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Aisen Li, 8801 N FM 620, Austin, TX (2026)

06/06/2022

I’m NOT Interesting Enough for Women to Like Me 😔

Whenever I hear people say “Women don’t like me because I’m not interesting or cool enough”

I'd get sad. Because it's really not that they're not cool or interesting.

The real reason is that they are not good at connecting with people and relating to their experiences to form common bonds. Aka chemistry.  

The key is to be RELATABLE and be able to connect with people on an EMOTIONAL BASIS. Yes, I’m talking about the F word. Feelings hehe

In fact, a lot of times it’s actually a disadvantage to be “too” interesting because it takes away from being relatable.

For example, if someone said:

“Every summer we take our chartered jet and spend a week in Monaco, then we jump on our 108ft yacht and sail across the French Rivera.”

That sentence right there just disqualified him from being relatable to 99.99% of the population.   And would make his date feel instantly detached from him. 

My point here is that it doesn’t matter if you haven’t experienced the same events as the other person.  As long as you’ve experienced that same emotion, you are able to relate to women by sharing those feelings.

And I’m sure we’ve all experienced: happiness 😄, sadness😢, anger😡, excitement🤩, fear😨, resentment😒, pain😫, joy😎 and shock🤯.

HOWEVER, just because we’ve all had these feelings before, doesn’t mean we are able to, or feel safe doing express them.

So share a time when you had to overcome a struggle, and I 100% guarantee you that your date is going to relate to that, as most people have to overcome their own struggles.

And most of all, she will respect you for sharing a vulnerable part of your life.

 After all, it takes being vulnerable and secure to open up and truly express one’s self. That’s why it’s extremely attractive when a man is able to share and be vulnerable. (which is another topic for another day haha)

The big takeaway here is not that you’re not interesting enough, it’s the fact that you have trouble being relatable and connecting with people.

And we can change that! (faster than you think too)

So if you want to learn how to meet awesome women, and form genuine connections with them. Let’s chat and see if I can help, the call is 100% free (link in the comments)

05/31/2022

Does Money Matter When It Comes to Dating?

The short answer is not as much.

I meet & date the same types of high-quality women whether I’m unemployed, making 6 figures/year earner, or in massive debt, and I mean MASSIVE haha.

Why? Because women are not attracted to my money or lack thereof haha. These high-quality, successful women are attracted to their male counterparts, someone who is intelligent, ambitious, and MOST IMPORTANTLY someone they can relate to (even if the financials don’t quite reflect that).

As a matter of fact, I rarely talk about money, because it doesn’t define me as a person and no one ever asks.

On the other hand, when someone uses their “prestigious” job or money as a crutch, and I’m sure you already know the answer to this, they’re not going to attract the right type of girls.

The truth of the matter is, MONEY IS ONLY IMPORTANT TO WOMEN WITH LITTLE OR NO MONEY.

And let me ask you this, if a woman is only with you for the money, is that really the person you think is gonna make you happy?

What do you think is gonna happen when you don’t have the money anymore?

What if she finds someone richer than you?

And don’t get me started on the event of a divorce. 💸

To further illustrate my point, if a woman is successful and well off, she doesn’t care nearly about how much you earn, but rather she cares more about your other qualities that money can’t buy.

I don’t know about you, but that’s a damn attractive trait to have and definitely my type of woman right there!

In conclusion, money doesn’t matter nearly as much as you think it does.

The real goal here is to find a woman that is interested in you for the person you are and wants to be with you and grow with you regardless of what’s in your bank account.

I've encountered so many amazing people with outstanding careers, (100x better than me), yet feel inadequate about themselves.

But the thing they were missing is that they failed to see the value in themselves, and helping them realize this 1 thing makes a world of difference.

If you want to know how you can also start meeting & dating like-minded, high-quality women, let’s chat and see if I can help, the call is 100% free (link in the comments).

05/25/2022

Stuck in the FRIENDZONE? 🤝

You may be asking yourself: “How did I end up here?”

The truth of the matter is, that you put her on a pedestal and she makes you nervous which led to you not taking action early.

You feel like she is this hot commodity that you’re chasing, so you don’t want to do anything to mess up your chances (since women of her caliber don’t come around very often).

The biggest misconception is “Maybe if she gets to know me she’ll wanna date me.”

You may be saying to yourself: But I don’t want to come off too strong, I want to ease into it and get to her to know me before telling her my feelings for her and asking her out.

And this is the worst thing you can do.

By nature, women are attracted to men who take action, who isn’t afraid to ask for what he wants by asserting themselves and not fearing the consequences of rejection.

And by waiting and not expressing your feeling early, you are asking to be put into the friendzone.

Even if the girl was interested in you initially, she would have lost her interest in you the longer you hold out.

Once you’re in the friendzone, it’s nearly impossible to get out of it.

So gentlemen, stop putting the woman you like on a pedestal, no more idealizing her. She’s a human just like you and me.
Take action today.

05/25/2022

👫 How to NEVER Run Outta Things to Say on Dates: 🍽️ 🌹

Have you ever been in this situation where you are on a date:

You find each other attractive but you’re both shy.

So the conversation quickly ends and is replaced with awkward silences. Leaving you frantically searching for topics to talk about.

The trick is to not think about what you’re gonna ask, but rather LISTEN to what she’s saying and piggyback off of her responses. Once you start listening to what she’s saying, the conversation just flows.

Women love a guy that listens because it shows interest (and the fact that they love to talk haha). And since most guys suck at this. When girls come across someone that listens, they really appreciate it.

Doing just that will make your life easier too, because you don’t have to think about what you’re gonna say, just go more in-depth on what she’s saying.

This also drops her guard and opens her up to talk more while building rapport and establishing a connection.
Here’s what I mean.

Let’s say you’re having dinner with her.

You: I like this place, they have the best Mai Tais.

Her: Oh ya?

You: Here try it. [she takes a sip of your drink]

Her: hmmm that’s so good! I think I’m gonna have to get one later haha.

You: Ya I love it, makes me feel like I’m on a tropical beach, in a foreign country, watching the waves and working on my tan.

BTW You have a really nice tan. Are you a beach person?

Her: Ya actually, I love going to the beach, but not the beaches here in Texas haha.

You: I feel ya haha, Me too actually! I wish I was in Miami right now, have you been there?

Her: OMG, I love Miami, my best friend lives there. It’s so crazy there though haha.

You: Ya I’ve definitely seen some ratchet stuff there, one of our Uber drivers was literally drunk lol.

Her: No way? What happened!?

You: [proceed to tell her the story] So what was the craziest thing you’ve ever seen in Miami?

Etc…
There are so many ways you could steer this conversation.
Here are some topics you could talk about:

1. Food
2. Places-Which places have you visited, what’s your favorite place that you’ve visited, what is a place that’s on your bucket list, If you could live in any city…
Hobbies
3. Common experiences

05/25/2022

🥂 Things You Should NEVER Talk About on the 1st date 🌹

While there are many good topics to bring up and talk about on your first date. Like things that could break the ice and help with getting to know each other. However, on the other hand, there are topics that you should avoid at all costs.

The goal of the 1st date is to meet and get to know each other, so let’s keep things light and positive.

Here are 3 topics you should never bring up on the 1st date (if you want there to be a second date)

1. Politics- Whatever you do, don’t talk about this. Most of the time even if you have to same party affiliation as her there will always be some issues that you’ll disagree on. And first dates are not good places for debates, leave that for later haha.

2. Religion- This is a touchy subject. People feel strongly about their faith, and the last thing you’d wanna do is to accidentally say something that’ll offend her right?

3. Family- This might seem like a weird one to have here since everyone has a family. However, some people are very sensitive when it comes to this topic, perhaps stemming from traumatic childhood experiences, etc. And we certainly don’t want to bring up those memories, Remember we wanna keep things light and positive on the 1st date.

Do you have any other no-no topics that should be here?

05/25/2022

👻 Thumbs up if you can relate. 🙋🏻‍♂️

05/25/2022

👫 How to Overcome Approach Anxiety (FAST): 👫

Do you get nervous when approaching and talking to women or just new people in general? Do you get panic attacks that freeze you in your tracks?

For people with approach anxiety, everyday social interactions cause irrational anxiety, fear, self-consciousness, and embarrassment.

We have all been in social situations that made us feel uncomfortable and anxious.

While some people turn to medication for temporary relief, I’m here to provide you with a more permanent solution to help you overcome approach anxiety once and for all.

Here is a simple exercise that’s helped me overcome it and be comfortable with social interactions:

First, go to your local grocery store or retail store and ask the employees for help.

Start with something easy like asking them to help you find a certain product or get an opinion from them.

Since they are there to help the shoppers, they will talk to you and provide assistance without hesitation.

Doing so will get you more comfortable with approaching and talking to strangers.

Eventually, when you get comfortable with that, you can start having conversations with them about the product and get their opinions on it.

After that, you can try talking to people that you come across in your day-to-day life, asking them small things like the time, or simply giving them a compliment. (most people find it easier to talk to people of the same gender than the opposite gender because they don’t fear rejection)

Later on, after you’ve completed that stage, you’ll find it much easier to approach and talk to the girls you are attracted to.
Feel free to let me know if you have any questions or would like to know more about it.

05/25/2022

👫 3 Things to Do If You’re Shy Around Women. 👫

I’ve found that a lot of men who are more analytical or work as (programmers, coders, software designers and in IT) tend to have the most trouble when it comes to dating.

Since these guys are logical with their approach and follow a specific set of rules when executing a task. There isn’t a clear formula to follow when it comes to dating and social dynamics. Therefore it can be harder for someone who is analytical when it comes to communicating with the opposite gender.

Here are 3 things that one could do that will dramatically help.

1. Taking an Improv class-
Since Improvisation is the activity of making or doing something not planned beforehand, by taking part in it, it’ll help you with knowing what to say on your dates, since everything is impromptu.

2. Taking a standup comedy class-
This will help you understand how to be more humorous in your conversations with females without crossing the line.

3. Joining Toastmasters-
(Can help you improve your communication and build leadership skills) It’ll also help with your confidence and communicating effectively. After all the key to every successful relationship is good communication.

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