Blue Skies Gentle Parenting

06/07/2026

Wonderful news! There is now an entire channel on YouTube for Mister Rogers! You can watch full episodes with your kids and another whole generation can learn how special it is to be someone's neighbor. 🥰 Love this!
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Whether you're revisiting the Neighborhood or discovering it for the very first time, there's a place for you here. Watch full episodes, favorite moments, clips, and Shorts on our new YouTube channel, and experience the timeless lessons that continue to resonate with kids and families today ❤️

05/19/2026

05/10/2026

Happy Mother's Day to All! 💐🌸

05/08/2026

People see an adult child step back from a parent and their first instinct is to find someone to blame.

A therapist. An influencer. A podcast.

As if a stranger with a microphone has more power over that decision than twenty years of being left emotionally empty.

Estrangement. Low contact. No contact. These are often a child’s final cry for mercy.

From someone who absorbed it and absorbed it and absorbed it until the only words left were: please stop. I can’t do this anymore.

That is not indoctrination or “brainwashing.” That is a person using the only exit they had left to get out safely.

I have spent nearly a decade working with ACEIPs. The “therapy made them do it” narrative is one of the most effective ways to avoid asking what the relationship actually cost the child.

I’ll be talking more about healing after low contact and no contact in my free email series. Comment SERIES below and I’ll send you the sign-up.

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04/19/2026

We spend so much time preparing for the early years of parenting, expecting the sleepless nights, the constant closeness, the way a baby needs us for everything.

But what often catches us off guard is that the need doesn’t go away as they grow, it just becomes quieter, less obvious, and sometimes easier to miss.

As children get older, they may not reach for us the same way. They may push back, pull away, or seem like they want more independence. But underneath all of that, the need is still there.

They still need to feel safe with us, understood by us, and accepted exactly as they are. The difference is that instead of needing us physically, they now need us emotionally in deeper, more intentional ways.

This is the shift that can feel hard…

💕 It asks us to evolve too. It asks for more listening instead of fixing, more patience instead of control, more curiosity instead of quick reactions. It asks us to stay present even when they seem distant, and to keep the connection open even when it would be easier to close off.

Because the truth is, older children don’t need less of us. They need a version of us that meets them where they are now. And when we can offer that, when we can stay steady, open, and connected, we give them something that carries far beyond childhood.

We give them a sense of safety, a place they can always return to, and a relationship that continues to grow with them. 💗

04/19/2026

How do we teach emotional intelligence? We validate and empathize with all those emotions that seem insignificant to adults but are BIG to children. This is how you teach a child to reflect on their emotions and process them with a clear head. It’s how we teach them to respond instead of react to their emotions. We do this by holding space for all of their emotions now.

This is a little excerpt from my book….

Finding Your Calm: Responsive Parents Guide to Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation
�This book combines my knowledge of child development, brain science and trauma to offer parents a unique resource that includes lots of exercises, reflections, insights and also… links to additional research, articles and videos that can help support your healing and learning journey.

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04/19/2026

That’s why we try to control other people’s actions and feelings when they do ask us to listen. We think “if I just listen to their point of view, I’m complying and agreeing with what they are saying.” That’s not what “listening” means. When “listen” means “obey” it can be hard for people not to get defensive.

I believe I encounter this paradigm most days, online. People read something I wrote that they do not agree with. They become offended and defensive, even though the post was not personally addressed to them. They made a choice consume the message. Instead of seeing it as a message that they could listen to or not, they saw it as a requirement to obey; “how dare you try to tell me how to parent?”

Well, I didn’t... but when we teach children that the concept of “listening” and “obedience” are so closely intertwined, people can spend their life becoming defensive of those who don’t share their views on everything.

Examples of alternatives to “listen to me!”

“I need you to _____ because ______.”

“You need to _______ because _______.”

“You will need to _______ if you want to _______.”

“I need you to hold my hand because I need to keep you safe in the busy parking lot.”

“You need to brush your teeth because you just ate a cupcake.”

“You will need to put on your shoes if you want to go to the park.”

This is a little excerpt from my book….

Finding Your Calm: Responsive Parents Guide to Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation
�This book combines my knowledge of child development, brain science and trauma to offer parents a unique resource that includes lots of exercises, reflections, insights and also… links to additional research, articles and videos that can help support your healing and learning journey.

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