Ideal Personality

03/03/2026

Quick mindset shift for [some of] my gentlemen friends... Intimacy isn’t just S3X.

It’s so much more…

Like ❤️8 kinds of intimacy❤️ that keep a relationship feeling close, safe, and fun.

Here are all 8 (and yes—each one has a patch combo that supports it):

❤️Conflict (repair + calm) → *Peace & Kick It*
❤️Emotional (connection + vulnerability) → *Zen, Peace & Joy*
❤️Physical (touch + confidence) → *Liberty & Victory*
❤️Sensual (play + desire) → *Rocket & Kick It*
❤️Intellectual (clarity + presence) → *Focus & Zen*
❤️Experiential (fun + shared memories) → *Joy, Peace & Liberty*
❤️Creative intimacy (energy + inspiration) → *Focus, Zen & Joy*
❤️Spiritual (meaning + connection) → **Zen & Joy**

Most of you know Jami and I have been teaching and coaching couples on how to expand their intimacy for over 30 years and, with the same tools we have our clients work on, we’ve been expanding ours along the way, and we’ve n e v e r experienced THIS WOW next level s***, and I mean NEVER before!!!

Curious, and want to try the patches and feel the difference?

Pick the intimacy area you want to strengthen most right now and dm them to me. Next, try the patch combo for 3 days, and notice what shifts—your mood, your patience, your playfulness, your closeness.

Reply “PATCHES” and tell me which one you area of intimacy you want to start expanding, and I’ll tell you exactly which combo to try first.

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11/07/2025

Stressed?? We have tools to help - get the breakthrough you need today!! ❤️‍🩹

10/18/2025

Whatever color, your personality, let it shine, and lean in to your best gifts!

06/30/2025

It's the last day of the EARLYBIRD SPECIAL ($200 off!!!) for our Tamarack Resort couple's extended weekend retreat at the end of September (oh Lordy, September is right around the corner and there are only TWO SPOTS still available)!

Who's it for? All you couples wanting to level up your relationship, no matter how long you've been together!

❤️‍🔥 In JUST 3 DAYS, we'll help you feel visible, heard, and loved like never before. Past couples report getting more than an entire year's worth of couples therapy in just a very short time (and it's this fun, engaging, & experiential)!!
❤️‍🔥 You'll rediscover the spark, unlock the secrets of deep intimacy (all 8 Pillars!), and reignite your connection all in the beautiful mountains of Idaho.
❤️‍🔥 Tamarack Exclusive Couples Retreat
❤️‍🔥 September 25-28, 2025
❤️‍🔥 $997.00 Earlybird until midnight tonight, then $1197 (food and lodging are included in the price).

Want to join us on this awesome-sauce journey towards an unbreakable connection, but need a few more details? All the deets and sign-up link here:

https://www.romance.bringbackintimacy.love/couples-retreats864788

Or pay now before our 2 available spots are taken here:

https://pay.bringbackintimacy.com/Tamarack-Retreat-Sept2025

See you in Tamarack, Idaho, where all the cool kids (couples) will be!😎

05/25/2025

I used to suck at this… My identity and “job” was all about taking care of everybody else.😵🙄

In fact, I remember clearly in the early 90s being confronted with the knowledge that I didn’t actually know what I wanted, desired, needed because, well, my needs weren’t as important as Jami’s or our daughter’s or what my family wanted or pretty much what anybody else wanted from me. (That’s called “codependent” and I was really good at it…🫤)

Can you relate?🩵🙏🏻

Sure I took time once in a while to get a pedicure or take a long, lovely bubble bath…

And while that is self care, it didn’t transform my self-judgmental thinking. It didn’t change my negative old neural pathways and very loud temporal lobe that took me down the path of “You’re so stupid”, “Why did you say that???”, “You’re butt is too big,” “I’m so fat”, “I’m too much”, and “I’m not enough” to name a few.

(And when I think about this I hurt for the 20-something me.😢)

And then something truly horrible and also magical happened that changed my life…

🩷First, I started a practice of prayer journaling and with it writing “I am worthy” 50 times a day (yes, I know, it seems weird and excessive and a bit like a Bart Simpson punishment😵) but it actually began to change me in so many ways and on so many levels.
🩷This led me to seek out mentorship and I found several incredible mentors along the way; some in person and others in books like Melody Beattie’s “Codependent No More” and “The Secret Life is of the Soul” by Keith Miller and “Family Secrets” by John Bradshaw which not only blew my mind because these people got me, I also was hit over the head with a 2’ x 4’ that I “might” have control issues…I did. Well, sh*tballs🙄
🩷I was so excited about my healing journey and then !BAM! I was hit with deep betrayal by the one I loved the most. And I wasn’t sure I wanted to go on. But there were my two precious girls that needed me to choose life and healing and peace and empowerment and even joy.

And what you see in this Venn Diagram is what I had to do everyday to at first survive and then… I began to breathe again and then I began to thrive. We (Jami and I) began to heal, and grow, and thrive.

I/we also clung to our mentor’s words, their guidance, and to this day work with our main man, Russ, who is now in his late 70s, to make sure we stay accountable and on the right path.

And I am beyond grateful for this foundational journey that has first kept my head above the waves and second has me surfing above them🩷🙏🏻

If this is something you think you would like in your life let’s talk.❤️

What I know for sure is that I/we could not have done this alone.

You are not alone.🩷🙏🏻

04/19/2024

Ready to take your life to the next level? Then you’re not going to want to miss the Thrive Summit happening online and in the comfort of your home on April 25 & 26 (next Thursday and Friday)!

Jami and I are super excited to be hosting and speaking at the Thrive Summit: Unlocking the 5 Key Relationships For A Fulfilling Life alongside Alicia and Jonathan Decker, founders of Mended Light: Healing from Trauma!

Explore the keys to leveling up your marriage, self-discovery, nurturing relationships, spiritual growth, well-being, and career success. Join us LIVE from anywhere! Register for FREE:

https://www.thrive.mendedlight.com/keller



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04/08/2024

Did you know that scientists can track trauma in the DNA for four generations?😬

That's crazy!🤯

You actually have imprints in your DNA that end up triggering you😡 that can come from your parents, grandparents, great grandparents, or great great grandparents.🤔

Oftentimes the things that are triggering you with your spouse are coming from old places and are not from your them.😵

And guess what? It’s fixable!💯❤️‍🩹

You can train your brain to stop that now so that your legacy doesn't include your old trigger points!!🙌🏻❤️

Want to start cleaning this stuff up right now?🧡🙏🏻

Click on the link in my Bio and join us on April 18 for our free Rediscover Romance webinar!

04/02/2024

And the same number are also under performing because of relationship stress- it’s all fixable! Don’t let the way you deal with stress rob you of the love you have always wanted!!

An eye-popping number blamed work for their relationship woes.

03/31/2024

Thank you, my love (Jami), for the ever-growing magic!❤️‍🔥

The age-old myth is that relationships have up to 3 years of that “magic” connection and passion and then that “newness” wears thin and a more “settled love” takes it’s place.

Hold on to your seats, because Jami and I absolutely **disagree**. Why?

Because we have only had our interest for each other, our love, our connection and our passion increase exponentially over time, and it hasn’t stopped increasing.

How? Here are 4 daily tools:

* 20-second hugs w i t h o u t e x p e c t a t i o n s! Yep, that’s right, just hugging to connect. We promise, it works like magic. Oxytocin (the “love chemical”) never stops growing and thus is one way to produce it—boom! 💓
* Be present to your feelings and express them kindly. If you have no idea where to begin shoot me a dm and I’ll give tools to help you express your feelings in every area of life instead of choosing to run away screaming as if you’re being chased by a very large grizzly bear. 😵😏🤣
* Kiss for 6 seconds twice daily (yep, it’s science!).
* Share your deepest desires with your partner. Remember, oxytocin receptors continue to grow and multiply forever! There is no stopping point, until when you stop breathing…

Only four daily choices!

By finding your value, worth and empowerment and by feeling and expressing your feelings with kindness, nearly all past feelings of betrayal, isolation, and hurt can heal.

We promise that when these tools are practiced daily it is natural and easy to take your spouse of over thirty-seven years by both hands, look them deeply into their beautiful big, brown eyes and achieve a connection that is as fresh as the first magical kiss. The magic-sauce never has to fade!

xoxo

P.S. Need help with this? Join us for our free Reignite Romance webinar on April 18 at 6:30 MST by clicking here:

https://romance.bringbackintimacy.com❤️‍🔥

03/28/2024

Have you heard this common phrase, “Marriage is hard…divorce is hard…choose your hard”?🤔

I'm here to tell you that marriage and relationships don't have to be HARDDDD!!!💯

Yes, Jami and I faced some really tough moments in our relationship over the past almost 37 years and, along the way, we discovered an alternative to “hard” (don’t get me wrong; hard is good when comes to the bedroom😉😏😝).

With the right tools, you will experience love, deep connection, and intimacy. No. More. Struggle!❤️‍🩹

I want to invite you into our story, our personal revolution. It's a journey where you can skip the hard parts and embrace the healing!❤️‍🔥

Join Jami and me on an adventure to rediscover romance in your relationship, nurture profound intimacy, and build a massive, enduring love with a cherry on top!🍒

Want in? Comment “I’m in!” below…

03/23/2024

Serious coffee talk…

Nothing above B for me.😵😏😁 “Could I have some coffee with my creamer, please?” 😆

How about you? And if you’re in a relationship, what’s your partner’s richness of choose? Jami used to be F but he’s come to the right answer.🤭