09/04/2025
The Best Friends⢠Approach is a widely respected philosophy that i used while training employees who work with people living with Alzheimerās disease and other dementias. It emphasizes relationships, dignity, and emotional connection. Here are the core elements:
1. See the Person, Not the Disease
⢠Focus on who the person is and was rather than their limitations.
⢠Recognize their life story, values, and identity.
⢠Approach them as a friend wouldāwith respect, warmth, and patience.
2. Build Trust Through Friendship
⢠A ābest friendā accepts, listens, and stays by your side.
⢠In memory care, staff and family aim to be that kind of friendāoffering reassurance, companionship, and understanding.
⢠This reduces anxiety and builds cooperation.
3. Celebrate Life History
⢠Conversations, activities, and care should be grounded in the personās past.
⢠Use photos, music, foods, or objects from their life to spark memories and create comfort.
⢠Small details (like calling someone by their nickname) matter.
4. Prioritize Empathy and Validation
⢠Meet the person where they are, rather than correcting or confronting.
⢠If they express fear, confusion, or a āfalseā memory, respond with validation and comfort, not contradiction.
⢠Example: If they ask for a long-deceased spouse, you might say, āTell me about them, you must miss them very much,ā instead of reminding them of the loss.
5. Use Friendship Skills in Daily Care
⢠Communication: Simple, clear, calm, and friendly.
⢠Body language: Gentle touch, eye contact, and a smile help convey safety.
⢠Shared activity: Do things with the person rather than to themāfolding laundry together, singing, or sharing a meal.
6. Emphasize Joy and Success
⢠Provide activities that match abilities so the person feels accomplished, not frustrated.
⢠Celebrate small victories (finishing a puzzle, enjoying music).
⢠Laughter and humor are powerful tools for connection.š