03/13/2025
You are far more capable than you could ever imagine. You were made perfectly as you are, for this time you are in, and if you really understood that, you would never limit or doubt yourself.
Every one of my horses, save for the 2 year old, have come from trouble. And I have to remind myself not to see them from that lens anymore, but to see them fresh daily- to see their remarkable resilience as they settle into their world, and inspire others with their confidence.
If I saw them for their past, they would be trapped in a life of fear, of insecurity and lameness and pain. While working with them, technique only goes so far if the belief isn’t there to let them out of the box they came in. At a certain point, you have to trust their ability, to let go of seeing them the way they were and believe in the way they can be.
- it’s important to remember how they were as a learning experience, but it’s not important for everyone who handles them to know what they used to do, and it’s not important as a descriptor of them. They are not their past, not their labels, not their old diagnosis. They are them, now.
Today we have more resources than ever before to help us understand how past experience shape us, and to understand conditions and diseases and ways of living that shape us. But these are not WHO we are, these are facts about us - these diagnostic tools are supposed to help us understand our experiences and ways of interacting in the world. Not to define or limit us forever. To give us tools to go on, to know why and how some things are how they are, and hopefully to give us a way to move forward.
“I can’t do ___ because ___” is one of the most unkind things we can say or think about ourselves. You have no idea just how much you can do. Maybe you have to do it in a different way to a different degree. Maybe it will take longer and look completely different. Our past history is filled with such people who against all odds achieved the unimaginable, in spite of their race, gender, handicap, position in life and so on.
Fortunately, horses do not speak our language, and do not tie themselves to all eternity to a label once given. We have more tools at our disposal for seeking help, but will struggle with the very human condition of seeking identity.
Will you let your limitations become your identity? Or will you go deeper, into who you truly are, what you were made to be, and find a way forward, around, over, under, or through, the challenges presented to you?
Photo by Caitlin Hatch