08/27/2026
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If you’re building something that’s going to make an impact, you better learn behavioural patterns in people. I say this when I’m delivering keynotes on social impact because you can have the greatest message in the world, but if you don’t understand people, you’ll spend half your life wondering why they behave the way they do. Watch the patterns, especially when you grow, it’s that simple.
Few simple patterns to watch….
So we know, every Tom, Dick and Bloody Harry love telling you to set boundaries. “Protect your energy.” “Learn to say no.” Brilliant. Now set those boundaries with Tom, Dick or fu**in Harry and watch the fireworks. Who fu**in knew it only applies when the boundary isn’t around them.
Next, watch what happens when people don’t get what they want from you. Until then, you were amazing. Then you say no and the fu**ing dummy comes flying out. They don’t miss you. They miss what they used to get from you. Big fu**ing difference.
Then there’s gossip. Someone starts talking about you to somebody else because they think they’re recruiting an ally. What they don’t realise is the person listening is probably thinking, “F**k me, if they’re talking about them like this, what are they going to say about me when I p**s them off?” And there’s the irony: let them gossip. They don’t just risk losing the person they’re gossiping about. They risk losing the person they’re gossiping to as well. They thought they were gaining an ally and actually gave them a fu**ing reason to keep their distance.
And why are you giving some random person your energy because they’ve said something about you? If someone genuinely knows you and there’s been a misunderstanding, they’ve got your number. They can fu**ing call you. If they don’t know you, why the hell are you letting them dictate your day?
That’s the s**t you need to understand when you’re building something. Learn the fu**ing patterns. Stop taking every reaction personally. Keep your energy for the people and the work that actually matter, because honestly, you will never be able to make huge impact for the people and causes you want to by being a push over