BZ Coaching

10/02/2024

10/02/2024

I started having clients share wins to help them focus on and celebrate their accomplishments. I am going to do the same here.

The devastation is incomprehensible and the stories are beyond heart breaking.

So these are my personal wins (yesterday & today):

03/06/2023

Being *here* is enough

I’ve been having some old anxiety and self doubt creep in and crash the party

The same criticism and questioning that pushed me for years

Then, I couldn’t face my fears
I avoided them with countless hours of work and performative productivity

This morning I sat with this tired, old, mental mania

I allowed the record to play until it skipped out

I turned to my tools
I witnessed my thoughts, without judgement
I sat with the directions
I journaled
And I didn’t get into *anything* else until I felt and confronted every feeling

From unworthiness to imposter phenomena to suffocating overwhelm to unquenchable self hate, or whatever other label you use to describe that frequency which cripples you - keeping you away from the people and purpose that reflect your inner most desires

I’m sharing this because despite everything I’m building and knowing, I truly couldn’t be more excited to get into it all … with you

I still question *everything*
It’s in these moments I prove to myself
I’m here
I’m enough
I’m doing the damn thing
Faith is more powerful than proof

03/03/2023

I have made some really REALLY bad investments in my life
Multiple 6-fig losses.
Numerous bad calls.
Countless messes to clean-up.

I’ve also bought courses, paid advisors, given time, and spent effortful energy on a bucket full of bad fits - be it employees to mentors, courses to containers.

But I consider all of these investments.
Positive gains.
Worthwhile ROI.

How?

Because I learned.
I proved my resilience.
I tested my tenacity.
And these assets are priceless

Through these experiences I learned to trust myself.
It’s actually a habit now.
I schedule time to review my wins, and learn from my losses.

And through this I discovered, I always succeed.

02/27/2023

Have you ever had a partnership dissolve?
Was it messy?

I was partnered in a financial consulting firm for the last few years.

I financially and personally invested over $300,000 into this business

I was brought on as partner
I had worked with this business for months
I did the analysis
I was thrilled for this opportunity
Especially early into the forced closures but prior to the economic response
I thought YES what an invitation

Secretly, well … subconsciously
I was afraid - I was worried about my existing businesses and coaching because business wasn’t allowed to open
And I was greedy - this business was cash flowing 6-fig months
Turns out I was wrong.
My coaching thrived,
And this business … didn’t

18 months into a grueling strategy I realized despite my best attempts, this partnership was dissolving

I called it - I admitted I couldn’t save the sinking ship

I’m gearing up for a couple new partnership conversations.

Curious, how do you share boundaries and re-draw expectations in your life and work?

02/24/2023

When I get overwhelmed two things immediately sort me out (bonus: one is not pictured above)

👉🏼 The best part is, I can do them immediately
👉🏼 Anytime
👉🏼 Anywhere
👉🏼 And they cost me nothing

But Ill warn you
🫢 They are not glamorous
🤭 One is even pretty gross
🤗 But the gratification is immediate

Sit down and take a deep breath
This will change your entire life

Ready?

I write down everything that’s stressing me out
I clean

If my world is hectic af
I do both … wait for it

AT
THE
SAME
TIME

👇🏾 Yup. Throw everything in a pile
👇🏾 Write down my to do list
👇🏾 Wipe down counters
👇🏾 Write down the next 18 things that come through
👇🏾 Wash dishes
👇🏾 More stress living rent free in brain goes onto paper
👇🏾 Do laundry
👇🏾 Oh yeah, need to follow up with those people, add to the list
👇🏾 Clean the bathroom
👇🏾 Remember 7 more things in my life that need to my attention
👇🏾 Start to put that pile of stuff away

… whoah, my head is clear, my space is clear, my focus is clear

Exhale

Cleaning is the only thing in my life that can take a couple of hours and be DONE and done WELL and that is COMPLETELY In my control

Getting things out of my head and onto paper literally captures them and keeps them caged, so they’re not running around and terrorizing me

My energy is clear, which gives me limitless possibilities

02/11/2023

Who else is way more accountable to others?
🙋🏻‍♀️ Like, anyone else need to pay for a trainer, challenge, coach, teacher, just to make sure you show tf up?

Oh just me 🤦🏻‍♀️

That’s fine - no really, I am so ok with doing what I got to be successful 🤗

I used to have SO MUCH shame around the fact that I would let myself down first 😔

But then I started to notice how heroic I could be for others 🦹🏻‍♀️

And in doing so, save myself

So, I started to experiment with paying for help
🫴🏽 Not because I couldn’t do it by myself (but maybe a little …)
🫴🏽 Definitely before I could justify the expense (but weird how that always ended up working out …)
🫴🏽 Absolutely to surround myself with people who felt like a massive reach )but ended up being friends by the end of our arrangement …)

Oh my … this isn’t a shameful crutch
🪩 This is a quantum leap success strategy

💡💡💡Making my most shameful secret my proudest tool has made me millions, increased audience numbers 100x, and created multiple cash flowing income streams 💡💡💡

Ps. Im on a cross country random af road trip, follow along in stories 🚗🗺️🧭

02/09/2023

How do you lead when there is no one right way …

How do you trust when so many have let you down …

How do you build when you lack all the skills …

How do you learn when there is so much to do …

Remember when you first heard “osmosis,” it was somewhere in your first chemistry class … and you thought, oh I can just sleep with my book under my pillow …
GOT IT

I’m here to tell you despite failing chemistry, osmosis really can work …

By surrounding yourself with something you “get it”

And you know how they say, you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with ?

… are you smelling what I am cooking?

What if you could grow, evolve, discover and become …

🤩 Simply by being

The simple part provided by being around the right people, in the right place, for you to be(come) your best self 🌟

The best part, you can curate this experience by following people, reading their words, listening to their ideas, and if it’s supportive, being in physical space with them 💫

Ps. You define “right,” but generally they leave you feeling inspired, supported, and hopeful ✨✨✨

Tagging the legends who make me feel like i can do anything, but I wouldn’t want to anything without them - love you 🥰

📸 (you inspire me endlessly, obsessed with you 💋)

02/08/2023

If you can relate to any of these, Love Your Workshop will be the best 90min of your life

Check out my stories for 55% early bird love and 🔗

DM for “scholarship,” everyone deserves to love their work ❤️‍🩹

Share with someone who you think could use some more love for their work 💘

Existing clients are always invited 😘

02/07/2023

Sometimes leader is a four letter word 🫢

… It’s a boss who scared us
… Or a care-taker who broke us
… Or an authority figure from our past or present who makes us want to run the other way 🥺

These experiences ruined leadership

🫡 Because, at the end of the day, we are all leaders

We lead ourselves, first.

What kind of leader would you want to follow?

02/02/2023

Maybe I am getting obsessed with community because of my discord Container (🔗👆🏾)

I am about to announce a profits focused community ...

The last few years taught me I am nothing without my people 💘

I’d be lying if I said that lesson was only just learned, I have always known my people are my râison d’être 💞

You.
🫵🏽 I am talking about you.
🙌🏾 I share this for you.
🫴🏽 I am curious because of you.
💪🏿 I push myself to earn you.

Community is what makes this world go ‘round.

My sense of community is ethereal,
I don’t have to show up or be any certain way …
I know it’s there - like a faith and feeling in my heart
🫶🏽 And also, community needs nurturing and loving attention
🫱🏽‍🫲🏾 It's this interesting dance of interdependent connection

What’s one thing you think community needs 👇🏾