05/21/2025
📰 Last few days, it’s been interesting to see people’s reactions to this case unfolding before our eyes, and the reactions of people to the explicit details of it.
Mixed feedback any where from people expressing that Diddy should pay for what he did, to others expressing that Cassie could have “just left.”
Whatever you may think about it, I’d like to point out a fact that people seem to miss.
Part of the Abuse and a tactic of the abuser is the grooming aspect.
Abusers/ Narcissists groom their victims through a calculated process of manipulation, charm, and control, which gradually undermines the victim’s sense of self.
This grooming can occur in romantic, familial, professional, or social relationships.
The process typically unfolds through these steps:
1. Idealization Phase (Love-Bombing / Charm phase)
2. Isolation and Subtle Control
3. Devaluation
4. Gaslighting and Manipulation
5. Trauma Bonding
6. Discard Phase (or hoovering)
This is the Psychological Impact:
• Low self-worth and self-doubt
• Chronic anxiety and hypervigilance
• Loss of identity and self-trust
• Emotional dysregulation
• Difficulty forming healthy relationships in the future
• Long-term trauma symptoms
Cassie claiming that she felt worthless, tried to walk into oncoming traffic, having seizures and discarding herself are the symptoms of the psychological abuse accompanied with the tactics of what Diddy used on her 19 year old self.
🗣️ so the next time you say, “why didn’t she just leave?”- understand that it’s a deep brainwashing that occurs psychologically with a victim. It’s intentional and calculated.
And know that many don’t understand they type of abuse until it happens to them mama, auntie, grandma, daughter- or even themselves. ⚠️
May this case stop shadowbanning abuse and have it recognized for what it is- and help others recognize the signs to get help 🪧
May Justice Be Served.
