12/03/2025
Video 10: Boundaries is Love.
Most of my life, I was a people pleaser, helper, and compromiser. I believed that was my way of showing love to those around me. However, my lack of boundaries became my biggest problem, as I thought I was doing the right thing by accommodating and compromising my needs to appease others.
Meanwhile, some people saw it as weakness and took me for granted. On the other hand, I was quietly showing people my love language while abandoning myself and my needs, hoping that one day people would see my worth and give me the care and love I deserved. What I learned is that boundaries are actually the first step of self-respect and self-loving practice. I learned that my lack of boundaries is not the way to prove my loving nature. “I don’t need to lit myself on fire to give others warmth.”
It was one of my transformative experiences to finally say no to people who hurt me and took advantage of my kindness. It was the first time I learned not to abandon myself and finally learned to give myself the love and respect I was hoping someone else would give me.
Ask yourself, when was the time you compromised your boundaries, hoping someone would appreciate you? What happened when you finally set boundaries?
I love to hear about your experience with setting boundaries.
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