We Are Fruit of Life

We Are Fruit of Life Fruit of Life is a Coaching and Consulting Firm for Mothers who have experienced childhood emotional trauma.

Together, we change negative parenting patterns by developing effective communication skills.

06/02/2023

Great Morning!

The beginning of…

Is this truly the first time, or is it the start of trying again? Whether the former or the latter, both can be scary. There is so much that exists in the space of the unknown. Will it work? Will it be successful this time? Will I be better as a result? Is my sacrifice or investment going to have a positive impact on my family? These are all questions that I know lead many people to err on the side of safety versus betting on themselves.

In effect, my question is- what is the cost of your inaction? What is the price you will pay for choosing to do what you’ve always done. The status quo is what has kept you in the same cycle of seasons, even though you know without a doubt that something different is necessary. I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase “the struggle is real” and indeed it is. But, it can be intentional, it can be wise, it can be for the greater good of experiencing the changes you desire.

So now what? Understanding that the work that got you where you currently are will not be the same work or process that is required to get you to your next desired place. To start something new, especially in recovery, there must be a level of self awareness and accountability that grounds you, while offering expansive perspective around what led you to your current state and you owning all of it. Learning the mechanics of how you as a system have operated up to this point and leaning in on how the various parts have functioned or not is essential to your ability to keep starting, no matter what season of life, no matter what stage of recovery.
The ability to initiate healthy and effective communication between the various parts of yourself is also critical to how you integrate healing and recovery with your loved ones.

A process, like many others, always requires you to start-from exactly where you are. It’s the trusting of yourself that will set you apart and move you further along in your journey.

I invite you to learn more about my program Fortified where I utilize my signature process RAM (Relationship Anchor Method) to help mothers and their families who’ve experienced emotional discord and familial friction as a result of the impact of addiction. Together, we work to recalibrate the dynamics of their relationships through a very keen process of self-development.

If you are interested in learning morePlease send me a direct message or email at [email protected]

I look forward to connecting with you!

05/26/2023

As we head into the second half of the year, and I raise my head to gain perspective and take a breath of fresh air, I’ve been able to glean yet another gap that needs to be attended to in our work more diligently, more intentionally, more humanely. Human services, addiction and recovery is a special type of work that requires a special type of person to endure and withstand the longevity required to see success through.

In a process of self inquiry I wonder, to what degree will we collectively work to support individuals and their families to enter into a space of healing, recovery, sobriety, humanity while also neglecting the very people who are in the trenches providing, and serving at such a high level.

Sometimes, time off is simply not enough, individual therapy is not enough, pats on the back and encouragement to just keep going is not enough, even the very communities we lean on are not always enough. However, there has been enough time, faulty systems and crazy expectations that have been placed on the very people that families in crisis lean on.

What about the personal, professional, and familial crisis of the workers?

True to our nature, we show up leaving all of our own stuff to figure itself out-not able to ever truly take a deep dive to ensure that we are fortified in our pursuit of being of service.

With that, I am committed and looking to collaborate and partner with 2-3 organizations/businesses between now and the end of the year to offer Relational Communication and Recovery Consulting and Coaching services- to the employees who have behind the scenes, working with their head down while also going through their own storms in pursuit of helping others. Because their personal development yields their sustained professional success and retention.

I would love to speak with EAP and HR Program Professionals, Private Business/Agency Owners and Corporate Organizations!
You can connect with me directly at [email protected] or by Direct Message.

I look forward to connecting with you!

10/05/2022

Very Excited to be visiting The Reprieve in Alabama this week! Looking forward to serving, learning and sharing about my program Fortified!

Hey hey! It wouldn’t be me if I didn’t post a real regular pic! And it’s giving what I want it to give. So let’s get int...
05/19/2022

Hey hey! It wouldn’t be me if I didn’t post a real regular pic! And it’s giving what I want it to give. So let’s get into it! I’ve been trying to form these thoughts for a couple weeks now…
Since I’ve ceased much of my formal activity on IG life in its most normal form has continued to go on. For me, what that has looked like has been an increase in endurance to fuel the last stretch of a season I’ve been in for so long. A season that has truly brought me to my knees. Whew! When I tell you that the transitions in this current evolution have been moving at warp speed! There’s literally only been time to pour into myself, the kids, my partner and…not s**t else really. This journey we’re walking, this life we’re living is full, oftentimes having more than enough, excess-but interesting enough there’s a collective fear that we won’t have enough-that we aren’t enough. And this deeply affects how we operate with ourselves and others. You see, fulfillment comes from using what you have, not what you’re capable of attaining. Your current season is a prompt to prepare you for the next, but never do we know how long our preparation will last. Will you endure? Or will you fold? Will you take the interstate or the freeway? There’s freedom in your choice. Will you be able to live with it after the decision is made? One thing I’m always going to do is question myself. I’m always going to dig deeper because that’s where the gold is! As I’ve journeyed, especially I’ve the last year I’ve had the pleasure of being with some special people. One in particular is one of my clients. She recently hit her 1 year mark of coaching with me! I won’t tag her but she knows what it is! And let me publicly congratulate her and say she understands her assignment in this life and while it has NOT been an easy or smooth journey by any means, she has endured. Her continuous, fruitful, determined, dedicated, consistent investment in herself has lead her to the door step of her next opportunity. One that literally landed in her lap because of how she used what she already had! As I reflect on our collective journeys, my heart smiles! Cont. in comments.

Well, well, well! An appreciation post of my own damn self! For the sacrifice that I have to think twice about making ag...
05/08/2022

Well, well, well! An appreciation post of my own damn self! For the sacrifice that I have to think twice about making again(cause that’s real and sometimes I actually think deep about it). You know, I was made for the job, I’m an excellent candidate who is carrying out the role in a bomb ass way! Give me a challenge and I’ll always soar. But I’m true Liv fashion I’ll always keep it a buck with you! Just because I’m made for it don’t always mean I want to do it. Perseverance of individualism while also in pursuit of my own assignment has been treacherous! But It’s a beautiful thing when you understand and accept purpose and life seasons. My life is fruitful, abundant, full as f**k and most definitely dynamic. And I’m still co creating with the creator. What a time to be alive! Happy Mothers Day to ALL MY REAL ONES!

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11/22/2021

It’s Goin Dooowwwnnn! Starts this afternoon! Tell somebody to tell somebody to tell somebody else!!!
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Happy Friday! The calendar opens this afternoon! Please share with those mothers who you know could benefit from this se...
11/19/2021

Happy Friday! The calendar opens this afternoon! Please share with those mothers who you know could benefit from this service! Thank you to everyone who has shared and supported! Y’all are true thoroughbreds!

Happy Wednesday! It’s been a minute but this post is well worth your time to read!  I’m GIFTING FREE 15 min calls. Why? ...
11/17/2021

Happy Wednesday! It’s been a minute but this post is well worth your time to read! I’m GIFTING FREE 15 min calls. Why? Because that’s my business! But also because I want to give back and continue to steward the gift and blessing that was given to me! So, that looks like you signing up and telling your mama homies that they have an opportunity to get their parenting frustrations off their chest! To finally feel heard and understood. To finally step into a space of power being able to fully and confidently speak about what’s on your heart and mind without the fear of their reaction or your emotions driving your desired result. Whew! Understanding HOW to communicate in most intimate relationships will always be worth the work and oftentimes the stress that is created as a result of a lack of communicative ability. But also, the other parties listening skills. Bloop! You will receive 15 min of power and a communication blueprint for what you need and want to say. I will integrate parts of my signature framework RAM so that you always have a foundational place to speak from. That sound good for the FREE LOW LOW! My calendar will be open beginning on Friday with a start date of Monday! I look forward to serving you!

Great Monday Morning to you! I know it’s been a minute but let’s get into it! Over the weekend, my partner and I had a r...
10/25/2021

Great Monday Morning to you! I know it’s been a minute but let’s get into it! Over the weekend, my partner and I had a repeat conversation and watched a great podcast interview! This post is about the conversation! You see, one of our long standing points of contention is his initiative to help out more with the household/parenting duties( i.e. waking his ass up on the weekends). Much of this is due to his upbringing and what he saw his mom do to successfully make the home operate like a well oiled machine! Ok, so boom! Some years ago, we established and understood and came up with a plan that worked. Kinda, until I observed that he ebbed and flowed until needing to be reminded again of his part and contribution. Cause 👏🏾the👏🏾almighty👏🏾dolla👏🏾will 👏🏾not 👏🏾be👏🏾the only 👏🏾source 👏🏾of 👏🏾your👏🏾contribution! Do you feel me? Coparenting is exactly what the word says it is. We CO CREATED so we gon CO PARENT! Many of our parenting conversations are extreme successful because we want the same things for our children, we may have different approaches, but we always arrive at the same conclusion! I’m grateful for that. But when it comes to the support with what some might consider small but are truly so large because of the effort and time, there is lack. And it ain’t a lack of ability, it’s a lack of desire. And that, is not something I can help him change. It’s totally up to him. So, while I ain’t one to nag. Being that I do have to circle back the convos have gone from me explaining why it’s important to me and our family to a strong ass boundary being set with the foundation of it being that when you help me, I’m in better position to show up for the kids. Pick up some of the load, Sir… You didn’t have no problem depositing it! 😝Our partnership truly works and there will always be kinks to work out. And if all else fails again, I know how to speak in a language that is guaranteed to get him on the good foot😜. MAMAS, SOUND OFF! And daddy’s, y’all 👀real suspect out here! 🧐What say you? Mamas, Tell me, what have been your greatest parenting challenges?

10/13/2021

Because sometimes we get lost in the world…Life’s pressures are real but so is your intuition and your desires for how you choose to show up. Always operate from a place of what’s important to you. And never compromise on that!

Happy Thursday! Don't come for my neck, just hear me out!Listen, I understand the sentiment and the intention behind it,...
08/05/2021

Happy Thursday! Don't come for my neck, just hear me out!
Listen, I understand the sentiment and the intention behind it, but it's old y'all. And here's why I say this.
When has anything or anyone ever truly been normal? Who or what have you put your trust in to determine for you what's normal? AKA what's societally acceptable?
Since 👏🏾when👏🏾have 👏🏾you👏🏾been👏🏾following 👏🏾someone👏🏾elses👏🏾 rules or doing what they do because of what they've shown? Remember we don't get to see the process just the end result. Cause for real for real, none of our journeys or process to get through the journey is normal.
Race, politics, family dynamics, finances, the education system, luxury lifestyle, Mental health, freedom of speech, freedom of choice, spirituality, PARENTING! Aint neva been normal, just merely accepted over time as being such.
If it's something you want to experience, then do that and if you believe that others should experience it too, invite them. But be mindful of your desire to normalize a life experience. By definition,Normal means (conforming to a standard, usual, typical or expected)I think it dulls it down. And we are not here for that! And quite frankly, it teeters on the edge of a collective external desire to be accepted. And I think we've all missed the mark on the things that truly should be normal or expected. Like police brutality towards AA Men and Equal pay for women. But I digress...
Learn to accept yourself, your choices and the results of them. Normalize that.
Thanks for reading my rant. Be mindful of your quickness to jump on all the bandwagons.

Happy Tuesday! So let's talk Black mothers and how they "discipline"their children.  You see I believe in correcting our...
06/15/2021

Happy Tuesday!
So let's talk Black mothers and how they "discipline"their children.
You see I believe in correcting our children. Absolutely we should. But there's a process to it just like everything else in life- when you want to achieve something, you have a goal in mind and then you work towards it. Ain't s**t in parenting happening overnight.
Allow me to share this perspective. Think about it as a grown woman. Grown,meaning that you have evolved to a certain place in life, you have mastered certain things, you have achieved certain things, you have met and exceeded several different milestones when you become grown. But not without the challenges of the process of getting there. And in that process you have to 1st become aware of the issue/behavior that needs to be corrected in order to achieve said goal.
When you 1st become aware of an issue within yourself or a pattern of behaviour that you need to correct- you correct it and then you address and analyse what will be required to sustain the corrected change.
But this is the part where s**t gets thick because even in the correction, before you achieve mastery or that goal, you must continually address that there will be people, places, things and resonating patterns of behaviour that will continue to trigger the very thing you are trying to correct. And it is in this continual process that your discipline is developed. The discipline of your mindset, the discipline of your actions and the discipline of operating from your value system is how you get it right. It's that part that gets imparted into our babies when we think about discipline.
So focus your time energy and effort into developing the process of discipline and watch you and your kiddos flourish!

Here's your process:👇🏾
1. Awareness of problem/pattern of behavior
2. Correction and Analysis
3. Discipline of the mind and actions

I am accepting private 1:1 clients and have the capacity for 2 women who are ready to journey into and out of the deep to improve their relationships with themselves and their children! You most certainly can slide in my DM!

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