10/20/2026
I built a $6 million brokerage. Number one in my market. The awards, association president twice.
From the outside it looked like a straight line. Behind it I was coming apart, and I couldn't see why.
I'd outgrown who I was. The business had gotten bigger than the version of me running it, and I didn't have words for that yet.
So I questioned my abilities. I worried I'd lose my place at the top of the market. I worried somebody would figure out I didn't have it all together, that I'd be found out.
And I did what that version of me always did. I kept pushing through.
It worked for a while. Then it caught up with me, and I paid the price.
I lost my marriage, my relationship with my kids, and I went from being an admired leader to feeling like nobody noticed me anymore.
It dragged on for years. Eventually I sold the business, and it took me about six years to put myself back together.
If you're pushing through something right now that you can't quite name, the second-guessing, the if-I-slow-down-it-all-slips pressure, that isn't a character flaw.
It's the same thing I couldn't see. That doesn't mean that's how our next story has to go.
I put the whole pattern into a briefing so somebody sees it earlier than I did. It runs ten minutes.