09/01/2026
Being too polite can actually hurt your networking efforts at events.
Our CEO, Cord Harper, met with a COO client last week who told him about a networking event that hadn’t gone as planned.
The client went into the networking setting hoping to meet several new people. Instead, he spent most of his time talking with a good colleague he already knew.
It wasn’t that he didn’t enjoy the conversation. He did. The problem was that he didn’t want to hurt his colleague’s feelings by walking away from the conversation. So, he stayed, and stayed, and stayed.
By the end of the event, he realized he’d barely met anyone new.
Cord told our client there’s nothing wrong with ending a networking conversation. In fact, knowing how to do it gracefully is an important part of networking.
For the next networking event, if in the same situation, Cord suggested the client try something as simple as, “I don’t want to take up your whole evening. Let’s reconnect soon.”
It’s honest, polite, and gives the other person a natural way to move on.
There are other ways to handle it, too. The client could introduce his colleague to someone else, mention that he wants to make a few more connections, or simply say that he’s going to grab something to eat or drink.
The point isn’t to rush through conversations or treat people like names on a list.
Good networking is about having meaningful conversations. But if one conversation takes up your entire evening, you’re limiting your opportunity to meet the people you came to meet.
And many people struggle with this.
They worry that leaving a conversation will make them look rude, uninterested, or even self-centered.
It doesn’t have to be like that.
A little preparation can make it much easier. Before your next networking event, have a couple of polite exit lines ready.
That way, when the time comes, you won’t have to figure out what to say.
You can leave the conversation, thank the person for their time, and move on to the next one without burning a bridge.
That’s good networking.