09/04/2025
The Best Friends™ Approach is a widely respected philosophy that i used while training employees who work with people living with Alzheimer’s disease and other dementias. It emphasizes relationships, dignity, and emotional connection. Here are the core elements:
1. See the Person, Not the Disease
• Focus on who the person is and was rather than their limitations.
• Recognize their life story, values, and identity.
• Approach them as a friend would—with respect, warmth, and patience.
2. Build Trust Through Friendship
• A “best friend” accepts, listens, and stays by your side.
• In memory care, staff and family aim to be that kind of friend—offering reassurance, companionship, and understanding.
• This reduces anxiety and builds cooperation.
3. Celebrate Life History
• Conversations, activities, and care should be grounded in the person’s past.
• Use photos, music, foods, or objects from their life to spark memories and create comfort.
• Small details (like calling someone by their nickname) matter.
4. Prioritize Empathy and Validation
• Meet the person where they are, rather than correcting or confronting.
• If they express fear, confusion, or a “false” memory, respond with validation and comfort, not contradiction.
• Example: If they ask for a long-deceased spouse, you might say, “Tell me about them, you must miss them very much,” instead of reminding them of the loss.
5. Use Friendship Skills in Daily Care
• Communication: Simple, clear, calm, and friendly.
• Body language: Gentle touch, eye contact, and a smile help convey safety.
• Shared activity: Do things with the person rather than to them—folding laundry together, singing, or sharing a meal.
6. Emphasize Joy and Success
• Provide activities that match abilities so the person feels accomplished, not frustrated.
• Celebrate small victories (finishing a puzzle, enjoying music).
• Laughter and humor are powerful tools for connection.😎