Susan Coates Coaching

01/28/2026

One of the main misconceptions I see with men coming into my office is their approach to ‘fixing the problem’ of their partner’s pleasure. She isn’t a problem, but her body is different from his. She is also not a p**n film, nor is she the same as every other woman he has been with. And the attention is frankly largely often in a mis-attuned direction and with unsuccessful energetic when men fixate on fixing women.

01/21/2026

Why I loved “Heated Rivalry” and how releasing shame from who we are can be so healing, liberating, and downright s*xy

12/31/2025

A new year’s toast to the hoe in us all—in all its shapes, sizes, and configurations, and a deep bow to everyone who makes being a s*xual being a little more shameless. You’re amazing, and you deserve pleasure! 2026 here we come! 💜💜💜 *xcoaching

12/31/2025

What aspects of yourself would you like to feel more, express more, play with more? How about your innate erotic vibrance that shakes up your identity? So often we keep those parts of ourselves bottled up for a more “appropriate” time. Well guess what? That time will never come. Let’s stop telling our playful expression what to do! Let’s play into 2026! And if you need a play buddy take a look around you and find one, and get it! 🎉🎉🎉

12/17/2025

Boundaries Part 2: learn how to give the gift of good boundaries to yourself and your loved ones this holiday season, despite disappointing people. It’s the gift of you getting to stay enthusiastic in the room of your life and your relationships! *xcoach

12/15/2025

As tensions run high largely around crossed boundaries during the holidays, know that you have permission to honor and communicate your boundaries well and often as a gift to yourself and your loved ones! Here are some ways you can do it. *xcoaching

12/12/2025

Remembering to tend your inner fire over the holidays can be the difference between sheer exhaustion and resentment and staying connected to self in ways that can never be extinguished. Let’s tend these fires so we can stay resourced!

12/10/2025

It’s about time we stopped refering to “s*x addicts”! So many men come to me thinking there’s something wrong with them and then realizing there’s actually just something alive in them that is dying to be expressed! They walk in an “addict”, and then I break the news that they’re actually amazing and there’s nothung wrong with them, and we do the work, and they leave feeling alive and more adorable and s*xually embodied and expressed than ever.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/202512/relationship-journal-draws-line-against-s*x-addiction?fbclid=IwZnRzaAOmsXhleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZAo2NjI4NTY4Mzc5AAEenS9CJ0rkJZsv8ozxzUWSx5vBTyWfSxhEdJvkUin7bPnyw1eeYq0DFZiZydw_aem_L-KEuPBanJiCTRF2zAblDg

A prominent journal, with a long history of publishing on s*x and relationship issues, makes a statement that it will no longer publish articles on s*x or p**n addiction.

12/05/2025

Moms and caretakers can only do as much as we can do, and we often need to pause much sooner, set boundaries much tighter than we do, so we can open to receiving. Here’s to all mommas receiving over the holidays. 💜

12/01/2025

Taking time to be inside ourselves is key to erotic embodiment, because how can you feel all the juicy feels if you are always operating through the external world? When I need to reconnect inside I often just need a few moments to breathe and ask myself, what’s happening here? Journaling is a great way to create that habit, but really, just taking a breath in any moment and asking this question can rebuild the connection. And then when you’re with an intimate you can ask yourself again, and again, and again.

11/18/2025

Stepping ahead and leading the way around decisions that greatly impact you and your loved ones is key—you don’t have to submit to or create consensus with a passive partner enjoys to fruits of their passivity and your labor.

11/12/2025

Discerning who is truly in your corner to beckon your gifts and your shining