Tracey Elizabeth Webb Associates

Tracey Elizabeth Webb Associates Executive Coaching / Diversity, Equity, Inclusion / Organization Change and Climate Consulting / Strategic Facilitation / Senior Team Building and Development

02/19/2018

Controlling Chaos is a Bad Idea

Clients call my firm when there is a problem. As an executive coaching and organizational alignment firm, we are not needed when everything is swimming along. But the strange thing about organizational life? The ground beneath our feet is often giving away under the soil—and we don’t recognize it. Human nature tries to organize chaos or discord and “solve it” somehow. We hire consultants to “fix” the organization when, more often than not, letting the chaos run amuck to a point, is a very viable strategy.

The fact is—human beings are constantly changing and morphing, second to second. Naturally, the work alliances and relationships that we form are also in a constant state of flux. After over 30 years working with organizations in their journeys toward mission fulfillment—the one thing that I know for sure is that they are never static. Sometimes we are tuned out from the subtle changes, we choose not to see them, or we are so busy with our organizational task at hand (our immediate job or project), that we become distanced from the true pulse of the very group of colleagues that we work with on a day-to-day basis.

We start from a point of positive inquiry (also known as Appreciative Inquiry from David Cooperrider). We often find that things aren’t as broken as the client may have felt when they first called us in. My Grandmother from Louisiana always admonished me, “Things are never as bad as they seem.” She was right.

I have learned that we miss the opportunity for optimal individual, team, and organizational performance when we try to corral chaos. Human intelligence tries to make patterns and direction from seemingly disparate and colliding information. This very admirable trait is one of the hallmarks of human existence: we create brilliance/we innovate from what seems like chaos. We see things differently—we create something new.

The key to personal and organizational growth is to look for the patterns in the seeming chaos—look for the road maps to innovation. One of my high school calculus teachers told me that the sign of superior intelligence is to be able to sit with confusion. In other words—sit with the chaos and let it “speak” to you.

Five Tips for Using Chaos for Growth:

1. Sit quietly, free of distractions. One a piece of paper—write one sentence that describes the chaotic or troubling situation that you are trying to solve (e.g. 1: we need the salesforce to bring in 20% net new top line sales growth in the next 12 months; e.g. 2: I need to become less hijacked by my frustration in my team interactions)

2. Just below that sentence on the same piece of paper—depict the chaos that you perceive in the problem by drawing a series of asteroids swirling in the air—and name each asteroid (e.g., “Sheryl’s short temper”, “weekly team goals”, “lack of team direction”, “Sam’s ego”, “lack of sales support”, etc.). Go to a bigger piece of paper if needed to exhaust all of the chaos elements that you perceive are part of the problem.

3. Now take a red pen and write down three to five elements that you determine to be a common theme running through all of the chaos asteroids (e.g., team attitudes, personality attributes, lack of structural and financial support, etc.).

4. Next, take a green pen and write down three positive aspects under each of the three to five elements that you compiled in step 3.

5. Finally, review your work in step 4 and determine how you can harness the positive aspects of the chaos elements to reframe the problem and come up with a new innovative path. You are reframing how you see chaos and using it help your brain think differently. This is when innovation happens.

A Sample Chaos Element Narrative

1. I need the team to perform at higher levels and deliver 20% net higher sales next month.
2. Chaos depiction (these would each be illustrated as a separate “asteroid”): Mary’s short temper; “lack of sales back room assistance”; “marketing deficiency”; “lack of sales skill”; “short staffed”; “low pipeline”.
3. Red pen work (common elements):
A) Personality based conflict on team
B) Lack of corporate resources
C) Sales skill deficiency

4. Green pen work (positive aspects of items in #3—working with 3A by example)
3 (A): -Personality conflict indicates passion about the work—a charged environment; strong drive to get things done against the deadlines; opportunity for some on the team to lead and mentor others in the group.

5. Review of my analysis in step four and the resulting narrative: The team is highly motivated to perform, however there are those on the team who don’t seem to be able to deliver against their individual key performance indicators. This, in turn, frustrates the high performers who feel that they are carrying the team. We can set up mentoring alliances between the high performers and those in need of assistance, so that the team takes ownership for its performance as a whole. We can also gather the team together for a facilitated session to determine the increased resources or resourcefulness that we need from the organization to meet the heightened goal. Then we can determine how we can strategically garner the resources or find a work-around that will produce similar results.

This was a fairly simple example of how to reframe chaos to view “the problem” in a light more suitable to positive resolution. This methodology works for infinitely complex problems by expanding the “asteroid field drawing” and following the same synthesis for each “asteroid” (chaos element). Themes will emerge.

This process is based loosely on concepts of neural plasticity (re-wiring the brain to think differently), reframing, and positive inquiry to set the mind on the path toward new possibilities. Chaos provides the opportunity to harness new and divergent energy when viewed as a positive force seeking to reveal new paths toward innovation and creativity.

02/16/2018

Leadership Connections from the Heart...

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Leadership Connections from the Heart

I had occasion today to have a difficult conversation with a colleague. The conversation started via text and then continued in person. I was reminded of several principals that are critical to effective communication.

1. First of all, show up as the Naked Emperor or Empress. There is nothing more disconcerting for a human being who is either waxing poetic or behaving with impunity to suddenly realize that they are behaving in a way that is inauthentic to their true nature or to their true state of being. It is very hard for successful people to feel vulnerable. It is even harder for a successful person to remain in that state and communicate effectively. As soon as we realize that we are operating behind subterfuge—take off the false armor and show up as we are---in emotional nakedness. It is scary, but when we stand rooted in our authentic selves—we are infinitely more powerful, more approachable, and we make decisions based upon our truth. Our words have more depth and meaning when they come from our deepest, most vulnerable internal spaces—sans emotional and intellectual armaments.

2. Sit with Silence. We are trained to be glib and “articulate” throughout our professional careers. However, there are times when simply being quiet and still, coupled with direct and sustained eye contact—creates a level of non-verbal communication that can give a glimpse into each other’s soul. That “soul” connection is vital for meaningful communication, especially when conversations become strained and difficult. Unlike gorillas and some dogs, the direct gaze does not have to be menacing or threatening. It can actually be very bonding when done with the right intention.

3. Listening Doesn’t Mean Losing Ground. Active listening means that you try very hard to show empathy and put yourself into the other person’s shoes—to see and feel the situation as they might. However, it is nearly impossible to listen actively when you are planning your retort to each and every point that your colleague utters. You are wasting each other’s time. Active listening means being quiet and present, while being secure in the notion that you lose nothing by attempting to understand another point of view. Acknowledging what they have said does not signal agreement. You only have to agree to those points that genuinely resonate with you. But the beauty is in refraining from disagreeing until you have let them finish. And then—it is still not about the re-hash or a point by point retort. Instead, it is about sharing your genuine and authentic thoughts in summary format, rooted in your values and based in compassion and dignity for both participants.

02/16/2018

What I Have Learned About Loss...

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My Mother died a little more than a year ago. My Father died 35 years ago. Walking the earth as an adult orphan is a strange, disconnected feeling. My Mother has been a part of every birthday, every holiday season, and every major joy and loss in my 56 years on this planet. So how does one navigate when that maternal connection is gone? When that unconditional acceptance vanishes?

My Mother was my North Star. No matter how much success I garnered or how many accolades came my way, Ms. Mary had a way of keeping me grounded in my authentic self: that smart and scruffy kid who grew up in the hills of Berkeley, California. I could have on my finest business suit with the most gorgeous pair of Italian high heels. None of that matters. She could still reduce me to that gregarious and sometimes annoyingly inquisitive girl with pig tails and the big heart. Thankfully, she could reduce me to my most innocent and unpretentious self: a child who needed her mother.

My Mother was fierce. She fought through cancers, MS, and finally a stroke. In the end, her central nervous system was simply worn out. The arteries could no longer carry enough oxygenated blood to her brain, she couldn’t stand due to a drop in blood pressure upon rising, and she became bed-ridden.

She came home from the skilled nursing facility for the last three months of her life. She tried to regain her strength, but her body was giving out from under her. 2016 was one of the hardest years of my life because I was trying to save my Mother against all odds. She had always fought back—surely she would this time—she just needed our encouragement.

It became apparent, after two major seizures, Mom would not recover. Three weeks after those consecutive trips to the ER over two days, we put Mom in hospice. I remember falling into the arms of my boyfriend’s sister when I told her what we had just done.

My sister called me three days before Mom died to tell me that the hospice nurse told her that death was imminent in a matter of days, a week at the most. She told me to come right then. I delayed for two hours—taking a long, hot bath, packing a bag with clothes that didn’t match, forgetting my heart medication. None of that mattered. I was going to my Mother’s house to say goodbye to the woman who gave me life.

Mom died two and a half days later at 2:45am on Saturday, January 14, 2016. The day before she died, she woke up in a rare moment of lucidity and thanked me for taking care of her. I told her that it was an honor. My God, this was the woman who gave me life and who supported me through every nanosecond of this journey. It was the hardest thing that I have ever done—but it was the most rewarding next to the birth of my only child.

I have learned that love and grief can exist simultaneously. I have learned that we discover things about our loved ones long after they are gone—things become clearer somehow. I realized that my brilliant Mother took charge of her end of life experience by ceasing food intake during the last month. She knew what she was doing. And I respect her for it. She has given me courage to face and to orchestrate my end of life and transition, given the chance.

I have learned that we keep the spirits of our loved ones alive by paying homage to their traditions. This holiday season I cooked all of my Mother’s special dishes. I prepared and served them with love and care. I remembered her lessons that she gleaned from the Tao Te Ching. Her most important teaching: softness wins over hardness every time. So I cooked, I tried my best to be kind, compassionate, and gentle, and I tried to honor my Mother.

I was driving on the Bay Bridge the other day. Roberta Flack came on my Sirius Radio singing, “Killing Me Softly.” I began crying as I remembered my childhood Saturday mornings with that song cascading throughout our home.

I have learned that grief is a welcome emotion; it is a necessary part of the human condition if we have formed meaningful connections in our life. I am learning that love courses through our veins alongside grief, joy, hope, fear, and peace. Ultimately, it is about accepting the complexity of this journey. Life is far beyond three-dimensional. In fact, I don’t think that we can quantify the dimensions.

What I do know is that the deeper we love—the harder we grieve. And that is a very good thing. It means that we have forged connections that transcend physical constraints. So, I stay tethered to my Mother, but this time she is in me. My North Star is now a part of my soul.

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Tracey Elizabeth Webb Associates. Executive Coaching and Organizational Effectiveness

Please visit our new website at traceyelizabethwebbassociates.com.  We focus on executive and organizational effectivene...
06/16/2012

Please visit our new website at traceyelizabethwebbassociates.com. We focus on executive and organizational effectiveness. Our mantra is "Authenticity, Innovation, and Impact".

Tracey Elizabeth Webb Associates - El Cerrito, CA. Executive Coaching and Organizational Effectiveness--Authenticity, Innovation, and Impact.

11/29/2011

Worked with a client at "0 Dark Hundred" to help her get ready for a major presentation. It is such a joy to do this work.

11/29/2011

We provide the following services: -Executive coaching regarding communication/presentation skills and organizational strategy; -Profesional and executive team building to encourage authentic dialogue and innovation;- Creation and implementation of organizational strategies designed to accelerate the performance of human capital through work infused with passion and meaning; - Discovering and developing the organizational DNA--determining where the organization can compete with passion, strength, and the instrinsic ability to win;--Strategic business development consulting designed to increase the organization's bottom line with emphasis on authentic dialogue internally an with clients/customers.

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