07/05/2020
We could all use a little of this right now!
Secrets of Success: The Power of “Nice”
By Lynn Homisak, SOS Healthcare Management Solutions, LLC – www.soshms.com
When reflecting on personal qualities, I suspect many of us would consider ourselves nice people.
Unfortunately, waking up each morning and giving serious thought about ways we can be nice is just not something that we typically do. Of course we can choose to face the day with positivity, and that works, for a while, until those irritating daily interactions set us off. We quickly forget our kindness pledge, and Mr. Negative makes an appearance. Maybe it’s as simple as a bad hair day, a messed up coffee order, or something much more provoking like an inconsiderate driver cutting us off (who then offers the ubiquitous hand gesture as if it were somehow our fault). Sadly, it takes much less effort to hit the negativity button than to flip the niceness switch (as in, pushing someone’s buttons!) All this being said, there is still, much more to be gained by being nice.
We could a bit more niceness at times in our work environment. It’s upsetting to see some doctors and staff go out of their way to treat their patients politely, but refrain from saying nice words to each other. Sometimes, there isn’t even a shared “Good morning!” It’s disappointing to see recurring conflict between these key players who ironically hang a static mission statement on their wall promoting themselves as “Your Care Team”, yet fail to live the motto.
In the book, The Power of Nice: How to Conquer the Business World with Kindness, authors Linda Kaplan Thaler and Robin Koval speak about life lessons from a customer service perspective that we can use both personally and professionally. They talk about the “Six Principles of Nice” and we could all learn something from them. Here are some key takeaways:
One Nice Deed Can Lead To Another
There is no denying that we live in a “selfie” culture, where even photographs these days revolve around “me, me, me”. Maybe instead of thinking of “ourselfies” for a change, we need to think more about others; i.e., how they feel and how we can help them. There is a lot to be said for “paying it forward” when it comes to our actions, words and thoughts. The consequence of just one nice deed or compliment can actually end up touching or impacting the lives of many others in a very positive way. In fact, what might appear to be a trivial effort on your part to create a brighter day for just one person, can actually “bounce-back” greater than you might imagine. Now multiple that by many people. Being nice is a very small investment to make that often leads to a generous return; an ROI none of us could afford to pass up. Niceness is priceless. Use it lavishly.
Judge Not, Lest Ye BE Judged
Don’t be so quick to judge people before you know more facts or before you’ve actually walked a mile in their shoes. Think before you speak. Understand before you criticize. Preconceived notions almost always lead to misconceptions.
Treat Everyone Equally
Extending kindness should never be based upon a patient’s appearance, race, nationality, sexual preference, job title, financial status, or insurance coverage. All patients should be treated equally and fairly. Fairness is simply the right thing to do.
“Exercise Your Niceness Muscles”
In other words, make niceness an everyday habit. Do nice things that have no immediate payoff for you, like verbal appreciation – saying thank you to others; taking an interest in lives other than your own; donating money to charity; passing along a genuine smile; offering an extra generous tip; complimenting a stranger, a co-worker, an employer or employee. If being nicer to people was a daily exercise, like brushing our teeth or combing our hair, none of us would have to try so hard.
Kaplan and Koval say, “The power of nice is not about running around manically smiling and doing everyone's bidding... It's not about being phony or manipulative. It's about valuing niceness — in yourself and in others.”
What Would _____ Do?
Think of someone you know who fits the “nice” description; someone you admire. Then model yourself after them. Although you may want to re-act in a negative way to an prickly situation, stop and fill in the blank to a common phrase “WW_D?”, by inserting this individual’s name. Or, better yet, take it one step further. Finish this statement: “To be a nicer person, I would …” Then, go ahead and do it.
Remember, “It’s nice to be important, but it’s more important to be nice!”