09/29/2026
I just had a birthday and this is so true! Read more on the blog: Mid-Life, Perimenopause, Brain Fog and the Kitchen Counter Pile. If you need more support, contact me via the form on my website.
Nobody Warned You (Us) About the Counter Pile aka "Doom Piles"
You walk into the kitchen for a reason. The reason leaves. You stand there next to a pile of mail, a water bottle, a pair of reading glasses you swear you just bought, and a charger that belongs to something you can't identify.
If this has been happening more since your thirties or forties, you are in very good company. In my work with women in Boulder, Lafayette, Louisville, and Broomfield, I hear some version of this constantly: "I used to be so organized. What happened to me?"
Nothing happened to you. A lot of women in midlife are running on less sleep, more responsibility, and hormones that are doing their own thing. Many describe brain fog, word-finding trouble, and a memory that feels like a browser with forty tabs open. (I'm an organizer, not a doctor, so if what you're noticing worries you, please talk to yours. There's no medal for toughing it out.)
What I can tell you is what helps in the house.
Your house can be your external hard drive
When your internal memory is unreliable, the answer is not to try harder. It's to stop asking your brain to hold things the house can hold instead.
The counter pile, by the way, isn't a moral failure. It's a memory system. Those papers sit out because putting them in a drawer means they stop existing. The pile is you saying, "I need to see this or I'll lose it." That instinct is smart. We just need to give it a better home.
Five brain-fog-friendly systems that actually work
https://www.declutterandreset.com/blog-home-organizing-tips-denver-boulder/brain-fog-organizing-midlife-women