09/18/2026
There's nothing worse than lying to yourself.
I've had people tell me, quietly, not at a cocktail party, "I'd rather drive a nice car than pay for my kids' college." And you know what? If that's true, that's fine. There's nothing wrong with it.
What's not fine is pretending otherwise. The lie you tell yourself about that opens the door to every other lie: working out isn't that important, I don't really need much sleep, I function just as well on Mountain Dew as I do on water. Self-deception in one area of your life quietly cripples growth in every other area. I've seen it enough times to believe it completely.
As a financial planner, I'm not here to hand out my own goals. These aren't my goals, they're yours. Don't tell me what you think I want to hear. Tell me the truth about what you actually want, and let me help you build toward it.
If someone tells me, "I love my job, I never want to retire, I want to work until I'm 70 and spend more than I probably should on paper because I plan on working forever," I don't judge that.
If someone tells me, "I'm not paying for my kids' college, I want them to earn it the way I did and have real skin in the game," okay. That's a plan too.
The goal isn't to live up to someone else's version of responsible. It's to be honest enough with yourself to build a plan around what's actually true.
What's the thing you've been telling yourself you don't really want, but say anyway?
--Nic
GTC 63.8 | Stop Lying To Yourself