Heritage Family Center

31/12/2025

Ya Allah, please make it easy for our brothers and sisters who are finding it difficult to get married, and remove any burdens from them. Ameen.
HERITAGE FAMILY CENTER

21/04/2025

26/03/2025

Don't marry someone that sees marrying you as doing you a favour.

This will be reflected (if you observe well enough) in their tone of talks, words, actions, reactions, references and treatment both privately and publicly.

Yes, it is good to marry a person with value but you also should be valued. You need to actually have value to be valued by the way, so it begins with you creating it.

When a person:

- Shuts you up
- Shuts you down
- Shuts you out
- Waves off your ideas & contributions
- Belittles your existence
- Always has to have the final say
- Always has an issue bigger than yours
- Constantly references favours done
- Demeans you
- Believes nobody will have/love you
- Insults you
- Shows no acknowledgement
- Shows no appreciation
- Acts ashamed of you
- Belittles your family
- Scorns you
- Gets angry at you without control

You really want to think twice before getting married to such because these issues are not going away if not addressed.

You are empowered to prevent some things. Help yourself too.

17/11/2024

10 WAYS TO FIX YOUR WIFE - WHEN SHE IS FALLING APART!

Your wife can be dying in silence while still performing her wifely duties. You will need to know her to know when she needs to be fixed. When a woman is always moody, cries a lot, yells on children, can easily sleep or sleeps a lot, she may be battling with something you are not careful enough to see.

A real man will not allow his wife to fall apart without fixing her and making her better and happy. If you discover your wife is falling apart, watch out and fix the following:

1. CHECK IF YOU ARE THE PROBLEM
You might be her problem, but out of her respect and love for you, she may not tell you. Ask, let her talk sincerely.

2. BE AWARE OF HER RESPONSIBILITIES
Get to know how her work load is killing her. Regardless of whether she stays at home or goes to work, do you know what she does all day? If you don’t, ask her. Her to-do list is probably overflowing with tasks that far outweighs her time and energy.

3. BE APPRECIATIVE
Be mindful of her needs and appreciative of her sacrifices. The work a woman does at home can be too common that nobody will appreciate her for them, this can be killing her. Appreciate your wife.

4. GET INVOLVED BEFORE SHE BURNS OUT
Don’t just be appreciative, but get involved. The best time to begin helping your wife is now. Don’t wait until she breaks down to offer a helping hand.

5. GET MACHINE
Get all the machines needed for her work at home (the ones you can afford). Dish washer, gas cooker, refrigerator, oven, laundry machine, etc.

6. BE AN ACTIVE PARTICIPANT
Be totally involved at home, stop delegating parenting and family life. Don’t be a “visiting Professor”, be an active partner in this business of your life. It takes two to parent. It takes two to make a marriage work. It takes two to run a household. Be fully involved in every aspect of your family life.

7. HOLD HER
Hold her like a lover and a friend. Place your hands on her shoulder, her laps, hold her hands, just hold her and let her feel you.

8. JUST LISTEN
Men are known to be good talkers but very bad listeners. At times what your wife needs is for you to just listen. Do not interrupt, let her unburden, let her talk. Sometimes the best way for a woman to reset is by getting all of her thoughts out. Let your wife talk through her feelings and problems. Show empathy. Listen carefully. Ask questions. Be fully engaged in the conversation.

9. BE A PARTNER NOT A TEACHER
Most men do fall into the “Teaching trap” when they are supposed to be a partner, showing love and consideration. Do not blame, just be there for her. Just listen. That’s all you need to do. And if she wants you to offer solutions, she’ll ask for them.

10. GIVE HER HOPE
No matter what happens, don’t ever raise up your hands in surrender. Giving up, crying or weeping will hurt your wife more. Encourage her. Let her know what you love about her. Help her see the good in any situation. Avoid being overly critical or negative. When she hits rock bottom, be the man who lifts her up, and brings light and hope back into her life

Heritage Family Center

16/11/2024

WHAT A WOMAN WANTS!!!!❤️❤️❤️

Some guys don't know how much those small things can make a girl happy. Many of the fellow guys out there think that buying expensive things, taking a girl to expensive hotels, buying her posh car are the ones that count a lot. But that is totally wrong.

Small deeds mean a lot and they are memorable. If you don't have a big wallet, don't stress a lot. Don’t borrow a loan from a bank just because you want to show her that you are loaded; don’t borrow money from your friends and even clothes just because you want to be classic and stylish to her.
JUST BE YOURSELF.

Compliment her when she is smart; tell her that you like her new hair style, and talk about her smile... Don't over tell her that she is beautiful because sometimes ladies get used to it and it becomes boring and common. Use it once in a while, find other lines and say them in the right time.

Surprise her with small gifts they will mean a lot to her, if you got no credit to call, just text her a good morning or a goodnight message it will imply that you think of her all the time, give her your time, listen to her when she is talking (be a good listener), Do some work or exercises with, if she is going for jogging go together.

If it's a weekend and she is gonna be busy with the domestic work, do it together. If she is busy washing clothes, make breakfast. Go for evening walks together, hold hands, have fun and always keep her smiling.

These are small things but many men fail to fulfill them. They claim they have no time yet they had time to corn her and to take her on dates at the start. If you have done something wrong, accept it, don't be a coward or shy away. Just swallow your ego and say SORRY to her.

what I am sure of is, if she really loves you she will forgive you and she will shower you with her love and care.

All in all if you really love your girl (wife) give her much of your time, respect her and be faithful.

God willing you will be the happiest man with her and your relationship will last forever...

You may take these things for granted but that’s
what a woman wants. She can be with a man who gives her everything, but if he doesn’t give her freedom and much of his time all that mean nothing to her.

That is why you see some ladies dumping guys of class, loaded with money and end up loving the poor guys because they know how to love.

Think about it most especially YOU and put it in practice.

Friends this is my own write up basing on my own experience.

AM I COMMUNICATING????!

17/10/2024

Don't marry someone that sees marrying you as doing you a favour.

This will be reflected (if you observe well enough) in their tone of talks, words, actions, reactions, references and treatment both privately and publicly.

Yes, it is good to marry a person with value but you also should be valued. You need to actually have value to be valued by the way, so it begins with you creating it.

When a person:

- Shuts you up
- Shuts you down
- Shuts you out
- Waves off your ideas & contributions
- Belittles your existence
- Always has to have the final say
- Always has an issue bigger than yours
- Constantly references favours done
- Demeans you
- Believes nobody will have/love you
- Insults you
- Shows no acknowledgement
- Shows no appreciation
- Acts ashamed of you
- Belittles your family
- Scorns you
- Gets angry at you without control

You really want to think twice before getting married to such because these issues are not going away if not addressed.

You are empowered to prevent some things. Help yourself too.

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27/06/2024

HOW TO BE A ROMANTIC HUSBAND
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1. Take her out to intimate, memorable places; not noisy clubs where to communicate you have to shout

2. When you go to pick her up for a date, don't meet her empty handed. Give her a flower, a card, chocolates, candy. Something to show her you are not meeting her casually. Something to remember the date by

3. Let her walk through doors before you. Give her the right of way. Be her soldier

4. When you two are walking, be the one closest to the passing cars. It shows you are protecting her

5. Be generous with your compliments. You find her beautiful, s*xy; tell her

6. No curse words. Your words should be honourable

7. If it's raining and you are both under the same umbrella, be the one to hold it even if the umbrella is hers

8. Ask what she is eating before you order yours at the restaurant

9. Be the one to ask that you two should pray for the food. Prayerful men are romantic

10. Don't be a pervert, treating her like a s*x object, focusing only on s*x. To unlock her s*xiness, treat her like a Queen, wow her mind even when she is your wife

11. Hold her hand when she is stepping down a raised platform

12. Tell her "I love you". Men who express their feelings are romantic. Let it not be that she is guessing your love or has to squeeze it out of you

13. Look into her eyes as she talks to you. Let her know you give her full attention

14. Kiss her when she least expects it. This thrills her

15. Hold her waist in public or when introducing her to people as your woman/wife

16. Whisper intimate and naughty things to her ear in public. It means alot to get away with private conversations in public

17. Call out her name, she answers "Yes", then tell her "I love you" or give her a compliment

18. Rub her hand time to time; when you two are in the car driving and there is traffic, when she says she's had a bad day

19. Shut her up when she is being hard on herself. Correct her when she is negative about life and herself

20. Be a man who loves to cuddle. Her skin and body loves to be touched

21. Offer to unstrap her bra, to massage her, to oil her sometimes

22. Kiss more than her lips; kiss her fingers, forehead, her back, her shoulders; even when s*x is not the agenda

23. During s*x, don't make it only about what you want and your pleasure. She is your wife, she has s*xual needs too. Foreplay is important to her

24. Hold and kiss her after making love

25. Kiss her cheek and lips infront of the children

26. Cover her with a blanket, put a jacket on her when it's cold. Or ask her to dress up, show care for her well-being

27. Ask her out on dates, even as husband and wife

Just because you have spent years together doesn't mean you stop making her feel special. You did romantic things for her to get her, do romantic things to keep her; as you do so, she will respond by giving you the best of her. The man who loves his wife, loves himself

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Heritage Family Center

16/05/2024

Signs you may be in a toxic marriage

- You are always scared of expressing yourself.
- Serious conversations are blocked.
- You are avoidably lonely.
- Issues are addressed with threats
- Crushing words are a norm.
- You are prevented from growing.
- You are physically abused.
- Secrecy.
- Lack of encouragement.
- You are cut off from friends and family.
- Your movement is excessively limited.
- You are being tracked.
- Emotional blackmail happens.
- No apologies even when glaringly wrong.
- You cannot spend what you earn.
- Third party opinions matter more than yours.
- You are not happy with the risks you are being made to take.
- S*x and money are punishment tools.
- You are always made to look wrong.
- You don't have a purpose.
- You are attracted to someone else.
- Lies flow easily.
- You feel insecure.
- You have no privacy in the marriage.
- Efforts are one sided.
- No empathy.

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16/05/2024

She stays in abusive marriage - good woman

She leaves abusive marriage - bad woman.

Unfortunately, this is what we are consciously or unconsciously handed as the principle behind a lasting marriage. It’s all on the woman and she stays on no matter what.

Where she dares to leave, stigma follows as she’s considered largely unworthy.

We need to change this.