit certain challenges I struggled with previously. It's not that I have not reflected upon them and addressed them before, but to check on myself and my progress in keeping to my priorities and holding my boundaries between work and life.

Shortly after my coaching session, I came across this quote. It is a short quote but left a profound impact on me. I wish I remembered where I read this from to give credit to but I just could not find it. Doing more than my best at work had left me with little time for life and compromised my health. Transiting from corporate life to a small business owner does not make this easier. It's a shift of mindset and a change of practice to strike a balance between work and life and I work hard in doing this well. This quote just gave me a different perspective. I hope this helps you, too.

28/10/2024

𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗻𝗲𝗿

Like all teens, my son prefers me to stay out of his room and leave him to do his work at most times. Last week, my son had some issues trying to get started on his revision for one of his exam papers. After struggling for a couple of hours, he came to me with a request to sit beside him to keep get his study momentum going, so that he would stop procrastinating with what he had to do. I am glad he knew what he needed and asked for it. So I sat beside him reading my book till he said he was good to be alone.

In life, we, too, should have a small network of friends that we could fall on when we need accountability partners to keep us on track with what we want to do and achieve. If you never had one, you may find it awkward to ask someone to be your accountability partner for the first time. Several of my clients struggled with this when I worked through their action plans and putting in structures to keep them focus and on track.

Having an accountability partner does not need to happen only for big plans or changes. It just needs to be something you are working on that require that added support to keep you on track. So if there is a task you always struggle to get started or a milestone that you are trying to achieve, think of someone you can depend on to check in with you regularly so that you are kept on your toes with what you want to do. Once you are good to do without your partner, you just need to let them know because you are good to manage on your own.

14/10/2024

Imposter syndrome is something I struggled with throughout my growing years, even when I was in my mid 30s. A breakthrough was made possible because of my then 7 year old son, who was struggling with his perfectionist traits. He could erase and re-write his words repeatedly till the paper tore, despite having his art teacher patiently working through with him, drawing without using the eraser once. As a reflective child, he would end up with negative self-talk when the process of getting the words "right" seemed to be an impossible task. "Impossible" was a frequent word coming out of his mouth.

We read several story books to change his mindset until I chanced upon a random quote depicting "IMPOSSIBLE" as "I M POSSIBLE" and that hit home for him. It was simple enough for him to catch himself and say the positive phrase instead whenever he struggled with feeling not good enough. In the process, I grew along side with him, taking the same steps towards my self-growth in overcoming that constant feeling of not enough.

07/10/2024

𝗕𝗲 𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗱, 𝗯𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗼𝗿 𝗯𝗲 𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗲?
We struggle with this in our various roles, as a friend, parent, colleague or leader. I struggled most with this as a HR practitioner and leader, and find it the toughest when I have an employee with mental health issues and not willing to seek help.

If the employee is actively seeking help, we can exercise compassion to review the work load and provide some flexible work arrangements. If he requires a period of leave from work, we can review what could be put in place to allow the employee to have some time away from work, knowing that he is actively working to recover and contribute at work.

When the employee is unwilling to seek help or in denial of his situation and how it is impacting his work performance, the situation becomes a lot tougher to handle. Often, a leader would attempt to give feedback gently and nudge the employee to consider seeking help. This approach is often ineffective because the employee would continue to deny the situation. The organisation feels stuck but continue to be nice to the employee, nudging him every now and then but never make any headways. What happens is that the rest of the employees would be affected. If this employee is being excused for his poor performance over prolonged period of time, other staff would not be happy even if they were empathetic. If this staff is in a leadership role, there would be impact on his team, causing poor team morale, poor engagement or high turnover.

In such a situation, the organisation has to exercise kindness and compassion delicately because it’s not a charity and has other employees to take care of. It’s important to:
1) actively engage the employee to communicate clearly on his performance
2) communicate the impact surrounding his work performance
3) Indicate the organisation's expectations and the support they are going to put in place to help the employee recover
4) Share upfront the partnership they expect from this employee and the options available if the employee chooses not to seek help

I learn that being nice in such situations is most unkind to the person needing help and the larger organisation.