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Kay’s Elite Elder Care Award-winning non-medical elder care led by Kulaea ‘Kay’ Tau—2025 National Caregiver of the Year, with 20+ years’ experience.

Mission: deliver The Kay Standard™ of Care. Vision: train and mentor caregivers to provide award-winning care nationwide.

Love these ❤ and I have a few stories myself as well. :D
10/16/2026

Love these ❤ and I have a few stories myself as well. :D

Caregiving Terms, Made Simple 💜Helping Mom get dressed. Taking Dad grocery shopping. Both are ways we support someone we...
10/16/2026

Caregiving Terms, Made Simple 💜

Helping Mom get dressed. Taking Dad grocery shopping. Both are ways we support someone we love.

In caregiving, you may hear the terms ADLs and IADLs. Here’s what they mean:

ADLs ~ Activities of Daily Living
The basic tasks involved in caring for your own body, such as bathing, dressing, feeding yourself, using the toilet, managing continence (bladder and bowel control), and getting in and out of bed or a chair.

IADLs ~ Instrumental Activities of Daily Living
The tasks that help someone manage daily life and live independently, such as shopping, preparing meals, doing laundry and housework, using a phone, keeping track of appointments, and arranging transportation.

A simple example: Preparing a meal is an IADL. Eating the meal is an ADL.

Someone may manage their personal care independently but need help with groceries, cooking, or appointments. Understanding these terms helps families describe the support their loved one needs.

I’ll be sharing more caregiving terms here, in plain everyday language.

Kulaea ‘Kay’ Tau
Founder & Principal Caregiver, Kay’s Elite Elder Care
Right at Home 2025 National Caregiver of the Year

Caregiving is sacred work… but the caregiver is sacred, too.

“Kay, thank you for taking care of me.”My hospice client whispered those words after I finished changing him and making ...
10/15/2026

“Kay, thank you for taking care of me.”

My hospice client whispered those words after I finished changing him and making him comfortable. By that stage, he was keeping his eyes closed.

I talked to him the same way I always had since my client care manager first introduced us. When we met, he was alert, oriented, and loved talking with me. Even as his condition changed, I continued speaking to him with the same warmth and respect.

Gentleness is part of how I care for every client… in my touch, in my voice, and in the way I help them. With him, I slowed each movement even further, taking my time when turning and repositioning him so he would be as comfortable as possible.

Those were the last words I heard him speak. Two days later, I was beside him when he passed away.

Another caregiver and I shared his live-in care through our agency. As his time drew near, I had a large chair moved into his bedroom so I could sleep by his bed and remain close throughout the night. From that chair, I could rest while still hearing him if he needed me. I also wanted to notice any changes in his condition and call his family when the time came. Most importantly, I didn’t want him to transition alone when his time came.

That night, around 11pm, I softly said to him, “I’m going to practice and time my acceptance speech with you, okay?” I had an upcoming award ceremony and was nervous about speaking in front of a large crowd, so I practiced quietly beside his bed.

A few minutes later, I finished my speech and I sighed. Minutes after that, I recognized that his time was near. I called his son in from the living room, and he was able to say a final goodbye to his father.

I stayed beside him as he passed away. Afterward, I provided his final care with the same gentleness and respect I had given him in life.

I still carry his quiet “Kay, thank you for taking care of me” in my heart.

Caregiving is sacred work. Sometimes, the most meaningful thing we can do is stay close, pay attention, and be there. 💚

Today is World Arthritis Day. 💙For an older adult living with arthritis, buttoning a shirt, opening a jar, or walking to...
10/12/2026

Today is World Arthritis Day. 💙

For an older adult living with arthritis, buttoning a shirt, opening a jar, or walking to the mailbox can be difficult or painful.

Joint pain and stiffness deserve attention. Seeking medical advice early can help identify the cause and guide appropriate treatment. Gentle movement, suited to each person’s abilities and guided by their healthcare team, can also help.

Patient, kind support at home makes a meaningful difference. Allowing extra time to get dressed. Offering help without taking over. Listening when someone says they hurt.

In my work, that means being gentle in my touch, thoughtful in my words, and respectful of each person’s pace.

At Kay’s Elite Elder Care, comfort, independence, and dignity guide the care I provide… every day.

Kulaea ‘Kay’ Tau
Founder & Principal Caregiver | Kay’s Elite Elder Care
2025 Right at Home National Caregiver of the Year

Caregiving is sacred work.

What’s the first thing a family should consider when choosing a caregiver?Does their experience match the care your love...
10/07/2026

What’s the first thing a family should consider when choosing a caregiver?

Does their experience match the care your loved one needs?

Companionship, dementia support, and hands-on help with bathing or moving safely each require different skills. Be specific about the help needed, ask about relevant experience, and check references.

In my more than 20 years of caregiving, I’ve also learned how much the personal connection matters.

Notice how the caregiver speaks with your loved one. Do they listen patiently? Include them in the conversation? Respect their choices and the way they like things done?

You should feel confident in the caregiver’s ability—and your loved one should feel comfortable with the person coming into their home.

Choosing care is a personal decision. Take time to ask questions. Your loved one’s needs, dignity, and comfort deserve that attention.

Kay’s Elite Elder Care

October 1 marked International Day of Older Persons… but honoring our elders isn’t limited to one day… it is something w...
10/02/2026

October 1 marked International Day of Older Persons… but honoring our elders isn’t limited to one day… it is something we should do every day.💛

Their lives, stories and contributions matter. Every older adult deserves dignity, respect and the freedom to live safely… without abuse, neglect or exploitation.

Whether you’re a family member, caregiver, friend or neighbor… check in, listen and respect their choices. If you suspect abuse, neglect or exploitation, speak up and seek help.
Needing support should never take away an older adult’s right to be heard, respected and involved in decisions about their care.

At Kay’s Elite Elder Care, caring means honoring each person’s dignity, protecting their safety and making sure their voice is heard… because caregiving is sacred work.💛

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. 💗About 1 in 8 women in the U.S. will develop breast cancer during their lifeti...
10/02/2026

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. 💗

About 1 in 8 women in the U.S. will develop breast cancer during their lifetime, according to the American Cancer Society. Behind that number is someone we love.

If you’re due for a mammogram, make time to schedule it… and remind someone you love to do the same if they’re due.

To everyone facing breast cancer, every survivor, and the families and caregivers beside them… we stand with you. We also remember those we have lost.

A listening ear, a helping hand, or simply showing up can mean so much. 🎀

Kay Tau
Founder & Principal Caregiver
Kay’s Elite Elder Care

September is my birthday month, and this year I celebrated a major milestone…I turned 60! Yes, 60, lol! 😊I know I don’t ...
10/01/2026

September is my birthday month, and this year I celebrated a major milestone…I turned 60! Yes, 60, lol! 😊

I know I don’t look 60, feel 60 or move the way some people might expect a 60-year-old to move. When some clients and their families recently learned my age, they were genuinely shocked…lol! They thought I was in my 40s!

I stay active, energetic and strong, with the stamina to move right alongside caregivers decades younger than I am. I truly believe staying active and working as a caregiver all these years have made me stronger and helped keep me looking and feeling young. Maybe caregiving has been one of my secrets all along, lol!

I never planned to become a caregiver. My first job was in the International Department of the National Bank of New Zealand. After moving from New Zealand to California, I held a concrete construction contractor’s license. Later, while living in Utah, I worked for the U.S. Postal Service.

Then I agreed to cover a caregiving shift for a friend, and something just clicked. Caring for someone felt natural to me. That path led me into skilled nursing settings and eventually back to the one-on-one care that I love most.

My beloved late mother was my first and greatest example of what it truly means to care for others with love, selflessness and quiet strength.

My mother was a teacher by profession, but her greatest calling was advocating for and serving others. She was always helping and giving freely of herself, never expecting anything in return…and it brought her genuine joy.

For my mother, caring for others wasn’t simply a job or a duty…it was a way of life. Her beautiful example helped shape the woman and caregiver I am today, and her legacy of love and service continues through the way I care for every person entrusted to me.

Last year, I was deeply honored to be named the 2025 Right at Home National Caregiver of the Year, selected from more than 20,000 caregivers across more than 600 Right at Home locations nationwide.

HomeCare Magazine, a well-established professional publication serving the home care industry, later invited me to share my journey and personal philosophy of caregiving.

In the interview, I explain why the people entrusted to our care deserve far more than simply having their basic needs met. They deserve to feel safe, respected, valued and deeply cared for. They deserve happiness and joy…and, most importantly, they deserve to know they still matter.

Now, at 60, I bring more than 20 years of caregiving experience, many life lessons and an even greater sense of purpose into this next chapter.

I find this work completely fulfilling. I genuinely enjoy and truly love what I do. Even after a rare day or two away, something feels off, and I can’t wait to get back.

I want to continue raising the standard of care and helping other caregivers understand the responsibility and privilege of doing this sacred work.

Caregiving isn’t simply what I do…it is my calling, my way of life and the work I know I am meant to do.

Caregiving is sacred work.

During my birthday month, I am proud and honored to share this special part of my story with you.

Read my HomeCare Magazine feature here:
https://www.homecaremag.com/news/5-questions-kay-tau-right-home-national-caregiver-year

Here’s to 60 years of life, faith, love, lessons and service…and to everything God still has ahead for me. ❤️

09/27/2026

CAREGIVERS NEED TIME OFF, TOO

If you care for someone you love, when was the last time you had a day that was truly your own?

A day to rest. Visit friends. Take a trip. Or do absolutely nothing without worrying about what needs to be done next.

Many family caregivers put those plans off because they feel guilty leaving. But needing time away doesn’t mean you care any less. It means you’re a person with a life and needs of your own.

Planning dependable care while you’re away can give you room to relax, knowing your loved one is supported.

Caregiving is sacred work. Caregivers deserve time to live their lives, too.

Kay’s Elite Elder Care

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