09/09/2026
TELL ME WHAT TO DO!
Throughout years of leadership and coaching, I have encountered people who seem paralyzed by life.
One client, a nurse, struggled with a question many people face: What should I do with my life? As we talked, I tried to uncover interests, values, or experiences that sparked excitement within her. Yet every question led to the same response. Nothing interested her. Nothing inspired her. She claimed to have no passion at all.
More recently, I've seen a similar pattern among young professionals. Faced with decisions, many refuse to make them. They want someone else to tell them exactly what to do, how to do it, and when to do it. When held accountable, their responses often sound like this:
"You didn't tell me to do that."
Or:
"I only did it because you told me to."
The ability to think independently, take initiative, and own decisions seems to be disappearing.
Here's the truth:
No one is coming to tell you what to do with your life.
Too many people spend years waiting for someone else to hand them purpose, meaning, or direction. They sit on the sidelines hoping clarity will suddenly arrive.
It won't.
You don't discover your purpose by sitting on the couch and thinking about it. You discover it by doing.
Our desires are often revealed through action. Purpose is found in the journey of trying new things, taking risks, making mistakes, and learning along the way. Success is rarely a straight path. More often, it is discovered through a series of failures, lessons, and course corrections.
Stop waiting for Amazon to deliver your dream to your front door.
Every day presents opportunities to move forward, but action is required.
Accept this reality: you are already making choices. In fact, you make dozens of them every day.
Your choices reveal what you truly want.
You can:
~Apply for the job or continue complaining about being broke.
~Call a friend or keep telling yourself nobody cares.
~Take the first step toward starting a business or remain jealous of those who have.
~Go to the gym or blame your genetics.
~Make healthier choices or continue feeling tired and sluggish.
~Volunteer and contribute or criticize those who do.
~Perform an act of kindness or focus on how others have let you down.
Life is not about waiting to be told what to do.
Life is not about endlessly searching for opportunities.
Life is about stepping through the doors that are already open.
Life is about creating opportunities that only appear when you take action.
So ask yourself:
Do you spend more Butt-Time the couch than moving toward your goals?
If so, it's time to get your butt in gear.
Commit to doing something every day that moves you forward. Take the call. Submit the application. Start the project. Learn the skill. Have the conversation.
Action creates momentum. Momentum creates opportunity.
And when you consistently choose action over excuses, you'll be amazed at how many doors begin to open.
