Personal Progress Strategies

03/09/2023

After a long time again a longer contribution from me. Thank you for your patience if you have been waiting for new tips. . Apart from personal progress strategies, I also work on business ones and it all takes time.

This post is dedicated to our needs and how they can be negatively met in the form of bad habits and behaviors. I myself was an emotional overeater and weighed 105 kg twice in my life before I was 27. Now my weight has been around 80 for years.

And I also smoked and drank at the time, but I was not really aware of how harmful that was to me and the people around me. People who got to know me after the period of negative habits can not believe that was me, because now, at the age of 44, I am something completely different.

I really believe in self-discipline and setting boundaries, because they help me to be more satisfied with myself. Anyway, I hope this post brings you closer to the reasons why, because I did not really understand them 20 years ago. And we all need a reason after all.

When I realized that the sky is not the limit, only my mind is, I radically changed my habits. In terms of eating, exercising, drinking, socializing and communicating with myself. I would call it a total makeover.

Because I wanted to be a better person for myself and others. I didn’t want to look at myself in the mirror because I knew it was not the good version of me.

Now I like my mirror and the mirror that people around me hold up to me by giving me their feedback. And I just love to receive and give feedback. It has enormous healing power.

23/08/2023

Da li znate šta znači biti istinski ispunjen?

Vidim da mnogi ljudi govore o ispunjenju, a da nisu zapravo sigurni o čemu se radi.

Dozvolite mi da to malo pojasnim. Na primer, ako se osećate prazni ili zaglavljeni, prepuštate se lošim navikama, gledate previše Netflik-a ili igrate previše video igrica, vrlo je verovatno da vaša potreba za rastom nije zadovoljena.

To znači da ne rastete duhovno, intelektualno, fizički ili emocionalno. Stvar je u tome da smo mi ljudi konstruisani tako da ili rastemo ili umremo, i to ne samo fizički, već i iznutra, ako živimo kao zombiji u filmovima.

Na primer, ako osećate da ne možete da bitno utičete na događaje ili ljude, da ne doprinosite drugima, da ne ostavljate nešto u amanet ili da ne pomažete drugima a da ne očekujete pritom ličnu korist, onda je veoma verovatno da vaša potreba za doprinosom nije zadovoljena.

Potreba za doprinosom je osećaj služenja drugima i fokusiranja na pomaganje, davanje i podršku drugima. Što vam je više stalo do cilja kojem dajete svoj doprinos, to ćete se osećati ispunjenije.

Međutim, kao što ste možda videli, ove potrebe se mogu zadovoljiti negativno kao i pozitivno.

Zato pokušajte ovih dana da razmislite o obe ove potrebe, a možda će vam ova pitanja pomoći u tome:

Šta radite da biste ispunili svoju potrebu za rastom na zdrav način?

Šta je za vas rast?

Kako doprinosite onima oko sebe?

Šta radite da usrećite one oko sebe?

Ovog p**a pišem samo o ove dve potrebe, jer one uglavnom određuju naše ispunjenje. U narednih nekoliko postova govoriću o četiri osnovne potrebe - sigurnosti, raznolikosti, važnosti i ljubavi. I zašto je njihovo zadovoljavanje izuzetno važno da biste se osećali uravnoteženo.

Kao što sam rekao, sve ove potrebe mogu se zadovoljiti na negativne načine, kao što su prejedanje, alkoholizam, pušenje, kukanje, ogovaranje, nametljivost ili promiskuitet.

Međutim, samo zato što ih je kratkoročno lakše zadovoljiti jer imate hranu ili cigarete pri ruci, takva ponašanja su dugoročno izuzetno štetna. Zato popričajte sami sa sobom i identifikujte šta vam je zaista potrebno.

Javite mi da li je ovo pomoglo i da li je bilo jasno?

Vaš fasilitator ličnog napretka :)

23/08/2023

Do you know what it means to be truly fulfilled?

I see that many people talk about fulfillment without being sure what it is all about.

Allow me to provide some clarity. For example, if you feel empty or stuck, indulge in bad habits, watch too much Netflix, or play too many video games, it's very likely that your need for growth is not being met.

That means you're not growing spiritually, intellectually, physically, or emotionally. The thing is, we humans are wired to either grow or die, and not just physically, but also internally, if we live like zombies.

For example, if you feel that you can't make a difference, that you're not contributing to others, that you're not leaving a legacy, or that you're not helping others without expecting a personal benefit, then it's very likely that your need to contribute is not being met.

The need to contribute is a sense of service and focus on helping, giving and supporting others. The more you care about the cause you are contributing to, the more fulfilled you will feel.

However, these needs can be met negatively as well as positively, as you may have seen.

So try to think about both of these needs these days, and maybe these questions will help you do that:

What are you doing to fulfill your need for growth in a healthy way?

What is growth for you?

How are you contributing to those around you?

What do you do to make those around you happy?

This time I'm writing only about these two needs, because they mainly determine our fulfillment. In the next few posts, I'll talk about four basic needs - security, variety, importance, and love. And why satisfying them is extremely important to feeling balanced.

As I said, all of these needs can be met in negative ways, such as overeating, alcoholism, smoking, complaining, gossiping, clinginess, or promiscuity.

However, just because it is easier to satisfy them in the short term because you have food or ci******es at hand, such behaviors are extremely harmful in the long term. So talk to yourself and identify what you really need.

Let me know if this helped and if it was clear?

Your personal progress facilitator :)

19/08/2023

There are many types of psychological support. But it is important to be very careful because there are not yet clear boundaries and standards for each profession in each country.

Some psychological support providers might even take advantage of uninformed people, and this happens. Some are simply unaware of the great responsibility they have for people's psyche and dare to take cases for which they are not trained.

If you have any doubts or questions about your particular case, you should definitely consult your healthcare provider first. These are sensitive issues and it is better to be safe than sorry.

This is not to scare you, but just to urge you to be cautious, as with any other service in life. There are many great mental health support providers who are great professionals and will do their best to make your life easier.

Take good care of yourself!

17/08/2023

Another story from one of my clients. I'm very proud of the progress he has made thanks to his dedicated work on all tasks. After all, success requires will, hard work and dedication, I was just here to guide the whole process.

Nevertheless, it's anything but easy if you want to work on your self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-esteem. These three concepts are much easier without the prefix self, when they refer to other people.

Perhaps one of the most difficult tasks, at least for me, when I started working on myself more seriously, not just doing self-reflection and occasional self-talk.

I am also still learning, changing and growing, but hey it's a big system that has been functioning for almost 45 years, so much has accumulated ;). The key is to enjoy the journey and the intermediate destinations to the fullest.

I must say that I feel proud and humbled when I receive such client feedback. This means that my mission and purpose are fulfilled.

You know, I started working on my own business and life improvement strategies because I was kind of lost, I didn't have any real purpose, and my life just boiled down to waiting for weekends and vacations to make it a bit dynamic and fulfilled.

But that was just a surface. Deep down I was missing something dearly, there was this emptiness in my chest, and I was craving a change, a goal or whatever that does not depend on other people or material things, just me.

Actually, this happened when I finally met myself thoroughly, and what an interesting feeling. It took me so many years, and I thought I was so knowledgeable back then. Yeah, right.

Today I looked at myself in the mirror in the elevator and thought: hey Zoran, look at your face, do you remember where you were a few years ago with that grumpy face and sad look in your eyes in that very elevator, and look at yourself now.

15/08/2023

And what does that mean? It means that I am aware of how my needs such as security, variety, importance, love, growth, and contribution are satisfied positively and negatively. This gives me inner peace, because I know that I cannot move if they are not satisfied.

I know my core values, things that are sacred to me like wisdom, health and respect, and my actions are in line with them. They are my guiding stars that guide my decisions in professional and personal relationships.

I believe that I am capable of doing what I want to do because I can learn anything I really want to. I believe that change is the only constant in life. These are some of the supporting beliefs that are like those lights on the highway.

And how are you doing?

14/08/2023

Evo priručnika za lakše donošenje odluka na i "našem" jeziku :).

13/08/2023

One of the common problems that I notice with my friends and clients is decision-making. So, I thought this guide might be helpful for you. Let me know what you think :).

11/08/2023

CARM yourself this weekend 😇.

💎PROFECTA BDI’S WEEKEND STARTER💎

🔃 We often get into circumstances that we do not like. To get out of them, we can first ask ourselves whether we can control them.

💊 If we can control them, then apply the recipe from the photo 😊. It really helps like medicine for your mind 😊.

😎 Have a great weekend!

11/08/2023

🤨 Šta je sa ovim crnim mislima? Ljutnja, kukanje i pesimizam skoro svuda gde se okrenem. Znam da nas prirodno privlači negativnost kada čujemo, na primer, o katastrofama, izopačenom društvu, nesrećama, smrti, lošim političarima, lošem sistemu itd.

☠ I ta negativnost može da nas zaštiti u nekim situacijama, ali u mnogim drugim je izuzetno otrovna. Samo pokušajte da razmišljate o lošim stvarima u svom okruženju baš sada i posmatrajte reakcije u svom telu.

🩺 Verovatno ih osećate u stomaku, grlu ili grudima.
Vidite koliko su moćne. I kako su naše telo, um i emocije povezani i utiču jedni na druge, sviđalo nam se to ili ne.
Zapravo, sve što je previše/preterano/ekstremno, čega ima viška, otrovno je za nas, čak i kada je reč o pozitivnosti, ljubavi, perfekcionizmu, empatiji. Ne važi uvek ona da od viška glava ne boli.

💉 Sve zbog čega se osećamo loše, gušimo se, što nam stvara pritisak u grudima, lupanje srca i druge neželjene fizičke reakcije. U ovom slučaju mi smo sebi najveći neprijatelj. Nisu nam potrebni drugi otrovni ljudi ili okruženja da bi u nama izazvali takve reakcije.

Šta možemo da uradimo?

1. Ako ne možete da odagnate crnem misli, duboko udahnite i izdahnite nekoliko p**a da biste se odvojili od negativnih emocija i razbistrili svoj um.

2. Zatim se pitajte šta možete da kontrolišete, a šta ne.

3. Ako možete da kontrolišete nešto, fokusirajte se samo na ono što možete da kontrolišete, kao npr. vaše misli i akcije.

4. Ako možete da kontrolišete, promenite nešto što možete da promenite. Ako ne možete ništa da promenite, prihvatite stvari kakve jesu. Ako ne možete da ih prihvatite, pokušajte da vidite da li možete da ih poštujete. Ako ne možete ni da ih poštujete, pomerite se ili otiđite. Niste drvo 🙂.

💊 Znam, lakše je reći nego uraditi, ali tok misli koji mi se sviđa zbog praktičnosti. Kao lek za postizanje mira u duši :).

🤩 Kao i obično, rešenje je prilično jednostavno, kao što su nam i bake naše govorile, a to je balans. Balans je kao magija. A to u praksi znači da znate kako da postavite granice sebi i drugima, da slušate sebe, razgovarate sami sa sobom i da znate da ste usklađeni sa svojim vrednostima i potrebama. Nadam se da ovo pomaže.

10/08/2023

What is it about these negative thoughts? Anger, complaints, and pessimism almost everywhere I go. I know that we are naturally attracted to negativity when we hear, for example, about disasters, a rotten society, accidents, death, bad politicians, a crappy system, etc.

And this negativity can protect us in some situations, but in many others it is extremely toxic. Just try to think of bad things in your environment right now and observe the reactions in your body.
You probably feel them in your stomach, throat, or chest.
You can see how powerful they are. And how our body, mind and emotions are connected and affect each other whether we like it or not.

Actually, anything that is too/excessive/extreme, that is in excess, is toxic to us, even when it comes to love, perfectionism, empathy.

Anything that makes us feel bad, suffocate, have pressure in the chest, heart palpitations and other physical reactions. In this case, we are our worst enemy. We do not need other toxic people or environments to trigger such reactions.

What can we do?

If you cannot dispel the negative thoughts, take a few deep breaths to disengage from the negative emotions and gain clarity in your mind. Then examine what you can control and what you can not. If you can control something, focus only on what you can control, such as your thoughts and actions.

If necessary, change something that you can change. If you can not change anything, accept things as they are. If you can not accept them, try to see if you can respect them. If you can not respect them, then move or leave the situation. You are not a tree :). I know, easier said than done, but a practical workflow that I like.

As usual, it comes down to something simple such as balance. Balance is like magic. This means knowing how to set boundaries for yourself and others, listening to yourself, talking to yourself, and knowing that you are in tune with your values and needs. Hope this helps.