08/25/2026
I recently deleted over 2,000 people from my personal page.
Not because I’m angry. Not because I think I’m better than anybody. And not because I’m trying to prove a point.
I simply reached a place in my life where I realized that access to my personal life should actually mean something.
I’ve bumped into people at local stores, restaurants, and pizza joints who were supposedly my “friends” online, yet they couldn’t even look in my direction or say hello. And it finally made me ask myself a very simple question:
Why am I giving people a front-row seat to my life who wouldn’t even acknowledge me in real life?
The last few years have changed the way I look at friendship, loyalty, and relationships.
My wife went through cancer, and in many ways we are still living with everything that came with it. That was one of the hardest periods our family has ever faced. When something like that happens, you find out very quickly who is really standing beside you.
Out of all those so-called friends, how many checked in? How many asked how she was doing? How many asked how I was holding up? How many were actually there when life wasn't pictures, jokes, hunting stories, work accomplishments, or good times?
I can count them on one hand.
When my wife was first diagnosed, I was given eight weeks of paid time off. Eight weeks to be with her and my family.
She went to stay with her mother in Boston so she could be closer to Dana-Farber for treatment.
And I never used a single day.
Not one.
I kept going to work.
I kept the business moving. I kept solving problems. I kept showing up every morning carrying things inside that most people around me probably never knew about.
Why?
Because I knew other people depended on that business too. They had families. They had mortgages. They had bills. They needed their paychecks. And even while my own family was fighting one of the biggest battles of our lives, I still felt a responsibility to make sure everything kept running smoothly for everybody else.
Looking back, I sometimes wonder what all that loyalty actually bought me.
In the end, it felt like a great big “f**k you — thanks for everything.”
That changes a person.
It doesn't mean I stopped caring about people. It means I finally learned that caring about people does not require giving everyone unlimited access to me.
So yes, my personal page has become exactly that:
Personal.
The circle is smaller now.
Access to my life isn't as easy as it once was. My family, my time, my loyalty, my friendship, and my peace mean more to me today than they did years ago.
I spent a lot of my life swimming across oceans for people who wouldn't jump across a puddle for me.
I don't regret being that person. I don't regret helping people. I don't regret being loyal. That's part of who I am, and I hope that part of me never completely disappears.
But I've finally learned there is a difference between having a good heart and leaving the door wide open for everyone who wants something from it.
Some people will notice they're no longer on my page.
Some won't.
And that's okay.
The people who truly know me don't need Facebook to prove we're friends. They were there when life got ugly. They picked up the phone. They showed up. They asked about my wife. They asked about my family. They remembered that there was a human being behind the job title, the favors, and everything I could do for them.
Those are my people.
The rest were simply people I knew.
And it took me a long time to understand the difference.