Esther Ickes Detweiler

11/14/2025

Two dates. One dash. How are YOU living yours? ✨ Tap ❤️, comment your next move, and tag someone who needs to see this!

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08/05/2025

I gained 109 followers, created 3 posts and received 5 reactions in the past 90 days! Thank you all for your continued support. I could not have done it without you. 🙏🤗🎉

06/11/2025

If you’re feeling stuck, this message is for YOU.

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05/09/2025

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Rescuing Others While Drowning Myself
For years, I believed love meant saving others — friends, partners, even acquaintances — from their pain, their chaos, and their consequences. I thought being needed was the same as being loved.

But here’s what I’ve come to realize, both personally and as a life coach:
Every time you rescue someone, you may unintentionally take away their power to grow.
And while doing that, you slowly abandon yourself.

I’m not saying this is easy — because it’s not.
Anyone who knows me knows I have a big heart. If someone’s struggling, my instinct is to jump in, fix it, carry it, be there. But over time, I learned the hard truth:

You can’t save someone who isn’t ready to save themselves. And in the process of trying, you can lose your own strength, joy, and peace.

Mel Robbins puts it perfectly: “You are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness. You are responsible for your own.” That hit me deep — because for so long, I was trying to be everyone’s lifeline, while neglecting the one person I needed to rescue: me.

Setting boundaries doesn’t mean you love less — it means you love wiser.
Support without saving. Love without losing yourself.

If your heart is heavy with everyone else’s struggles, ask yourself:
“What part of me have I been ignoring while trying to fix everyone else?”

Because the truth is:
Saving yourself first isn’t selfish — it’s powerful. It’s healing. And it’s the only way to truly show up for others from a place of strength.

04/23/2025

A little bit of Wednesday inspiration for the soul…
If you’re still breathing, God’s not done with you yet.
This song? It hits different when you’ve lived a life of loving hard, giving endlessly, and wondering if there’s still more meant for you.

To every woman in her 50s who’s poured herself into others—your kids, your family, your work—and is now standing in the quiet wondering, ‘What about me?’
This is your reminder:
You still matter.
You still have dreams that are worth chasing.
You still have fire in your soul.

And when the world tries to dim your light or people bring that heavy, negative energy—turn this up.
Let these lyrics speak louder than the noise.
You’re not forgotten. You’re being refined.

Midweek mayhem or not—you’ve got this.

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