01/09/2021
The Enfolding
When our children stumble and fall during their lives, literally when they are learning to walk and fall repeatedly, and figuratively when they experience their formative years, can we not safely say as parents, we keep them enfolded in love, no matter what they do?
And while always being held inside of our love, is it not amazing and rewarding to watch how they learn to manage and navigate challenges and grow into who they can be?
Being surrounded by loving people, as children and as adults, we realize we are special. We understand and value our own worth. In so doing, our thinking is focused forward and outward, rather than backwards and inward. We enjoy a greater likelihood of becoming our “best versions”!
So, if this “enfolding” is so powerful, why do we not invoke it with others, not just with the ones closest to us? What about neighbors, friends, and in-laws? What about clients, service providers, bosses and colleagues?
Are not all of these people with whom you come into contact worthy of an enfolding? Better yet, are they not needy and just as vulnerable as children to the disruptions and challenges of life? Don’t they deserve a chance to become their best versions?
Some time ago, there was a terrible mall fire in Siberia of Russia that claimed many lives. A reporter stated: “what makes it even sadder is that many of the victims were children.” There is something about children and their vulnerability that tugs at our heart.
Maybe we should put effort into a mindfulness for the vulnerability of everyone. In this world that seems so divided, perhaps we should heed the lovely words of Ram Dass, who believes that our collective mission should be to “walk each other home”!
If you ascribe to the “law of abundance” in matters of the heart and soul, you believe we all potentially possess an infinite amount of love.
Imagine if you take a moment; truly, just a moment, seconds really, to enfold someone? Will it not deter you from making a judgment either in thought or word? Will they not have a better chance to become who they are meant to be, maximizing their uniqueness, if you walk them a little way home?
Who will you “enfold” today? What person that seemingly deserves it the least will get your regard?
There are many ideas on how to enfold in a moment, depending on who is your target. Here are a few easy ones to try right away:
Smile (it is when the corners of your mouth turn up!)
Offer a genuine and specific comment about that person, whether it is appearance, demeanor, or whatever
Always acknowledge each encounter; never let anyone pass by, even strangers, without a word, nod, smile, etc.
Close your eyes and imagine that person is surrounded by light.
Plenty of other ideas are out there somewhere or in there somewhere (your head – and heart) – c’mon! Will you be a part of the enfolding today?
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