10/31/2024
Today is Halloween. Tomorrow is the Dead of the Day. Yesterday, I received a package from Tabitha Boyle containing memories -- earned, deserved, and treasured -- from our late friend and colleague Michael Touchstone (Julie Touchstone). Yesterday, a dear old friend (Erik Bresocnik) celebrated the birthday-in-Heaven of his daughter -- I'm not sure he understands the scale of impact that *she* has had, but I pray that someday he will. (As I write these words, I cannot help but sigh and cry and think of my childhood friends Jeremy Weiner and his brother Marc, who was all light even to the end.) To quote my friend (and esteemed editor) Jeff Frankel, this piece is "about the people who shaped" us -- and it's not always the ones we expect, or that we even know the best or the longest, or who we have the pleasure of speaking with regularly.
🚒 🚑 🚓 🚁 🏥 is a HARD business -- from the front office to the back, from the field to the tech -- but it is BY FAR THE MOST OPTIMISTIC PROFESSION I have ever encountered, and I love it so. Why? It's not about being a superhero, or riches, or fame, or quite frankly even sufficient respect. It is about impact, quiet and persistent. It is the human embodiment of the FAITH that showing up every day -- any time of day -- will make things BETTER. It is about gritting one's teeth and saying (as my friend Josh Nultemeier once did), even when the money makes absolutely no sense: "But...if we don't show up, someone could get hurt."
In this piece, I reflect a bit on the impact that that ethos had on me, going back to Baxter Larmon, and Mark Wittman, and Bruce Graham, and Mike, and there are so many more than deserve a mention (unfortunately they're not all on social media). This is more than the "Why" -- with a nod to Simon Sinek, who calls himself an "optimist" as well -- this is about what the why DID, and DOES, and WILL DO. And you don't necessarily even see it coming, but it happened. Sometimes it hurt -- a LOT -- at the time. Sometime it was pain and questioning.
But the carrom that is your life banged into the carrom of someone else's life -- whether by accident or by destiny I'll leave to clergy to decide (Rabbi Wolpe) -- but I promise you, whatever you wonder on a daily basis, or how short or long the sum of your days turn out to be, you MATTER. You, my friend, changed the whole world and perhaps didn't even realize it. Happy Halloween. Feliz Dia De Los Mu***os. And please, hug your loved ones. You never know when that day will come that you will be sitting alongside them -- and yet, they cannot (directly) see you. They will see you again... but not yet. 🚒 🚑 🚓 🚁 🏥
Jonathon S. Feit reflects on personal experiences with loss and the lasting influence of departed loved ones.