05/01/2025
There’s a theory that suggest your childhood wounds often resurface when your child reaches the same age you were most hurt.
It’s not magic. It’s memory.
It’s your heart, realizing,
“This is how small I was when that happened to me.”
It’s your body remembering what your mind has tried to forget.
Parenting has a way of taking you back, not just to the joyful memories, but also to the moments you wished had gone differently.
And when your child laughs, cries, needs comfort, or even makes mistakes at that age—you might notice deep, unexpected emotions rise up inside you.
Maybe you’ll feel extra protective.
Maybe you’ll feel impatient and not know why.
Maybe you’ll mourn for the younger version of you who didn’t get what they needed.
This is not a sign that you are broken.
It’s a sign that you are being invited—to heal, to re-parent yourself, to give compassion to the child you once were.
Instead of running from the discomfort, you can sit with it.
You can honor your story without letting it write your future.
You can offer your child—and yourself—the safety, patience, and presence you needed back then.
Parenting is not just raising a child.
It’s also, quietly and powerfully, raising yourself.
So if you find yourself unexpectedly tender, easily triggered, or overwhelmed when your child reaches a certain age, know this:
It’s not weakness.
It’s an opportunity for redemption.
You are not alone.
And you are allowed to heal, even as you nurture.
Carry on, momma. 🤍
