01/30/2026
The #1 question I get asked as a 2x surrogate mama is always:
“Was it hard to give up the baby?”
And the honest answer is this —
you can’t give up a baby that was never yours.
From the very beginning, you meet the intended parents.
You learn why they can’t carry a baby on their own.
You share updates with them. You celebrate milestones with them. 🤍
You see ultrasound photos with features that aren’t yours.
You don’t set up a nursery.
You don’t buy baby clothes.
You don’t imagine taking a baby home.
Your focus is always on one thing:
seeing the intended parents finally hold their baby.
I’ll be honest — during my first journey, I was nervous.
I didn’t know how I’d feel after giving birth.
But there was no sadness.
She felt like a niece — love and care, without the instinct to take her home.
What I did feel grateful for?
Sleeping in the hospital.
Sleeping through the night at home.
And putting my energy into my new role — pumping milk and supporting that baby in a different way.
Every journey is unique, but for me, it was filled with clarity, purpose, and peace.
If you’ve ever wondered about this part — it’s okay to ask 🤍
My DMs are always open.
