10/09/2026
I never expected to hear an ageist remark at the grocery store.
I was in line when I made conversation with a woman who claimed she had tie-dyed her white underwear. When I asked her why, she laughed. “MY generation doesn’t wear white briefs,” she said, after giving me a very pointed look that told me that I could be one of the offenders.
I’m sure you can imagine the look I had on my face! I was just about ready to show her a glimpse of the waistband of my underwear to prove that I wasn’t one of them.
On Ageism Awareness Day (and every day), it’s important to recognize that even if they’re not said with malicious intent, these types of remarks sting — they’re just as harmful as “you look great for your age!”Whether in the grocery store or at the office, they can make us feel inadequate and suggest that our value is rooted in looking and acting younger than we are.
A woman doesn’t need to tear another woman down to feel good about herself. And regardless of gender, a compliment should never be wrapped in an insult! Kind, sincere words about someone without bringing age into the equation are welcome — emphasis on sincere.
Because sometimes, people give a compliment just to say something, but they really don’t mean it. Remember to genuinely find something about the person to compliment, whether it’s their nails, hair, clothes, a piece of jewelry, a presentation at work, how they handled a customer, or their idea(s).
Let this be a reminder: it’s easy to do better by not bringing up age.